i kno a little gurl who has been telling me some things that have been making me wonder if she is in an abusive situation. She told me one time she went to the bathroom at nite and her parents hit her becuase she had the light on in the bathroom. And i found her diary a couple weeks ago and i read some other stuff that sounded bad to me(i didnt kno the diary was hers at the time btu ltr she foudn it sitting on the counter and said it was hers) i kno some parents spank their kids as a form of disicipline but this sounds bad to me. what does it seem liek to u?
2007-02-02 08:55:05 · 9 answers · asked by dancerbabe32506 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
Call Child Protective Services and let them find out. If there is no abuse, no harm done. Follow your conscience, consider if you were that little girl, would you want someone to help you?
2007-02-02 09:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found myself in a similar situation, the one thing I can tell you is go with your gut feeling. You can make the call anomously. I was going to wait case I wasnt sure but my gut told me to do it, and I'm glad I did. The child was in a worse situation than I thought afnd I was told that had I not made the call, she would probably been beaten to death. When child services went to the home, the child was being beaten by her father, she spent weeks in the hospital fand will spend possibly years meantally recovering from the abuse. When you call dont exaggerate, dont add stuff just say youre afraid that a child may be in danger.
2007-02-02 09:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by dna_moffett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A simple spanking is not necessarily abuse. You don't mention anything else, so it is hard to say for sure. If you see this child often, look for obvious bruises or neglect. Ask her friends if they have seen anything. Ask her teacher--they often have training in spotting abuse.
Please be sure before you call protective services. Although they are trying to help, they can make painful mistakes. A close friend had his son taken away because someone thought it would be funny to call protective services and accuse him. It was eventually worked out, but his son is autistic and took a long time to recover from being torn away from his family and routine. In addition, my friend is now "on record" as being accused--and that never goes away.
2007-02-02 09:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jensenfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disciplined her because she turned the light on or left the light on?
Basically, "abuse" is punishing without the one punished knowing the reason. And that's the case because the punisher doesn't know the reason. He or she is merely acting out of anger and fear (fear of others finding out their dark, dirty secret, that they're a failure at parenting.) The abuser is actually very ignorant of any options, how to act, how to parent or discipline. All the abuser's choices are out of instinct and what was done to him or her by their own parent.
If she's confused and afraid of the parents, without being able to say why punishments happen (or is she does, they sound truly frivolous), then she likely is abused. But she could well have been told before to not leave the light on, and the parents were trying to break a bad habit.
2007-02-02 09:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not having read the diary, it's impossible for anyone but you to ascertain if it's contents indicate child abuse or not, but if you suspect it or have any doubts at all, and I mean ANY, call the authorities immediately. They will conduct a proper investigation. Even if physical abuse isn't present, she may be suffering emotional abuse which is often worse. Don't wait....report it NOW! There's way too much of this stuff going on.
2007-02-02 09:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by arcticsunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said I don't think you have enough hard evidence other than your own worry. I think acting too soon could be more traumatizing to a child than letting it continue too long. If you intervene with a parents parenting method you could ruin their ability to control their children. Ask the girl how often it happens. Ask more questions. Don't go pointing fingers if you don't know where to point them.
2007-02-02 09:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by skitzoscooby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would totally ask her about it, how old is she. Sometimes kids do exaggerate. And getting child protective services involved could make a bad situation if there is nothing going on. All I can say is trust your gut.
Hope it is all well though....
2007-02-02 09:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I came from an abusive household, so did my wife, We now have a family, we know what NOT to do, "NO HITTING" EVER ! It doesn't work ! THERE IS NO HITTING IN THIS HOUSE ! THE BUCK STOPS HERE !
2007-02-02 19:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i would call the children services, and at least give them a heads up.
2007-02-02 13:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by okurbusted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋