my friend and her family are muslims. she really wants 2 date tho and it's hard 2 believe dating is against her religion, she says there r loopholes but i just don't get any of it.
2007-02-02 10:24:09 · 9 answers · asked by ally 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Of course dating is OK in Islam. It is also OK for your friend to date a married Guy in Islam
2007-02-02 10:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by OpenMinded 3 · 0⤊ 7⤋
man and a woman are not allowed to be alone together, and any physical contact before marriage is forbidden. Hence, Dating is not permitted in Islam.
Allah has prohibited girl/boyfriend relationships in the Qur'an
"(Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time, when you have given their due Mahr (bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage), desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal wedlock) not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends. ... ” - Al-Ma'idah 5:5.
If a Muslim man has the desire and willingness to assume marital responsibilities, and he doesn’t have anyone in mind, he might ask his friends, family, and relatives if there is a lady that might be suitable for him among their acquaintances and relatives, and then the couple can meet with their family members.
As a result, many marriages in the Muslim world were traditionally arranged marriages, though this is not a religious requirement. However, both couples can not be forced to accept an arranged marriage and if a man likes someone (with the intention of marriage) that he knows from work, neighborhood or acquaintances, etc… he shall propose to her.
Islam also encourages Muslims to marry persons for whom they have special feelings and are comfortable with. Thus, Islam recommends that potential marriage partners see one another before proposing marriage. Explaining the reason for such a recommendation, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said:
“That would enhance/foster the bonding.”
However the prospective couple shall not meet in private, this might lead to extremely unwanted situations, as Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said :
“Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan is the third among them” (Reported by At-Tirmidhi)..
At all times, Muslims should follow the commands of the Qur'an
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. "
In conclusion, Islam lays its social structure on the basis of a permanent relationship between a man and a woman in the form of a family.
Consequently, to preserve this marital relationship, it forbids all forms of temporary relationships between a man and a woman. Pre-marital relationships in Islam are not considered respectful for neither the man nor the woman, nor is it constructive for the concept or the building the family or the Islamic society.
2007-02-02 15:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by BeHappy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are no "loopholes". Dating is not "forbidden" but it is seen in general as not good. In respect that one thing leads to another. And in Islam it is better for a man and a woman to be virgins when they marry. If she is a Muslim why would she want to date someone? OK so you don't get any of it, does not mean it is not valid. I don't know if you are male or female but on the day you get married would you not feel something special for your future husband or wife if you knew they saved everything for you even there first kiss? And vise a versa would you not feel something special to give them the same gift in return? What is so wrong with saving yourself for your future spouse? i just don't get it...
2007-02-02 10:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
yes it is. if you plan to marry someone you can get to know them before marriage but if you just want to date, then i'm pretty sure it is not allowed.
2007-02-02 10:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by E.T.01 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's illegal
2007-02-02 10:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by Nora 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you date you get stoned. Not the good stoned either, the bad stoned. Sort of like a bad first date.
2007-02-02 10:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by great gig in the sky 7 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Its not allowed, its forbidden. She can introduce you to her family, she can sneak out , depending on how strict they are...she can only sneak around
2007-02-02 10:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
no, only thinking for oneself is illegal in Islam, sort of like being a Democrat.
2007-02-02 10:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
yes it is but most girls do it
2007-02-02 10:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by zozo 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋