my dad eats in a REALLY disgusting way. he makes all these heavy breathing noises that just tick me off. it literally makes me want to throw up. hes really sensitive, so theres no way i can tell him. He believes that every meal should be a family meal, so i cant leave or anything. what can i do?
2007-02-02 08:40:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the best thing to do is ignore it. start up a conversation to drown out the noise. or listen to music. he probably has no idea that hes doing something wrong, so its good not to tell him.
2007-02-02 08:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly there is no easy way to approach him and say, 'dad you disgust me in every possible way when you eat' nicely. ...So my suggestion is to merely make it a game. Rather than approaching him and saying that, I'd start doing it yourself during meals with your family. Maybe they have all realized it as well and no one is able to suggest him eating differently in fear of hurting his feelings..
Next time you eat all together start to do the same things.. I know it's childish to do it, but maybe it will get him annoyed and HE will say something.. Then you can say.. "hey weird we're in the same boat then, I've been listening to these noises for a while and I thought you'd like to hear the way you were eating." Not so attacking when you say it, but something along the lines of that...
Good luck!!!
2007-02-02 16:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by campisi05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but your family is your family... maybe you can bring someone else into it that is also disgusted... like a brother or something. Next time you are eating, have that person do the same annoying thing your dad does and call THEM out on it... maybe after seeing how annoying it is when someone else does it and seeing someone else say something will make him think more about what he is doing. Good luck but I really don't think there is much you can do.
2007-02-02 16:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should sit across from him and do the same exact things that he does, the same way he does it, and then when he says, "What are you doing?" You say, "Oh, I thought we were playing a bad manners game, I was trying to do it as well as you do it. You were kidding weren't you? Oh well, come on dad, I thought you were paying a game. You really need to eat with better manners, cause you're coming across a little gross there big guy! Other wise I'm going to have to eat with my back to you. I love you but you eat like a hungry bear!
2007-02-02 16:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...well you could make up something like....Address your family as a whole instead of just addressing your dad, tell them that you think you all should practice better eating manner at the table, and then you will get the point accross, that might work, or start up a conversation adn get him talking, and while hes talking you can enjoy your food, hope this helps..
2007-02-02 16:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Shae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could ask your Dad if it creates breathing difficulty when he eats. Maybe it's something you don't know about. If not, let him know the reason you are asking. That way you are showing concern while making your feelings known. Be honest but it doesn't have to be hurtful. It's how you say it, not what you say! Really!
2007-02-02 16:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try starting a general conversation about table manners. Ask your parents one at a time if they were expected to have table manners when they were growing up, do they think they are important, should they just be for restaurants, and don't make this about your dad. Give your opinion, too. If everyone talks about it maybe he will give it more thought.
2007-02-02 16:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to your dad about eating etiquette. There are certain manners you should do at the table and that is one of them. I'm with you completely. Tell him to slow down, breath through his nose and chew with his mouth closed. Tell him it disturbs you and if he could try to tone it down. Good luck.
2007-02-02 16:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ashesmum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him something like... that you learned in a class at school that eating slowly helps aid in digestion, etc. and is better for overall good health, etc. etc. or some other health tip. he'll think that you are only looking out for his health, etc.
it actually isn't healthy for him to eat this way anyway.
2007-02-02 16:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by curious_One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it something that has just recently started?
Maybe talk to your mom and see if she would be willing to discuss this problem with your dad.
2007-02-02 16:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by mark my words 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋