Would they have to convert to Islam, would their life totally change. Can someone please give some advice so I can tell my friend and do you think it can work. Also the guy is older than her. Also they met online and he is already talking about marriage even though he has not seen her yet. He also wants to leave Malaysia. Could he be using her is their stories of Muslim men using foreigners for personal gain.
2007-02-02 11:23:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
you ask alot of questions, first i would not get lost in the confusion. in order for the marriage to take place the women would have to agree. . and if she dose then it is up to them what relgion she would follow . I can be wrong but i think islamic men can marry out of relgion as long his faith is first and reamain first.but its up to the womem esp cause she is a westerner. she holds all the cards hoopefully she is not stupid enough to marry this idiot.
2007-02-02 11:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey cash;
I would tell you friend to forget it. Not having met this person who is already contemplating marriage is very suspect.
Especially seeing that he is in a foreign country. He may be using marriage as an attempt to escape into this country. How is your friend going to know what kind of person he is? Your friend does not know this man's character, his looks, his likes or dislikes. Or even if he is under investigation by his own country or is on somebodies radar as a person of interest. This is a recipe for disaster.
Your friend would eventually have to convert to Islam. Some countires like Malaysia, women are mere possessions. To be treated however the husband wishes. She will have no personal or civil rights. He could divorce her for almost any reason. If they have children, he could take them to his country, and she would have absolutely no recourse to bring them back to the U.S.
In Islam, women are not treated the same as men. She has only about 1/3 the credibility in Islamic courts. She would not be able to go outside without his permission. She would have to cover herself when in public, and walk behind her husband. She would not be able to drive a car. She would basically become a slave,
an object. In Islam, the only thing women are useful for is sexual pleasure and having children.
I would do everything I could to persuade her to change her mind. Some Muslim countires are very repressive. If she moved there, it would be extremely difficult to leave. The authorities
take the side of the male, especially in cases where children are at issue.
There are too many horror stories about the treatment of women in Islamic countries. Please tell her NO, don't do it!
She would have a life of misery, brutality and humiliation.
2007-02-02 11:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. No she doesn't have to convert to Islam.
2. Just because someone is Muslim doesn't mean they are religious.
3. If he talking about marrying a woman he has never seen, he is probably just trying to get to the West on a marriage visa.
4. Using people to get visas is not a Muslim thing. It's just a pathetic thing.
2007-02-02 11:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Midoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women should always be leery of someone regardless of their faith.
You should ask yourself what the culture this man is from is like. How do these men treat their women. If you're uncomfortable with the idea then I'd follow my first instincts.
It isn't only Muslim men who use foreign women for personal gain.
Tell her to protect herself. Best bet is NOT to get into a situation you're not sure about.
2007-02-02 11:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should not put this on "MUSLIM MEN" but "MEN WITHOUT A VISA". Alot of men do this and its not only muslim men. I think your friend should really see what this is about. If she loves him than she wouldnt hesitate to help out a person that she loves, But becuz its probably not outta love than she should not jump into something she's not ready for.
2007-02-02 11:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Worst case scenario, she'd have to convert, he'd come here, he'd treat her like garbage, she'd want a divorce, he'd take the children and run back to malaysia and she'd never see them again. It doesn't have to turn out like this, but sounds like he's a little too anxious to get over here from your description. Tell her to read this:
http://www.stolenchildren.net/
2007-02-02 11:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to islam
you need to ask
www.islamqa.com
2007-02-02 11:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋