I don't really get on with my Partner's Family. My son who is nearly four has just been to my partners sister's house for dinner. My Son has never said that 'I don't make nice diiners' before and always tells me that he's missed me when ive asked him. He's never had dinner at her house before and this particular sister and myself clash. He's just informed me after been there for the first time without me and his dad that i don't make nice dinners and when asked wether he's missed me i got a very blunt reply of 'NO'. What would you make of this, considering i don't see eye to eye with my patners family? Honest answers please!!!!
2007-02-02 09:47:16 · 21 answers · asked by fairylandk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nothing... He is only three years old, for Chrissake! Let him have an opinion.
2007-02-02 09:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
As an experienced mum with a grown up family I just cannot believe the answers you are receiving . For goodness sake your son is FOUR YEARS OLD! PLEASE don't approach this situation as you will only come over as totally immature. First of all his aunt, who like it or not she is probably either made something special or bought in some sort of treat owing to him being there. Nearly everyone with a visiting child would do this even if it was only getting a special chocolate biscuit or sweets from their cupboard. He probably didn't miss you as he was enjoying himself and if he knows he is only on a visit and has a loving and secure mum at home why should he? You are making a situation that simply does not exist and only storing up trouble for yourself in the future. Take care I understand it is not easy being a parent but you cannot allow yourself to get paranoid as this will reflect on your child.
2007-02-02 18:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking into consideration this has happened only one time, or unless you have susbstantial evidence that your son is being brainwashed, I'd chalk it up to "kid-antics" -- mood or perhaps he's discovered how to press your buttons. Until our children mature enough to understand the difference between right and wrong, they will unintentionally make comments that hurt us, without putting any thought into the end results. That's why they have us as role models, to love and correct them, where necessary. Although, if this type of behaviour becomes habitual, only after visitations with your partner's family, then I would be concerned and confront your partner to discuss/resolve the matter, peacefully. The last thing your child needs for his/her emotional well-being, is to be "caught in the middle."
Hopefully, it's nothing at all, for your child's sake!
(Mom of 3 )
2007-02-02 18:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cara 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honestly i think he was probably either tired or in a bad mood and was just being a little awkward [acceptable for a 3 year old] ! i think if he had heard them talking nastily of you he would have got upset with them not you, in fact that may be what put him in a mood but doesnt want to say what he has heard although only 3 they are still remarkably alert to things like this, if you do let him go again note his reactions towards you and if the same have a gentle chat to him.
2007-02-02 19:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your kid has learned the art of pitting one person against the other. This way they are trying to out do the other in showering with attention so they can be the "good" one. Sounds like its time for some counseling before it really gets bad.
2007-02-02 17:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by briardan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big mistake in letting ur kid go visit without supervision
she most likely shower ur son with attention and love while all the time making comparisons between u and her
stop ur son from going to visit alone
it will solve the problem
2007-02-03 00:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by jahblez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take any notice this time but if it happens again have a chat to him ask him what you've done wrong or if any one has said any thing to him about you and, talk to your partner
2007-02-02 17:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if at your home he gets heathy salad and so on..then they have egg chips and beans...well there could be an honest answer that is not a slur....so maybe its just he got what he wanted that day, as for the rest...absence makes the heart grow fonder..so stay away
2007-02-04 13:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me as if your partners sister is filling your son,s head with crap about you.if it was my son i would,nt let him go again because god know,s what he will come out with the next time he comes home after being at her house.
2007-02-02 18:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you let him go alone? if you don't get on with the family but want to make an effort just make sure you're there next time then you can keep an eye on him.
2007-02-02 17:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm it sounds as though your partners family may be planting little seeds into your sons head.I would make sure if he goes again that your husband at least is there with him too.
2007-02-02 17:51:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋