I am 20 and my bf is 21 and the thing I dont understand is that his grandma hates me spending the night. The other night I feel asleep and it was 2am and I woke up to her banging down the door saying she doesn't like it. i dont want to sleep over there I just overslept. But when I tell my bf he just tell me not to listen to hear and she just bored and want something to say. But what really confuse me is that at one point his baby mother was living there when her parents kicked her out for being pregnant. And on top of that his younger sister (18) has a baby. I dont understand how me sleeping over there is such a dislike to those examples.
If it was up to me I wouldn't even go to his house anymore. I feel that is very weird he has a 2 year old daughter and gives his grandma dame near all his money when he get paid but can't have his gf spend the night. I respect what she is saying but it my bf that makes me stay over night. I know you may be wondering how he do that but he find a way.
2007-02-02 08:53:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he talk about getting a place but I really dont believe him and besides I think I rather get my own place. He would say oh he wants us to move out then again he says he dont want to leave his grandma. I really dont know what to do.
2007-02-02 08:54:06 · update #1
Firstly if your bf makes u stay overnight then he is controlling u if I was u i would just not go back there or maybe u could try talking to the gma why
Older people tend to have strong values and beliefs which may become outdated even for them
R u sure the gm is not ill
2007-02-02 08:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SIMPLE dearie, Find your own place, and 'without' him!!
You have got yourself a man who has allowed
his grandma to 'control' him, and i'm sure if you look hard enough you'll see it for yourself..
Can you imagine what your life would be like if you married this guy..
I'll guarentee you his grandma would be pulling
'all' the strings, and he'd 'jump' every time she told him to..
As far as her throwing a fit just because you spent the night, is yet again proof of her trying
to control everything, especially her grandson.
Your BF is plenty old enough to do what he wants, and considering other family members
past actions, why is she 'ssooo' obsessive
about her grandson and his behavior?
All seems really weird to me..
It would be different if she was a 'religious,
strict woman', but i see no reason to think so..
Find yourself a place, AND a new BF..
2007-02-02 19:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you getting your own place. He should not move in with you because he can not take care of two households. If things go wrong in the relationship then you have your own place to live it up. He is tolerating this from grandma because he is in her house and her rules. She has to deal with them because they are family and you are not. She does not like you for some reason. This usually happens when she likes the baby's mother more than the girlfriend. The ex gave her a great grandchild. Please don't go getting pregnant to please her. You have to do what is best for you and a baby can not keep a man nor his family.
2007-02-02 09:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you be attentive to what? considering that he's so busy together with his infant's mom then you get busy your self. flow out alongside with your individuals have a solid time (please do not cheat on the guy simply by fact then it's going to make you look undesirable)! do not in basic terms tell him your alongside with your ex to get lower back at him. Be a female approximately it. only make your self unavailable for an afternoon or 2 and allow him be attentive to while he's able to end being an a** then provide you a decision. After he comes around and you pay attention the excuse he's going to furnish then you come to a determination from there whether or not he's worth protecting. If he's doing different "issues" together with his ex to boot helping her then you be attentive to what time that's. solid success!
2016-09-28 08:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by falce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's probably worried that your bf and you will get pregnant and there will be another child. the examples you brought up of his "baby's mama" and his sister just support that idea. the betst thing for you is to get your own place, as you stated! then you wouldn't have to deal with that at all!!! good luck and remember to use protection!!
2007-02-02 08:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you do know what to do.
I would suggest you get your own place. You can include him and the daughter can visit (sounds like joint custody)
he needs to decide if he wants to be with you. If he decides not to, then you are better off.
your not being shown any respect & obviously grandma wears the pants over there. so get your own place and make him decide.
2007-02-02 09:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by dharp66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His Grandma don't want to take care of no more babies so she doesn't want your sleeping with him
2007-02-02 08:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by jojonjesse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋