How do you get over the fact that your homeschooled?

Question

im home schooled now and its a huge transition.....what helps bridge that gap?

Answer 1

Everyone handles things differently. When my son started homeschooling, he had a "melt down" about a month into it. He was 9 y.o. at the time. He didn't know how to handle the slower pace I set. I told him we would just take everything a little bit at a time. He was so used to being pushed along through things, without ever answering all the questions on the topic. He now finally could start at the beginning and follow it to the end. He felt a great sense of relief.

I suggest you try to set personal goals, with regards to school work. Homeschooling allows for a different pace, you may work faster in some subjects than others.

If you can, try to keep some of your friends from p.s. I'm sure they have questions about what you are doing now. I agree with the idea of getting involved with a homeschool group. If that isn't possible, most communities have classes offered at libraries, or even art museums. Most Audubon centers offer classes, and in our area they have programs specifically for homeschoolers.

We are involved in archery, letterboxing, geocaching, cooking, dance, solar cars, cultural fairs at a local library, and anything else we feel like doing. Homeschool is so flexible, that we usually avoid all the crowds at popular spots.

Maybe if you change your thought from; "How do you get over the fact that you're homeschooled?" ----- to ----- "How do you get over the fact that you were public schooled?

Give it time, and focus on the positives!!
Better lunches, more time to finish work, much better bathrooms, you can still have recess if you want, you don't need a hall pass, you can read on the couch, you can't be expelled, you can take more field trips, you don’t have to raise your hand to ask a question or pee, you can take class in your P.J.’s, you will be joining the ranks of people like Einstein, Abe Lincoln, Booker T. Washington, C.S. Lewis, …..
You will do fine!!!

I hope this helps.

Answer 2

Have you ever had any other similar huge transition? How did you handle that?

If you haven't had a similar transition or didn't deal with it well, I'd say look at it as though you are on a new journey, having a new experience that most people will never have. As with anything, seek out the best in the experience, make the most of it. Allow things to be different and know that different doesn't necessarily mean that there's something wrong with it.

Above all, be patient. It can take time to make the adjustment and find your footing.

Answer 3

I've been homeschooled all of my life, so I don't know what the transition is like, but the best thing to do is try to find a homeschool group, or maybe a Church youth group that you can go to, an d participate in. It will give you a social outlet. If you have a difficulty finding a good group, try to get an online penpal.

The schooling itself is probably strange, but there's not much that you can do in that direction beyond letting time do its work.

Different people cope differently. Try doing things that you enjoy more, so that your focus is directed elsewhere while you adjust.

Hope it goes well!

Answer 4

What is there to "get over"?

If there's not a home school support group in your town/city, I assure you there is somewhere within 30 miles. Find them, they aren't going to look for you. Most groups meet regularly for enrichment classes, field trips and just fun days. Our local bowling alley and skate center have a few hours one day a month set aside for homeschoolers at a greatly reduced price.

Maybe you are referring to the way people act when they find out that you are homeschooled. If that's the case you just give it time and they realize you are not socially or mentally retarded because you learn in a different way than most. Be grateful that your parents care.

Another thing you could mean by "get over" is maybe you're having a hard time coping with finishing your schoolwork quicker, no peer pressure. Maybe you are freaking out because you can eat lunch when you want to and go to the bathroom when you want to. You can decide which order you want to do your classes. It's quiet so you can concentrate. If any of those things are what you are trying to get over, just give it some time, you'll grow to appreciate the freedom of homeschooling!

Good Luck! I hope you adjust well to your new blessing!

Answer 5

I went to a public highschool for my freshman year and the first semester of my sophomore year until my mom pulled me out to do christian homeschooling, which I did until i graduated. It was pretty hard to get used to but a lot of areas now have organized groups for homeschoolers. They are usually run by a couple of parents and they organize field trips, get-togethers, sports activities and sometimes even a homeschool prom. Try looking up where you live on the internet or you could even call local homeschool offices (the place you order your books from or whoever you send in your work to) and ask if they now of any clubs. If you use a "small town" homeschool agency like how i did (where the know everyone by name) you could even ask them for the names and numbers of some kids your age they know who might be just as lonely and bored as you are. You'd be surprised how many of them want to make some new friends too!

Answer 6

Unfortunatly it just takes time. You have to give yourself the oppourtunity to get used to things. Start by looking at the things you hated about public school that you no longer have to deal with. Look at the things in homeschooling that are good. With my kids there are days (not too often) we will stay in our PJs until after lunch. We get to work on things in the order we choose, and if we get on a roll with math or literature we can just keep going. We will catch up on the rest during the rest of the week. If my son masters something quickly we can move on. If there is a subject he finds boring we can change it up and study a different part of that history or find a different way to learn the scientific principal. We can work with his strengths and slowly build on the things he struggles with. Without making him feel like a moron. And for us one of the best things is, if my sons brain starts to shut down, we can take a break and run around and get it going again.

Also, if you can get together with your friends, and try to make new ones through your local homeschool group. It can be great.

Answer 7

A. Keep up with activites like sports and homeschool groups to not make it seem like you are secluded.
B. Stay focused on what you are going to do AFTER you finish homeschool.
And C. Try to learn how to enjoy your school work even though you're not doing it with friends all around you.

P.S. I've been homeschooled all of my life and I have struggled the entire time, but now I'm learning how to deal better. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

Spend time with other homeschoolers. Not all are dorks. You might actually make some really good friends. Homeschooling's nothing to be ashamed of. I've been homeschooled my whole life, and I can't imagine not being homeschooled. Anyways, go find some other homeschoolers. They're all over the place, you just gotta dig them up.

Answer 9

Assuming you mean socially...

See if you can find some homeschooling groups or coops in your area. You can also get involved in local clubs or sports teams, depending on what you like to do. Some public schools let homeschoolers join their extracurricular activities, like choir. You can also see about taking private lessons - when I was homeschooled, I took an art class with several other people my age and I was also on a community soccer team. It all depends on what's in your area and what resources you have available to you.

Answer 10

Well its kinda hard. I was homeschooled for a couple of years and I ended up going back to public schools because it was to much of a change. The best way is to try to keep in touch with your friends as much as possible.