My WHOLE family is mad at me?

Question

Everyone is mad at me today! i am a freshman in high school, my brother is in the 7th grade. today, my brother comes home complaining that these kids are cheating off of him on tests. its happened on several occasions, and he LETS them! which is why i see that he is to blame, and no one else. well, after he threw a hissyfit, screaming and running around, getting loads of attention, EVEN MORE THAN USUAL, i came up with an idea to help him. the idea was to talk to the teacher before the next test, explain that kids were cheating off him, and then fudge up his test. the teacher would then see the same mistakes on the other kids tests! good idea, right? Wrong. i was the only person in my house who thought so, anyway. so, then after dinner, i get to wash the dishes, for the 5th time this week, and my brother has done it? NONE. so i refuse. my mom starts getting angry and my dad starts to scream, and i yell back, and before i know it, everyones screaming at each other and its all my

fault! now everyone is mad at me, and my brother started this whole mess! if you ask me, he should be the one to dig his way out of this BS. its not my fault! how can i prove to my family that it isn't my fault, and that they shouldn't be mad at me?

i'm well aware that i might be coming off as immature, but you guys don't understand, you don't know me. i have a lot of crap to deal with at school too, but i don't try to ruin everyone else's day! my brother throws fits all the time, and just cause he's younger, he gets the attention. i'd like more attention, but it just doesn't happen.

its just a new term just started and I'M STRESSED TOO! i don't understand why he gets all the "i know, honey"s and the "its okay" i just get the "What am I, the complaint department?" or "do you think i don't do enough for you?" or "is your life SOOO hard? or "do you think you're the only one with problems?" or "i don't have time for this right now."

IT'S NOT FAIR

Answer 1

It's your brother's fault as well as the kids looking off his test. The idea of the faulty test isn't a good solution, but you have every right to try to make a suggestion. Hey, you're just trying to help. I'm a freshman in high school too, and I know how hard it is. Coming home to screaming isn't any good after a hard day of classes.
You're brother should just talk to the teacher, in case she's too dumb to notice that they have all the same answers, and explain to him his side of the story, have mum go in too.
The dishes isn't that bad though. Do them. Ittle make mum happy, she has a hard day too you know.
I do agree it's stupid that you get "punished" for putting your two cents in.

Answer 2

But dear it is your fault.....why ? and I quote "i get to wash the dishes for the 5th time this week, and my brother has done it? NONE. so i refuse. my mom starts getting angry and my dad starts to scream, and i yell back"

You were disrespectful to you parents and refused to do the chore assigned to you. That is why it is your fault. Next time, watch what you say and how you say it, AND do the dishes. If there was a problem with distribution of the chores, when you are DONE is when you discuss it, that way your parents will take you seriously.

Sorry you didn't get the answer you wanted, but you were acting like a baby. Try to remember, you are the child in the house, not the parent. You do as you are told period.

Sorry your family didn't see your idea in a different light.

Answer 3

omg, i know exactly how you feel right now. my parents don't care what my little brother does, they even buy him booze and let him smoke pot and not do anything else. he doesn't work, he doesn't even know how to drive yet, he's going to be 18 and has no ambition. heck my mom even makes him and brings him food like he's 5. then they pay him every week for nothing. my mom does his chores. but yet, when i was his age, i was working. ever since i was 16. now i'm 20 and still working my butt off, come home and do my chores, that btw i don't get paid for. then they complain about me being up at night watching movies. i use headphones for god sakes. plus it's basicly part of my job to watch movies, and i work all day so night time is the only time i have. but no, my brother can stay up all hours into the daytime w/his friend drinking and smoking pot and not doin crap and that's all fine and dandy. i tell you what, i can't wait to get out of here. and when i do, i'm moving far away, then i'll come back in 20-30 years and say "i told you so" when my brothers still living at home w/mommy and daddy with no job.
their fault, they'll see one day how much this treatment screwed him up.

my advice: same thing has been going on in my home for years. i have ignored it all this time and try to not let it bother me. the youngest will always be the baby, and parents tend to choose their side even if they become a serial killer or crackhead. i try to keep my presence low and stay out of the way and do what is expected of me, and not raise hell about it, i used to but gave up a long time ago because it never does any good to argue about it.
but, we do have a system for the dishes. we do turns, and we keep track of who's turn it is on the calander. like say i just did the dishes yesterday, so i put my name on the board. next time it's his turn (even if my mom will do it for him because he's a baby) we haven't had any disputes over who does them in a few years. maybe suggest that idea, it worked for us.

Answer 4

Actually I thought it was a pretty good idea. I deliberately failed a few tests to get the lazy, popular people to stop cheating off of me in school. Boy were they mad when they failed, but they stopped copying off me too.

Freshman in high school, hrm. Isn't it time to adopt the "Why should I care" attitude? I think I had mine fairly well polished by that point. Anyway, it's not all your fault. If your little brother wants to act like a screamin queen and your parents can't keep from acting like screaming queens, why is that your fault? In the future though, I'd just let him wallow in his own issues if he's going to cause crap like that.

Answer 5

I'm the mother of 3 boys and my youngest can work it sometimes and I have to catch myself because I'll yell at the middle child when he's probably not doing anything. This is not the answer you're looking for but, your personality probably differs from some of the members in your household and it may irk them because they don't know how to handle you. They love you and I admonish you, don't try to be anyone else but you, however, you may want to start watching for cues to see when your folks get aggravated with you. You came up with an excellent solution but you were probably deemed as being a smarty pants. See where I'm going? They were going to whine with your brother and you in essence, stopped them and they got pissed. There's an old saying, "Study to be quiet". You're smart, but you'll learn more with your mouth closed...and there will be peace in your home.

Answer 6

it is your brothers fault for letting it happen and u had a good idea. as for ur parents. i myself never went through that but i see my cuz going through it. the oldest one has to do everything and is blamed for everything adn the youngest gets to walk and no matter what she does they take up for her. it not get any better when u get older. the oldest is 20 and her sister is 17 and its still the same way to this day. let them be mad at u. they will get over it. ur brother is a spoiled brat and always will be. if ur the type to brake it down to them then do it. have to stand up for urself sometimes even if it is ur parents. u may get in trouble but if it makes u feel better then do it. when u get older say out on ur own u can make choices that u dont have to go by what they say. if they cant hear u out maybe u can talk to ur grand parents! hope that helps!!

Answer 7

first of all hi I'm a fresh man too and i get what Ur going threw this week has been my best but what can i do? i think that u should not say anything to Ur family let them talk to u wait until there not as mad. my little brother has been getting on my nerves to, but he is in the sixth grade. Remember that Ur family loves u no matter what and that Ur not the only one with family problems. like going to skool isn't enough.

Answer 8

You know what I am a mom and it's hard being a parent. I have three boys, and believe me sometimes I think WWIII is getting ready to take place. I think that you are right to give your younger brother advice. You were trying to help, being compassionate, but your parents obviously were already stressed about the situation. I would try talking to your brother when he's by himself, I would also talk to your parents and tell them that you were just trying to help. Hopefully they will come around.

Answer 9

I hope you are not jealous of your brother,maybe if you read your question you will see why i said that regardless that should be between your brother and your parents/if he has a problem then it should be left up to your parents to solve it although i am sure they are thankful for your input just explain to them you were trying to help and it was not your intention for everyone to get so angry your suggestion was only to help

Answer 10

i feel bad and i will try to help in any way i can. for a week or so, dont eat as much, dont talk as much, have no emotions to be shown except depression. spend more time alone and in your room. if your parents tell you to come sit with them, say that you have "studying". anyways, act all depressed and stuff and give your parents that feeling. soon, they will be concerned and ask ou what's wrong. it always works!! then tell them the whole story and how you shouldn't be blamed. i hope it works!!!!! good luck. tell me how it works out. (oh, about that dont eat as much thing, when no one is around, sneak some food to yourself, just dont starve yourself!! lol) well, good luck!!