I met this guy and we hit it off. We had great convo--the works! After a few weeks I had sex with him and we began having sex on the regular. Unlike when we first met, we don't go out or do anything but we talk everyday. Most of the time when we get together we hook up and then nothing. The thing is he is always concerned if I am messing with other guys (I'm not). He's convinced that hes not the only one that I'm with but I don't understand why if we are not in a relationship. He calls to make sure that "we're still cool." Also when I go out with other guys he's convinced that I'm sleepin with them, asking me what they look like or what they're about. Or he'll ask why we don't go out. I'm confused because he basically told me we aren't together but then he'll question me like we are! Please help........KD-Indianapolis, ID
2007-02-02 11:04:48 · 13 answers · asked by kdelicious13183 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds to me like your guy is sleeping with other people but dont want you to...most often ( and i know from experience unfortunantly) when the guy begins accusing you of sleeping around or starts quizzing you down about other guys, it is because he has a guilty conscience and is on edge about getting caught or thinking that maybe you are doing the same thing as him...if i were you, i would stop sleeping with him for a while and see if he is "still cool"...if he blows you off then it was just for sex. if not ... that will for sure show you his "true colors",,, dont get to close to this guy...guard your heart..protect your feelings and check him out first...God bless...
2007-02-02 13:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is probably worried about STD's if you are sleeping with other guys, condoms are not 100% effective. Further, if he can have you sleeping with him exclusively while he sleeps with other people, it is the best of both worlds for him. He hit the jackpot. But if you are sleeping with other guys you may leave him and the gravy train will end. He doesn't want a good thing to end and may be coming attached to you as well.
2007-02-02 11:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by LDR02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably sleeping with someone else... When guys cheat they more than likely accuse the other person of cheating... And if you’re not in a relationship why you are telling him about the other guys you date? It's none of his business, if he's so worried about you sleeping around then he should make sure you are dating each other exclusively...
2007-02-02 11:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Prissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy says whatever you want to hear, but clearly wants to be in a relationship with you. You should think whether you want that, too.
If you do, then go for it.
If you don't, then it'd be a good idea to stop having sex.
2007-02-02 11:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men tend to treat us like watering holes, property. They are dogs and don't want to share their territory with other dogs. It's not about you as a person, believe me.
Get as far away from him as you can. It's not because he wants to make you his "girl" or because he has "feelings" or any of those sweet fairy tale excuses. It's about possession and power and ownership.
There is nothing wrong with what you are doing, you simply need a safe adult male to do it with. Be careful in your choices.
2007-02-02 11:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you shouldn't be having sex with him if he doesn't want to make you his. We all have to learn the hard way sometimes and its VERY easy to get caught up in your emotions verses reality. Really, I don't blame him though. Your giving it to him and he probably doesn't want you giving it away to others plus that could be dangerous for both of u. Grow Up.
2007-02-02 11:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by kayla k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wonders if you're doing other men because you do him without being in a committed, monogamous relationship. He sounds like a jerk, and you're not acting very respectful if you're just having sex with him. What's to be confused about? He's using you, you're using him, and you don't have a real relationship.
2007-02-02 11:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude the friends with benefit relationship can never work if one party has feelings the other one doesnt lol...he needs to know if he wants to have the sexual relationship he cant dip into your business ...and if he want to have a real relationship hes gonna have to step it up...be straight up with him ....why is that we can get naked and have sex with people ...but cant just tell them how things really are..Good Luck
2007-02-02 11:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by LeiMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only because of the fact he seems at you does no longer advise he fancies you,he must be looking as he thinks your down good gruesome.If he needed a female pal and fancied you i'm particular he could have asked you out.
2016-11-24 19:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by madill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur both using each other.. but hes like getting feelings for you.. better talk it out ether ur together or not .. and if i were you i woudl see what i want from this "realtionship".. but dont hurt him.. if its just for the sex and he is having feeling, break up with him...
2007-02-02 11:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by mindunderconstruction 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋