I have lately began to start having strong feelings towards 2 of my close friends who happen to be female. I think I'm crushing on them both. But if this is not a crush, then what am I feeling here? Is this "friendly" love that I'm feeling for the both of them? I'm so confused. I dunno. Someone help!! Thanx.
2007-02-02 09:37:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, actually It is possible to like or even love two people at the same time. I know others on here will tell you that it isn't and that you cant love more than one but that's only because they have never experienced this.
You see, it is possible because every one is a little different as far as what it is about them that you like.Even though its not always like one is way better than the other, its just that there is a very special connection in each of them that you adore to the deepest of your heart and soul.
Some will tell you to choose which one and live with it. I am going to tell you the truth.Don't choose! Let them do the choosing.Why? Cause for the fact they are both so great to you that you can see yourself loving them both that your real ability to search out whats best for you is not going to be there.They are probably both feeling things for you weather either one would admit it to you or themselves.Its very likely,so all you can do is love them both and still keep them both dear in your heart and the one that sees you as overwhelming in her heart as well will show it to be so.Its then that the fate part will evolve.And then as far as the other one goes,She will still be a great friend and very dear to you,and what better person to be a true friend than one that is almost good enough to love like a partner.
2007-02-02 09:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about if these feelings occur in isolated moments or they linger. I'm going to assume it's the later and you are "crushing on them" both.
I think there is something holding you back, but it's not confusion over what your feelings are, but what having these feeling could mean. It could mean a risking friendships, could mean risking rejection, etc. Sometimes it's easier to dismiss our feelings for something more trivial rather than explore what they could mean.
Spend some time accepting how you feel and then come up with a plan from there.
2007-02-02 09:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Aris28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A crush is usually superficial. It sounds like you've developed such good friendships with these 2 that your feelings for both of them have started to become more than "friendly" love. A good way to tell if it's more than "friendly" love is if you have a strong physical attraction to them as well. That's usually one of the defining differences.
2007-02-02 09:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by asleep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to like more than 1 girl(s). I would say that you like them because you would feel weird thinking about this if it was friendly love.
2007-02-02 09:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by PAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen you can like as many girls as you want at a time. but you just cant date them both at the same time!!! never cheat!!!!! but the feelings you are haveing are common all guys who have girls that are really close friends usually end up liking each other and they adventually go out!
2007-02-02 09:41:31 · answer #5 · answered by iloveleamons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time.
Too bad it can not happen with both of them at different times.
Remember... when in doubt it is best to say little and do less.
Then things will just work themselves out.
One of them will stand out in the next few weeks and the one you should be with.
Remember... when in doubt it is best to say little and do less.
Try it... it works. Just always be nice to people.
2007-02-02 09:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by CTM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's possible to like 2 people at once...it's possible to like 20 people at once.
Just don't date 2 people at the same time, that would be bad.
2007-02-02 09:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by em<3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I like WAY more than just 2 girls.
2007-02-02 09:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by thatoneguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a crush. You are attracted to both of them. It is not love though!!! You cnat love two people at once.
2007-02-02 09:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwww........How sweet honey!.....it just depends. Right now it may feel like crush, but it may just turn out to be friendly love, or maybe you'll begin to like one more than the other.....it's all about time babe!
2007-02-02 09:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋