Does your child have a difficult teacher? and how do you deal with it?

Question

(I know 2 Q's at once, sorry all)..My daughter is in the 3rd grade, her teacher reminds me of someone I had in the 70's (way before they had the "understanding" they have today. )One of the things that aggravates me is her demands that I sign everything. And I mean everything!! One example for you, My daughter was assigned to do a book report, no problem, notice sent home that i am supposed to sign that "I realize my child has been assigned a book report due Feb 5th"( this was assigned last month)"and I agree to it. then a place for me to sign. I didnt sign and send it back, she came home today with the same letter, NOW ON BRIGHT YELLOW PAPER!! with red pen..lol and a big circle indicating where I should sign. I dont want to hate this person, but for 3rd grade?? ugggg

Answer 1

i think its funny that u have to sign everything. that there is over the line. in my book that has nothing to do with responsibility and note home is fine to let parents know they was doing a report. but i do know where u are coming from. my kid is in kindergarten and her teacher drives me up the freaking wall. like the firat day of school we signed everything in the class room and gave all the stuff to the teacher. then i get a letter sent home saying my child cant use the computer. i had to sign another one. then that was over looked. then i was talking to some other parents and i was finding out stuff ffrom them i didnt even know about, like there wasnt any school, they neede to bring this to school this and that. so i wrote a letter to the teacher asking what was going on. simple letter is my daughters mail box being skipped, shes not getting her mail etc. you would of thought that was the end of the world fro the teacher. i just wanted to know. parent teacher confrece never knew about it until another one was sent home up in the right corner written big in red. this is your second notice. acted as if it was a bill. i signed it but i also wrote on it WOULD OF LIKED TO HAVE THE FIRST NOTICE!!! then i got a note saying have my child look for the book that she never broght back to school if not it would cost $6.75 for a 7 page book. i wrote a letter asking the name of the book. it has been a week and the teacher still wont tell me the name of it. stuff like that gets under my skin. i do wrote smart remarks back on some of the papers if there is one on them in the first place. my husband laughs at me but he lets me go. or if i dont think something is write i tell them. but over all she dont get smart with me anymore. i just be nice as possible at first. i dont let my daughter see me ticked off or anything like that. and i have no problem with paying for a book if my child did lose it. i dont have no books here and if u cant let me i m not paying. parents do forget to sign stuff. and 3rd grade kids still dont really know ways of hinding stuff and whats bad and good. just think school years almost over. but over all i think my daughters teacher is good for only in the teaching field for her second year. shes young and has to learn yet.

Answer 2

God support you, lol i am a mum or dad of a 15 yr old who for his entire secondary profession has been a royal anguish within the bum to teacher and employees alike. He is wise but an underachiever preferring to selected his neighbors over be taught. I haven't any thought how you take care of these kids. The discipline the place i live is negative and tons of mother and father just let there youngsters do what they want without any repercussions . I in my view believe the entire school approach needs revamped with extra imaginative and bodily demonstrations in the school room to seize the children's creativeness. I think youngsters gain knowledge of in different approaches and anticipating them all to take in expertise the equal manner is a mistake. Touching on educating to real lifestyles circumstances could aid these kids. Most significantly Ive observed academics hate to be flawed about anything which is unrealistic to kids and that's why they cant relate ,if teachers make a mistake they will have to say so apologise if imperative.That might be a gigantic lifestyles lesson that these children want in lifestyles it's going to also make you as a teacher human and extra approachable. High-quality of good fortune.

Answer 3

Okay, okay....she does sound a bit controlling, however, the best way to deal with this teacher is to just play by her rules and sign away. This teacher could end up playing a role later in your child's education (like giving her a recommendation for an accelerated class or honor club) so try your best to stay on her good side. Keep your sense of humor, though....it's refreshing. Your question made me giggle because I've been there too with teachers. : )

Answer 4

It's all about accountability. This way your daughter or you can't go to the teacher on Feb 4th and say you didn't know about the book report. It also makes you a part of the learning experience, you know what is going on in your child's classroom, keeps you in the loop.

As for dealing with it.....first, don't let your daughter see your frustration about this, it will undermine the teacher, which can lead to bad behavior, lack of respect, and poor effort in class. Second, just do what is asked of you, so its a bugger, you could have a teacher that is much worse. (no notices, no second chances, and flunking kids)

There are many many parents that have no involvement with their children's education, and that is a crying shame. This is one way to engage these parents into the process. It opens discussions for parent and child, and hopefully this will lead to better academic performance, and greater involvement in the child's life. I think we all know a parent like that...works all day, kids in daycare after school, dinner, television, and bed, no conversation, no idea what the child is learning in school, no connection with the kid - that is until something bad or unfortunate happens, then they are all up in arms over 'why wasn't I told' or 'when did that start'.

So, take it with a grain of salt, and appreciate what you have.

Good luck.

Answer 5

This is your complaint?
You're joking, right? The teacher is responsible for 25 children a day and you are responsible for signing papers for one child and you are griping?? And if your child hadn't done the book report, and failed you would have been screaming "my baby shouldn't have failed I didn't even know she had a book report due!"

That is not a difficult teacher it is a thorough and conscientious teacher. I have 4 kids, so I sign alot of papers - and I have never griped once. Every paper that my childrens teachers send home to me allows me to be part of my childrens education process and helps me to hold them accountable for the assignments that they have to complete.

Maybe the teacher wouldn't have sent home a paper with red pen and bright yellow paper if you had signed the first one! How humiliating for your child to have to get that paper because her mother can't take 5 seconds to sign a stinking note for her daughter. You get an F .

Answer 6

I volunteer at my daughter's school every week and exchange email with her teacher and her principal regularly. I sit in on my son's classes (with the consent of his teachers) and help out with his after school club.
The more time I spend at the schools, the more the faculty and I build relationships with each other. This way I know what's going on with their classwork and special projects.
And I am able to understand their personalities. Most of the teachers are wonderful people who truly love their jobs and the students.
However, there's always going to be the exception. My son has one teacher who is new to the profession and is trying to assert her authority and, as a result, can be a holy terror! I simply maintain my composure and deal with her in a very matter-of-fact way if I feel she is not acting in a fair or professional manner. So far, I have been able to act on my son's behalf and get positive results with this woman. (But we're still biding our time with Miss "C.")

Answer 7

Just trying to stay on top of things, Really is it that hard to sign your name on work that is completed, this shows the Teacher that you might actullay be involved,with looking over your childs school work. Sorry but I have three girls & don't see the BIG I mean little problem here.Lighten up and enjoy the fact you have a Teacher that cares.

Answer 8

Well, to give you my honest opinion, that really isn't a big deal. Lots of kids don't do projects and don't tell their parents that they have been assigned one, and then they do poorly in class. Third graders, or some of them, aren't really old enough to understand the consequences, so having you sign a paper saying you know that isn't really hurting you, and its probably helping some parents who wouldn't know otherwise. I would suggest that you don't refuse to sign it again, because the only purpose its serving is embarassing your daughter in front of her school mates. Just deal with it, its really not that bad.

Answer 9

Im a student myself in high school. there could be some really mean and strict teachers. just sign the paper. i mean you do understang your child has a book report. thats just stupid. a letter stating you know your kid has a book report. oh wow.

Answer 10

I don't see a problem with it. Kids at that age seem to always either forget they have homework or just don't do it at times. The teacher is just trying to keep you informed on the progress in the class as well as making sure your an involved parent. Find something else to complain about...