2007-02-02 08:21:02 · 8 answers · asked by Dumpster Diver aka "DD" 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
No, I could not tell, but maybe others could tell that something was wrong, just not what. It doesn't always have to be that way though. You can get out and live to tell about it. But, I understand if you are scared. People believe that if they tell someone it will only make things worse. In some cases, that is true. My mom came to her pastor with my dad and told him. He didn't believe her, sent her home with my father to work it out, and he gave her one of the worst beatings she ever got. The difference bettween you and her, is that she confronted him with someone she thought she could trust. Instead of talking to someone at a shelter for advice and getting the help that she needed from them to find a way out. There are a lot of places like that now. Unortunately, my mom didn't know anything about those back then. And that doesn't always mean that you have to go live there either, but there are people that you can talk to that can help you get out on your own, if you need it to be that way. Either way, you've got to get out. And don't listen to the voices in your head that tell you that it's not that bad. I studied domestic violence in college. It always, always, gets worse. And don't believe him when he says he doesn't mean it, he's sorry, and he'll never do it again. Don't fall for his apologies and his flowers and gifts. And after the apologies, when he's really sweet and loving, don't fall for that either. That's just what's called the honeymoon phase and it will happen everytime after he has hit you. But, it's just a phase. It won't last. Because, he has a disease and he can't stop hurting you. It will not stop, not unless you end up dead. And don't believe that he's the best you'll ever get and no one else will ever want you. These are all lies! Stop listening to them. You are not worthless. You are not unwanted or unloved. You are not ugly. You are not rejected and you are not helpless without him. You are beautiful. You are smart. And you don't need him to be somebody. He DOES NOT love you. If he loved you, he wouldn't be hurting you. He is an abuser and you need to leave him, because you are worthy of so much more. You don't have to settle for him. Please do not stay with this man. If you are not ready to leave him. I understand. It's a hard decision to make. So, if you can't do it yet, please know that I am always, always here for you. You can email me or IM me. And if you need to call me, send me an email and I will give you my phone number. Take care of yourself. I will pray for you and your safety. Good luck and God bless you. :)
2007-02-02 10:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer to your question is yes. People may be able to tell the difference between you and somebody who was not abused, but they might not be able to pinpoint exactly what your problems are just by your attitude. Abused kids will have less self-confidence than most children, and thats pretty easy to pinpoint sometimes.
2007-02-02 17:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only your question makes it obvious.
Your question should be "Why do I let someone abusive stay in my life"?
I don't know the answer to that one.
2007-02-02 16:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by monkey777monkey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no you seem pretty OK from your avi and attitude
2007-02-05 14:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mike H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. but you do not have to stand for that, you can report it, but if you do I would not let this person ever know where your at, good Iuck, I feel for you
2007-02-02 16:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by jpearlpeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, but I know someone else who declares tehmselves a "dumpster diver" and she is quite damaged also.
2007-02-02 16:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. But I'm sorry and I love you.
2007-02-05 13:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but if you are you need to do something about it. noone deserves that. good luck
2007-02-02 16:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by grniz07 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋