how can i tell my bf that?

Question

there are other girls out there and he doesn't have to stay with me. i'm not perfect like other girls. but this is me. it hurts me when he mentions other girls. but if he doesn't want to be with me he doesn't have to. how can i say that to him??????

Answer 1

you know, i was in the same situation.. my boyfriend was the type of guy who was everybody's friend and everyone loved him, especially the girls.. he was THAT.. let's say, charming. when the two of us got together, i thought EXACTLY what you thought.. that there were just other girls out there who were better for him than me, prettier, smarter, funnier, more outgoing girls than me... girls who were THISCLOSE to being perfect, unlike me. and i said it straight out..

he told me that he didnt care if jessica alba asked him out because he saw in me what other girls DONT have. whatever i thought they were, he said i was better... he didnt want perfect because no one is & what he saw was what he wanted and what he needed.

now, with you.. i think alot of us go through that stage of "why me?" because we're in shock that we found a guy so CLOSE to being perfect that we think to ourselves that we probably dont deserve them, but you know what, you DO... and they deserve your love. my boyfriend told me that if i had left him to find some other girl who "I" assumed was better for him, he would've been better off being single because they couldnt love him the way i did. this being that if i had left him, he would've thought that he wasn't good enough for me. you know?

i mean just imagine for a second that you are your boyfriend and you loved this girl but she just thought she wasnt good enough. you obviously wouldnt agree with her and the first thought that would come to mind is, she's not interested, right?

well i know you're thinking for the best for your boyfriend by wanting him to find someone "better" for him.. but what if you ARE the best he can find.. i mean, he might even think that there are other guys out there better for you but if he gives into that fact, then it's sorta like he's giving up on you and it would hurt you know?

i soon came to realise that even if there were better girls out there, i was the one my boyfriend chose and so i was the lucky one. i might not deserve him, but i have him and it just makes you realise that you dont have to be "perfect" for your boyfriend to love you.. i mean really, no one IS perfect.

i reckon you should treasure what you have, because trust me, you'll realise soon enough that you're perfect for your boyfriend.

if he didnt want to stay with you, he wouldnt have spent his time with you and would probably have already left, but he knows there's something in you that's really special =)... trust me, dont say it to him, it'll hurt him and in turn i think you're hurting yourself. look on the bright side.. he loves you for who you are despite what else is around him and i think that's REALLY special.. dont lose it =)

Answer 2

If he is in fact mentioning other girls then it is obvious that he isn't looking at you anymore hun. Maybe it is time for you two to go on a break. Or if you feel it is better, maybe a break up. There are other girls out there... that is a well known fact... but there is also another well known fact that there are tons of men out there who are waiting for that chance to treat you like a queen. Sit him down, let him know exactly how you feel.. you won't get anywhere unless you do so... I too once was in your seat...

Answer 3

Why do you think other girls are perfect? They're just as imperfect as you feel that you are. You don't really have to tell him anything. I'm sure he realizes that he can suggest a change if he feels he needs to. When he mentions other girls, is it as though he wants to date them, or that he was just talking to them? If he expresses interest in dating them, then there's your opening. But if he's just talking about normal interactions with them, then stop worrying. I realized long ago that even the prettiiest, thinnest girls, are always insecure about something!

Answer 4

Exactly what you said but less down on yourself.
Just tell him "I am who I am and you can take it or leave it, it hurts my feelings when you talk about other girls, if you're so interested in other girls then maybe you should go find another girl".

Have some self-respect.

Answer 5

umm wow that kinda hard. ok just sit down wid him and say I need to tell u something. tell him taht u really dont like it that he talks bout other girls around u and that makes u feel like he dont like u anymore and it hurts. Then tell him that if he doesn't want to be with u then dont be with me(Because thats a waste of ur time and love u kno) hope everything works out!

Answer 6

You should clearly mention him about the hurt feelings you get. If that doesn't work try to do same thing by mentioning other dudes. If he loves you then he will get jealous.....

Answer 7

Say it like you just said it to us strangers. You are too hard on yourself though. If he didn't want to be w/ you I think he would end it. Just cause you don't think your perfect doesnt mean he doesnt think that. All guys talk about other girls even if theyre happy. Its just their nature to.

Answer 8

go up to him
tell him there are more fish in the sea
or that when he talks about girls it hurts your feelings

Answer 9

Tell him its time you both started seeing other people but you would like to remain friends.

It's the kiss of death to all relationships...aka "The lets be friends speech".

Answer 10

you should tell him it hurt your feelings when he talks about other girls because it feels like you don't matter to him. ask him if he doens't want to go out with you