will i ever forget that?

Question

im 22 ,when i was 4 years ,my mum traveled for a month and left me with my aunt ,we had a man who work for the family ,my aunt used to leave me with him and he take me to his room and slept with me ,i still remember that and it bothers me alot ,i keep having dreams of being raped ,its been 18 years but i still remember that ,im ill with depression now ,and im taking medication and im seeing a shrink ,i dont know will i ever forget that? can i have somekind of brain wash to make me forget?

Answer 1

So sorry to hear that..
Yes.... you should see a psychologist!

Answer 2

No. You will never forget.

I've been there, for me it was my uncle. I wish there were easy answers, but there aren't. And chances are that your shrink doesn't know how to help you deal, most shrinks just don't have the experience or training to deal with childhood sexual abuse.

Even if you could forget, it wouldn't solve your problems. Hypnosis is the only way I can think of to erase the memories, but the emotions that the rape caused, the fears, the depression, and all the other problems, exist in your subconscious separate from the memories themselves, and by now have taken on a life of their own.

Someone else wrote that you can transend the memories. They may be right, I've met others who have reached a level of healing where the memories no longer interfere with their lives. Mine still do.

The reason you are dreaming about it now is that your subsconcious believes that it is time for your conscious mind to face the memories and emotions and begin to deal with them. I don't know if it will be the same for you, but i supressed my abuse for years, and I need to actually allow myself to relive the memories before I could begin to heal. It likely at this point the medication you are on is interfering with your healing. It keep you from feeling the pain, and unfortunately that pain is necessary, like the pain of setting a broken leg, or lancing an infection. If you put off the pain, put off lancing the infection, it only gets worse.

The most important thing you can do is find other people who have had similar experiences. People who understand what you're going through, and what you went through. You may meet people who try to tell you to shove it aside and get on with their life. They're in denial. There are several support groups for people like us. The one I know best is called Survivors of Incest Anonymous. I never joined, because I'm not comfortable with the ten step program theory of a higher power, but I know a lot of people it's helped, and even if the program doesn't work for you, it's a good way to meet other people.

I hope some of this helps, and if you need someone to talk with, feel free to send me a message, and we'll chat.

Answer 3

Unfortunately you never will forget. You went through a very traumatic time...and it sounds like you have ptsd (post traumatic stress disorder). But with therapy, a lot of work...the hardest part, you can begin to heal. You will find that the dreams get farther apart and you won't be so concentrated on those awful times. You will find yourself changing from feeling like a victim to being a survivor.
You can do this. Give yourself time, and be compassionate to your child self.
Best of luck.

Answer 4

I'm really sorry for what happened. I know what you are going thru because it also happened to me, and is one of the worst memories I have. You need to continue with your life, don't let this bad memory control your mind. You need to forgive the person that did this to you and everybody involveded. This kind of things shouldn't happened at all , but they do, the best thing you can do is to tell your problem to somebody that cares about you, it will take half of the pain you are feeling right now, it will be hard and embarrassed but don't feel ashamed because is not your fault, try to move one, trust me, you can.

Answer 5

i don't think you will ever forget no matter how much you want to and I don;t blame you. But you need to come to a middle ground with it inside yourself. So you can continue your life and not let it drag you down. There is much in life to enjoy. Be strong. It is what made you who you are today and maybe in the future when you get ahold of this you can help others to continue on with life. Use it to make you strong not hold you down. I wish you only the best. stay strong....

Answer 6

You know bad things happened to many of us when we were little. We could not do anything to protect ourselves and the responsible adult wasn't there. You can dwell on it for the rest of your life or you can choose to let it go and have a good life. That is what I chose to do many years ago, and I am glad that I did because I have made it a happy life. The best to you.

Answer 7

I dont know if u will forget it. I hope u dont and I hope u do cuz it will sharpen ur mind but its horrible. U should tell the police if u know his name! or ur aunt! I hope u get better! U know wat I would do? I'd get a boyfriend and try 2 be happy. Try 2 see the bright side again. Keep seeing that shrink!

Answer 8

Ask about hypnosis that may help or some type of meditation. Cruel people cause all kinds of problems.

Answer 9

Something you desire to be other-than-it-was will continue to plague your thoughts.

You can work on the problem or you can transcend it totally. Transcending anything depends upon acceptance.

Answer 10

you can try to be hypmotized. It worked for a few people I know who were trying to get past something tough in their lives.