Here's the thing: my girlfriend and I have been going out for quite some time now. I'm 16, she's 15. Things are going great; we truly love each other. Recently she's saying that she wants to have sex. I want to, I really do, but I'm not totally sure. She's planned it all out to make sure she won't get pregnant, but...I'm not totally sure if we should. Thoughts? Opinions? Please?!?
2007-02-02 09:41:17 · 28 answers · asked by Not done with love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not to sound like a mom here but there is no rush. Maybe if you just let her know you are attracted to her and you want to experience that one day with her but you want to wait till the time feels right she will understand.
Im not saying you dont truly love each other but your still young along with the grown up relationships comes grown up problems.
Tell her she is special to you and you want to wait. I know your curious but honestly you will have your time
2007-02-02 09:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by jerry w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well don't do anything that you don't want to do. I understand that yall love eachother but you are both young and you may not be ready. If you are uncomfortable about it then say so dont just agree to it if you really dont think its a good idea. It's a very big decision to make and you really have to put some thought into this decision. It's something you do when the time is right and your age appropriate bad things could happen i mean you might lose the good relationship that you are in, she might get pregnant and you will both become parents, can be very emotional, people might start talking about you. I mean there are very many things that you should consider and think about before you make this decision because it is a big one.
2007-02-02 17:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by cheergirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aside from the good advice others have given, check into the laws in your state. Here in Iowa 16 is the age of consent. You said she's 15, here that could get you placed on the sex offenders list for the next ten years. This has serious consequences on where you can live too. So don't be in a hurry, wait until you are both ready without pressure from each other.
2007-02-02 17:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAANNNNN......
When in doubt, leave it out! Especially something that serious. Sex should be a sure thing for both of you. If even one of you is in doubt, which you obviously are, then it's not the right time. Besides, you're both so young. You should be going out on dates and having fun, not making serious commitments. It sounds like you guys have a great relationship going, don't ruin it.
As for her, I don't care how much planning she's done. There is no 100% guaranteed way to avoid pregnancy other than not having sex. Additionally, if you really wanted it as much as you say you do, then you guys would have done it already. The fact that you haven't yet means that you don't want it as much as you think you do. Take the time to enjoy young love! There's plenty of fun to be had with your clothes on, trust me.
Good luck, and I wish you guys the best.
2007-02-02 17:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by puckfreak02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok but know this . . .
even if you're safe, she will still get paranoid and think she's pregnant
by quite some time in other words is probably under a year, so in reality that's not really a whole lot of time . . . maybe in dog years . . .
should you ever break up, not saying it will happen so don't get mad(yeah all the adults are laughing at this one ;) ) it will be harder to get through it
there is no 100% sure fire way to have sex and not get pregnant, there's just unsafe and safer, since abstidence is the only sure fire way to not get pregnant.
don't want to burst your bubble but will not give confirmation that your decision is good, just giving you information.
p.s. check out planned parenthood, they can guide you better to having a safer sexual experience if that's the road you are going to take.
2007-02-02 17:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No birth control is 100%. Even using multiple methods of birth control, YOU CAN STILL GET PREGNANT. Also, keep in mind that bc doesn't prevent STDs from being transferred -- and many people who have STDs aren't even aware of it.
You are young, and you have your whole life ahead of you. You may think that you're ready now, but generally, people who are dating at 16 don't stay together forever, so don't fool yourself into thinking that's a good reason, either.
Being a virgin is a very noble thing -- it takes self-control and commitment, something which a lot of people don't have a lot of -- and believe me, future girlfriends and your future wife will respect those qualities.
Don't let anyone talk you into something that you'll regret later on.
2007-02-02 17:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it as you are so young and you sound as if you are not 100% sure. Why not have foreplay and then you can take it a little further in a few months by then you will properly know what each one of you like. It is also against the law as you both are under the legal age.
2007-02-02 17:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by kittiebann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to make sure she doesn't get pregnant is NOT to have sex! Ask yourself these questions, how would you feel having to go to your parents and hers to tell them she's pregnant? Are both of you employed to support a child? Do you have a car? If you aren't sure, then don't do it. I know your feelings for each other may be strong, but you are both young and sex can wait.
2007-02-02 17:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Shes "planned it all out to make sure she won't get pregnant" that sentence is the key.........There is absolutley no way to be 100% sure you won't be a not so thrilled teenage father except for not having sex at all.........since you both seem like no matter what people tell you your gunna still do it, i think you should just do things that are sexual that arent sex................Even if u dont listen i thought i'd say my piece
2007-02-02 17:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by Agent Buckwald! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should really think about it...don't do things that you will later regret. I am 17 and I haven't done anything yet, why? because I think of the things that can came out....It's a really difficult decision to make, if there's pressure, don't let it get you.
Just do it when you feel ready and do what you think it's right boy....
2007-02-02 17:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Claudio 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋