my 3 and a half year old girl is incredibly stubborn, just objecting to everything all the time, she never agrees with me on anything, even when i call her "a good girl", it is always a "No, i am not". she is mostly stubborn with people whom i think she loves most, including me, her father, her grandparents, etc. i removed her pampers more than a year ago but she still makes herself wet when at home, although almost never when at nursery school!! i give her all possible attention, i really do... Each time i take her out she is being such a nuissance, each time i buy her something new, sweets or clothes, a toy, whatever, she usually ends up calling it bad, or claiming that she doesnt want it. i have tried all sorts of reward, all sorts of punishment, nothing seems to work. i really pray for nothing more than waking up in the morning to find a loving, polite and grateful little girl.
2007-02-02 08:49:10 · 6 answers · asked by emo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i think you should not buy her anything for sometime, how can you expect a 3 year old kid to understand that you're doing way too much for them, you kid is just normal this happens to every baby and they just grow out of that, you're an amazing mom who's thinking about it and trying to resolve to make your baby better person in life,well what you need to do is just be patient try listening to your baby , do not give her any rewards or gifts rather whenevr she is good give her plenty of love and affection, there's no stone that love cannot melt,anyway what i want to say is relax take it easy and understand it's just a change that she's going through where she wants to be independent and she thinks she can fool all around her tell her you're the boss and she will have to listen to that sometimes be strict with her if necessary scold or or give her a time out ...she'll change and she can neve be spolit you can be assured you're a wonderful person who is looking after her kid so well she will grow out of this.
2007-02-02 09:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by t_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I swear we have the same daughter!
My daughter is just 3, and I so know what you are saying! Here lately I have been taking away toys, books, and not buying her anything. I tell her how it makes me feel when she doesn't appreciate what I have done for her. I tell her how lucky she is to have such nice things and there a tons of kids that have nothing. Then I get rid of her things. I also found out that the less she has the happier she is with her things. She is actually bonding with a little teddy bear her nana got her. My kid is spoiled and sometimes a brat. Even w/ positive attention, rewards, bribery. Try not buying her things for a while, give things to charity, and explaine it to her.
2007-02-02 09:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me- we have all been there! First of all, I would completely ignore the bad behavior. If she does something unacceptable, like not listening at the store, tell her you are going to leave. Then, FOLLOW THROUGH!!!! It may be a bit annoying for you to have to leave and go back another time to shop, but after a few times, she will realize that she is not getting attention for her bad choices. Also, if she is at home and does something inappropriate, move her to a "time out" spot, tell her why she is going there, in as brief an explanation as possible, and then leave her for a few minutes. If she gets up, keep taking her back and don't even acknowledge her by saying anything. My daughter went through this and she was VERY tough. But after about 45 minutes of this one day, she finally caved in when she realized I was not paying any attention to the bad behaviors. Then, I always try to make sure I notice her doing something really good, and I praise her for it. Its almost like reprogramming them! As far as all the things you buy her, I would stop it all completely. They don't appreciate it, and I think they respect you more for it when they get something only every once in a while!
2007-02-02 09:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by FLmom3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps an exorcism would help. ??
But really - the good news is she will likely grow out of this. If you want gratitude you might have to work with her on that. For example talk about what you are grateful for just before dinner. Or create a calendar on which a star goes every time she expresses gratitude (or practices politeness or lovingness.) Let her know there's a reward attached to the number of stars and get her working toward that.
2007-02-02 08:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most towns have community mental health clinics that offer family therapy.
2007-02-02 08:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use phycholigy they have tons of books at the library
2007-02-02 08:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by guildguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋