If your daughter got pregnant as a teen would you let her keep it?

Question

I mean 13-18. If your daughter got pregnant and she wanted to keep it would you make her get an abortion or put it up for adoption? I'm not talking about your daughter getting raped or something and you not wanting her to deal with a rape baby, but she got pregnant from her boyfriend or a guy she choose to sleep with.

This happened to my mom's friend. She was like 14 and her and the father wanted to keep it but her mom made her get an abortion. I always thought it was sad.

It's not happening to me, I was just curious on peoples opinions on this subject.

Answer 1

wow hard choice to make!

how can one learn there mistake how would that child feel if they were adopted? would your teen be hurt by having this kid!
I think if no harm would come to your child by haveing a child then adobption so she can go through that pain and not have that reward! then later down the road when the kid hunts her down then she can explain how she was iresponsable... that's hard to do i watched my aunt do that to 3 kids none of us knew she had.. they held a grudge too! so her not having money to raise them was no excuse!
i think if she is "smart enought" to act like an adult then she needs to make that choice on her own!
don't let her use abortion as birth control!
and if she is under 18 you should have her one it! she is going to have intercourse it is human nature! protect her while she has insurance (if you got it) if not then buy a chasiy belt!


and aboartion for birth control that can be costly! i am not for or against aboartion unless it is used as birth control!
but oh well

Answer 2

This isn't an easy question. Having a child is a life changing, life defining event. To only be a child having a child means so many sacrifices and lost opportunities ie schooling, a career, overseas travel and all those things are young adult should experience before settling down and having a family. Sure, some people do all these things with a child in tow, and what superstars they are but it's really really hard. So a parent of a youngster ie 14 is thinking long term with adult eyes and an adults experience. A 14 year old simply can't appreciate the long term implications of becoming such a young mother. Every situation is different and everyone has different thoughts, opinions, morals and religious beliefs.

Answer 3

I got pregnant when I was 18 and my father told me to either have an abortion or be written out of his will. I kept my baby. He's 21 now. When my father died my siblings got a LOT of money. I mean a lot! I got nothing but I still had my son. More important to me than money any day.

My daughter is pregnant now, she's 19. Emotionally she's not ready. She lives on the other side of the country with her father. I don't know how that's going to work out but I hope it turns out ok.

I wouldn't force my child to have an abortion or give it up for adoption. I was adopted by two very cruel people when I was six weeks old and was tortured until I left home at 14. My step sister got pregnant at 18 and my father and her mother MADE her have an abortion they told her the same thing they told me. Then they divorced so when my father died she got nothing anyway. I remember her always crying about it. It was very sad.

Answer 4

I got pregnant at 17. Both my parents wanted me to have an abortion but said they would support whatever decision I made because it wasn't their body, their baby, or their decision. A couple months later I gave birth to my daughter and my parents feel in love with their first grandchild. 4 years later my mom died from a heart attack. I believe everything happens for a reason, if I had made the decision that my parents wanted me to at the time, not only would I resent them and myself but my mom would never have been a grandma.
My daughter is now almost 10, I would be so very sad for her if she followed in my footsteps but I would encourage her to make her own decision. I doubt that I would support an abortion ( but would still be here for her if she choose to have one) because keeping the baby and an abortion aren't the only options. My mom wasn't very open with me growing up, we only became close and able to communicate with each other after my daughter was born. Hopefully, I'm able to break the cycle with my daughter and if she chooses to become sexual active, I pray that she knows she can come to me and get her on birth control of some form. I am a firm believer in giving teens an easy way to get birth control - they are gonna have sex with or without.
Now and days, a parent cant force a minor to have an abortion nor in many states can they stop it. At least legally speaking.

To all those saying the parent will be raising the child. Find another reason to want your child to abort your grandchild. Yes, my parents helped me financially (for only a few months until I graduated high school) but I raised her.. they just enjoyed being grandparents. Families help and support each other - thats why they are called families.

Answer 5

It is a hard decision. To keep it would mean that the parents of the parents (that sounds weird) would have to support it because the baby's parents are too young to support it. Babies can be extremely joyful, but also alot of work. They wake up in the middle of the night, you have to change their diapers, and they get fussy etc., etc. So I would put it for adoption, unless the grandparents want to support the child. I would never do an abortion however. She did decide to have unprotected sex, which would also make me want to make her keep it.

Answer 6

I think adoption is the best option. The baby deserves the very best. A two parent home with a loving mom and dad is the best way to go. Their is a HUGE waiting list of married couples wanting to adopt a baby. A teen has way to much on their plate to raise a child. I know it has been done before, but I have to side on what I think the best possible option for the baby. That is stability!!!
just my opinion

Answer 7

Why would you force someone to go through the agony of an abortion?? Not just phycially but mentally and emotionally this will cripple a person. Especially if it wasnt their choice. I think thats awful If a woman chooses to get an abortion then thats her choice. But forcing it is only going to lead to a broken heart and a horrible relationship between the mother and the daughter.

Answer 8

I got pregnant when I was 17, and shortly afterwards I left my parents house. The decision to let me go was very hard on my mom, but she knew that I was basically an adult (or as the state would see me; I definately wasn't) and had to traavel down my own road. The decision to have my daughter was supported by my entire family, and they gave me enough support to last a lifetime after I left my daughter's father, who was worthless. My mother knew that raising her daughter would entail painful experiences such as this; I ended up as a single mom, but she was always there for support.

Answer 9

I never think it is right for a parent to "force" a decision..............as this will always be in the child's mind.
This really depends on the relationship between the parent and the tween/teen...... are you ready to help raise the child? MAKING a child have an abortion is probably not a good idea but they need to understand what they are getting into as well.
I had an abortion at age 20 becaise my school involved clases where I could not be pregnant, but had my first and only at age 39...........turned out good for me but not the right decision for EVERYONE.
Please pray on this and make the right decision.

Answer 10

I have wonder how true this is considering all the young lady would have to do is not agree to the abortion and tell the clinic that she was being coerced. Even if she seemed like she was being coerced, most clinics would not have performed the surgery. It's not up to you or me as a parent because her body is not my body, but certain rules and regulations would be strictly enforced if she kept that baby and kept living under my rules. Actions carry consequences.