it's all in a days work as a mum with 5 kids, I know, but my son takes the biscuit, he is in the army, 23 years old, based in Germany, but is on a years posting in the uk, I let him use my home as a base, he came back expecting to rule the roost, I'm seperated from his dad,it's been hell, anyway, there has been a lot of stuff going on, long story, so will try to be brief on the latest, his girlfriend fell out with her mum, so he decided to almost move her into my house, he only gives me £20 a week, she was here almost 24, 7, it was starting to drive me crazy, he has been away for 2 weeks apart from last weekend, but in that time had her here non stop, eating my food etc, so when he came home confronted him calmly told him I wasn't happy with the situation, he got all stroppy, instead of trying to make things right between me and him he went straight to hers, then he came back here 2 hours later and picked up his bags and went, no bye etc, i'm hurting, what do I do next?
2007-02-02 10:17:51 · 11 answers · asked by anne k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you did right....it sounds as though he's used to getting his own way and felt insulted when u put him in his place...stick to your guns and don't let him gain the upper hand...I would ring him and talk quietly to him, ask him if and why he thinks your being unreasonable..chances are he wont listen because we know how stubborn they can be, especially boys (young men!) but it's wort a try...he might sulk for awhile but i think he'll come round in the end...he will even learn to respect you more...
Good luck!
2007-02-02 10:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Susie2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have children so don't have "hands on" experience. I can remember being 23 though and looking back, I was quite self centered and thought the world revolved around me. He doesn't like being told off so has gone to his girlfriends house to hurt you. You are right to say something, when I was his age I had already left home however, as soon as I started working, my parents expected me to contribute to food and bills as long as I was living under their roof - If I didn't like it, I could leave. It really was a simple as that. I am sorry that I don't have the experience to offer any real help but keep your chin up. He will calm down but remember, you are not being unreasonable to expect a contribution.
2007-02-02 10:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sometimes you have to let them go, so they find their own way. It's ok to help out - when needed, but sometimes they don't realize when they are taking advantage of you. Don't continue to be an enabler, that doesn't do them any good. Some things are going to hurt, but if you've done a decent job with raising them...they will find their way and see the light, eventually returning with an understanding heart. The best to you!
2007-02-02 10:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Elvis lives! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go.at the end off the day he is 23 years old.as they say,he wont always have his girlfriend but he,ll always have his mother,the least little thing that goes wrong in his relationship he,ll be running straight back to you,and he knows you,ll always be there with open arms no matter what.it is hard with 5 children when your on your own,i know because i have 5 children and on my own with them,but am just dreading them getting older,mine is only between the ages off 5 up to 13,so i suppose i have a lot to look forward to.good luck with your son,but defiantly he will come running back to you.
2007-02-02 10:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my... I think he needs some time to think about it. Call him or text him, explaining how you feel and telling him you love him and don't want to argue. Do not write an essay, be short. Do not accuse him, raise your voice or break down in tears. Just tell him how you feel. Then hopefully he will think about it and come to his senses...
But his girlfriend... what kind of person is she, moving into other people's houses and living on their expenses?!
Hope it works out for you!
2007-02-02 10:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i left home once because things got bad but was back in a few weeks and made up with my mum
give him time he will come round
all the best hope it all works out
2007-02-02 10:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by angies_angel_eyes2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a can tell your upset........ kids do things cos things aint going the way they planned..... and its his g/f he wont want to lose her....but at the same time he will know you will always be thee for him...... leave it a few days and let him calm down cos you dont wanna push him into saying things that could end up hurting both of you........ and then contact him and say how are you getting on and make light of the matter and take it from there ........ i hope it all works out for you
2007-02-02 10:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go love - he'll come back soon enough. You have to let them go and learn via their mistakes. They all mess up one way or another - just be there for when he needs you xxxxxxx
2007-02-02 10:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by starlet108 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him stand on his own two feet he will realise how wrong hes been once he has to pay his way
he will be back
2007-02-02 10:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"No Respect" ------For you.
Get a grip and sort it.
You only have one life.
I know its short! but to the point.
Think about it.
Cheers, and good luck.
2007-02-02 11:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by oop139gg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋