I have been with my boyfriend for 3-4 months and we talk all the time about how we are going to be together forever. I know he is the one, but we still haven't said the 3 little words. Is that normal?
2007-02-02 08:38:54 · 13 answers · asked by misscongeniality711 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a problem saying that after I got dumped for saying it once.
It must be really important to both of you for you to reserve it until you know that you really mean it.
For me it eventually meant that the next step was marriage--and I was not ready ready for that. I waited and waited and was afraid that if I said it she'd be like "we're getting married Tuesday". Men know how women can start planning things out and we are reluctant to give them the go-ahead "I love you".
So, tell him first, then reassure him that marriage is a bigger step than you're prepared to think about right now and he should come right out and use those three words regularly.
2007-02-02 08:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Wes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is perfectly normal. It is important not to rush into those 3 little words and I think that ya'll are both being careful not to do that. That is a big problem with people because they are all "in lust" and pop out those 3 little words that you can't take back. So to wait is smart and when ya'll do say it to each other, it will mean more because you know that it is not just from the newness and the lust.....you have actually gotten to know each other.
2007-02-02 08:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by CPA2B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew my significant other for 1 month before I said i love you and I was going to marry him after dating him for 3 months, but we held off till we were together 9 months so we could have a eal wedding and our familys could attend. We have been together for almost 3 years and married over a year and a half. Sometimes it is not said becuase one is scared what the other will do when they say it. some people might think that the other person might leave if htey say it and the other might think itis too soon. But I bet if you say it first he would say it back. I had to say it first to my husband becuase he thought I might leave him if he said I love you first. He was too scared to say it to be rejected.
2007-02-02 08:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by xxmilitarychikxx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. No one can't guess the right time to tell someone you love them. If you both feel the same way, then one has to take the courageous step and say those three words.
2007-02-02 08:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal. There is no time limit on stuff like that. It has to be said when BOTH of you are feeling it. I do suggest letting him say it first. There are some things a guy should be the first to do.
2007-02-02 08:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Audrey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, of course it's normal. Everybody has a different way of doing things. You can't possibly compare your private way of communicating in a relationship with other people's. But don't worry, it'll happen. Just cos he hasn't said it doesn't mean he doesn't. He probably shows you he loves you in heaps of different ways every day??? Sit back and think about it. He loves ya baby, he's just chicken to say it!!!
PEACE & LOVE & ALL THAT
2007-02-02 08:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Minx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 MONTH.. BUH We were together all the time .. from the time i got off work, to right after all my classes, dinner, lunch and breakfast literality/.. we didnt even have sex right away..
is it normal. yes. some people dont say i love you till after a year. just give it time.. dont pressure it or its not gonna feel like he means it cuz of the pressure u get me?
2007-02-02 08:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by phatguyanesegurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure it was either one or two weeks.. we had talked on the phone every day several times a day for the first week, then we met in person but i don't think we said it till either that week after we first met in person or the following week when he came down again and I moved in with him.. don't realy matter cause we say several times a day for the last over 2 yrs.. thats what counts.. :)
2007-02-02 08:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Mouseling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's normal. Well we're no longer together but my ex-boyfriend and I were together for about six months before I said it and one year for him.
2007-02-02 08:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by lizko2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes very normal! I love you comes out when your ready, I said it without even noticing it and I knew from there on he was the one! you don't plan it, it just happens! he will say it when he's ready! ;)
2007-02-02 08:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋