Shy guy in need of advice?

Question

I'm 17 years old, and a Junior in high school, and I still haven't gone on a date or even asked a girl out. For you recovering/previously shy guys out there, how did you get over your shyness and just go for it?

Answer 1

I'm not a guy, but I've been shy in the past, it's no longer a problem though. I found my confidence 3 ways. 1) I talked to people I didn't before, it made me uncomfortable but I got over it, you have to confront your fears. 2) Show who you really are to another small group of people you didn't know, it branches out and you talk to more people in the end. 3)With asking people out, just just have to do it and fake your confidence, but don't mix it with arrogance! No girls like that.

Girls the same age as you are more mature than boys their age but a lot are quite focussed on the hot confident guys, when you grow older you accept the great qualities in people. Like you are shy, but as time goes by girls realise the hot guys are vain and self obssessed they then realise that shy people have great personalities that are hidden which makes it even more special.

Everyone can find confidence AND dates but confidence is the key, sometimes you have to fake it sometimes. I promise you it gets easier and you no longer have to fake it. Take a gulp and just do it after you've had a chance to GET TO KNOW HER. You need to know your crush before making a move, and if she has no time for you then she's not worth it, don't change for anyone. From friendship stems a good relationship. I have to tell you though a lot of girls find shy guys very sweet and would like to date a nice good guy but save that till a time where they can cherish them.

Every 17 y.o is self-conscious in a different way, it's natural, even popular people secretly doubt themselves!

So I don't know what I'm trying to say now but, just be what you can be, don't resort to no 3 unless you have to....and ummm, I dunno, be confident because chances are you are spectacular!

PinkMyst - Be comfortable being you. You need to love yourself before anyone else can. You have a hot guy within you, everyone one has hotness within them UNLEASH IT!! = D (P.S sweet guestures get you your woman)

Answer 2

Well I'm 14 years old, and what you can do, first is to tell her who you are, indirectly, just try first to get to know her, and then to have a little chitchat, and she should like you, if you have the same ideas, and then, you should feel more confident about yourself.
Be carefull that girls don't like guys who are chy, nor on the other hand, too direct, and a bit aggressive.
Tey to make your best, and show her who you are, and talk about your qualities, what you can do, you will feel comfort building up, the further you get to know her.
try to tell her how you feel.
Don't be too scared, just find some confidence in you.
Find out what she likes.

Answer 3

when talking to a girl you like, try find her at a time where she is alone and strike up a conversation. it's so much easier without her friends around. if you haven't talked to her before, just grit you teeth, don't think (ignore what you're thinking), and go up to her (it takes balls). if not, then you'll regret it later.
if you have a class with her and you sit close to her, give her simple remarks (like compliment how well she did on a test) and turn it into a conversation.
after that ask her for her IM screenname or phone number or something

Answer 4

Just go up and talk to him. Strike up an interesting conversation and maybe end with you giving him your number or suggesting that you two should hang out at a movie or finish your conversation over dinner/ lunch. I wouldn't suggest you touching him because that might make him uncomfortable. Good Luck!

Answer 5

if u like a girl u can do what the guy did that liked my cuz. i thought it was really cute and sweet. he was really shy his self. he brought flowers to school and a little stuffed bear with a card. that said will u go out with me. there was something else but i cant remember that. i think it was maybe let me know by this time or day. it was dropped off at the office so u dont have to give them to her face to face. girls like that kinda stuff to. wasnt that sweet of him. and my cuz did say yes by the way!!

Answer 6

The answer is in the question. You just jump in and go for it. I used to be really shy and I would try watching what people who were very outgoing did and tried to act that way. Eventually I was not acting and it was who I am.

Answer 7

If I were a boy, or you, I would just wing it on someone I like. I mean it's worth a shot. If they go out with you, great. If they don't try it on someone else. Everyone has that special someone out there. But they may be so far away, they never meet them.

Answer 8

Accept that failure is ok. Shy guys and girls always sit back, afraid to put themselves out there because they might fail and get embarassed. But that's what the outgoing guys and girls do. They get turned down all the time, but they don't let it bother them.

Answer 9

you know, the guy i like is very shy, and so am i, so i would just love it if he would just come up to me and start talking to me. hey, whats the worst that could happen? just start out talking to the girl you like, then after awhile, ask her out! the worst that could happen would be that she says no. i wish you the best of luck <3

Answer 10

You have to get the girls attention by tripping her in the hall or something. When your walking down the hall and another chick is walking toward you...push her in a class room or something then dont look back........worked for me.