Spanking do you think good or bad for kid. + other ???

Question

It's everywhere is spanking good for your kids... does it leave a mark?
If your older and was spanked do you remember it? do you remember why you were spanked? did you do what you spanked for again?

do you feel scarred for life because you where spanked?

do you know the difference in abuse and a spanking?

I just want to see what everyone thinks.. I am for spanking your kids I was spanked when i did something way bad! I don't really remember what for but i was a good kid i didn't want that spanking ever again so i just staied out of trouble!
now over all i think i'm a great human if i wasn't spanked would i of turned out this good! ummm

What are your thoughts about all of this?

I personaly

i look at the trend and the younger gernation didn't act up so much!
the generation that wasn't spaked well half are in jail or prison as we speak!
does that have an effect?

oh yeah Dude no kids just wanted your opinion and if it was a repeated question why did you bother to answer! ummm some uncontrolable desire you have or something! and you can't even share your e-mail=... are you afraid of confrontations? umm coping.org may help you with your insecuritys!
and fears! best of luck to you DUDE..

Answer 1

I have spanked my kids, and now they know that when i start counting to 3, that if I actually get to 3 there will be a spanking in there imediate future, I see to many parents who start there count to three only to put in a long pause between 2 and 3 and then just let it go without any sort of punishment. Since they knew what 1, 2 ,3 meant and what would happen when I got to three ****SPANK**** I very rarely have to get all the way to three, at 1 there heads snap to attention, and at 2 there little bodies are already in motion. Because they know it will happen if they do not either stop what they are doing or if told to do something, get started doing it buy the time 1 get to 3 they will get spanked, I really rarely have to spank them anymore, but inevitably every 2 to 3 weeks they have to test me out again, and they do get spanked. I don't swat, and I don't pat. They get one good spank, and they remember what it feels like.

Of course this is just my opinion I could be wrong.

good luck, and remember to always love them, even when they are naughty.

Because every once in a while they will just run up to you and give you a kiss and a hug and that makes it all worth while.

Answer 2

OK, lets see If I can answer these one by one.

I think spanking is good for your children as a last resort, no it has never left a mark.

Yes, I am 36 I remember being spanked as a child
Yes, I do remember why I was being spanked
No, I don't remember ever wanting to do something again if I knew a spanking was waiting for me, should I try.

No I am not scarred because I was spanked, I love my parents very much. Granted I was spanked for everything, this was the main form of punishment in my childhood home growing up. All I have to say, is spankings were quite rare for me, I usually learned to ask before I tried something I'd get in trouble for. My mom and dad, always were very good at communicating with me. They never just allowed me to fall on the sword, we got warnings, if we didn't listen, we got spankings.

The difference between abuse and a spanking is weather or not permanent marks are left (bruises, welts, blisters...) other then a temporary red bottom. My husband and I believe in spanking for our three daughters (ages 4, 7, and 10) but we (unlike my parents) try all the new age tactics first (positive reinforcement, point charts, time outs, long time outs, grounding, taking toys/playtime away). It's rare we have to get to spanking, but if we do, it is well remembered. Just like when I was a child, pants/undies come down, they go over the lap, and their bottoms spanked red. I found this worked the best with me (my husband too) when we were children, and my children deserve no less then the best we can offer as a mom and dad.

I think your right on the mark, props to you.

Good Luck

Answer 3

I was spanked as a child. However, I was not spanked for every little thing. I was spanked when I put my life in danger, and when other punishments didn't work. I didn't care about groundings. I laughed at time outs. I mean come on.. A few minutes sitting on my butt? What kind of punishment was that?
I do remember what I was spanked for. One time I ran out into the street infront of a car. I was SO close to getting hit that when I actually didn't get hit, I got spanked for it.
I can honestly say I never ran out infront of a car again. I learned to look both ways and hold hands until I got old enough to do it on my own.
I also was spanked for cussing my dad once. I never cussed him again.
So yeah, it did work.
I have also never been suspended from school. I have never been in a physical fight. I have never even been sent to the principal's office for being introuble. I never went as far as most of the kids in this world who cuss the teacher out on a daily basis and then laugh and tell them they can't do anything about it. I do always treat people the way I want to be treated.
I do know the difference between spanking and abuse. I don't understand how anyone can call spanking abuse. Abuse is much more horrible. To compare a smack on the bottom to a black eye or a bloody nose. Or bruises up and down a child's back is just absolutely ridiculous. I have SEEN actual abuse. I have witnessed it with my own eyes. So, I just laugh at the people who call spanking "Abuse".
And no, I am not scarred for life because I was spanked. I respect my dad and every other grownup in my life. I don't hate anyone.

Answer 4

spanking and abuse are two very different things. I am personally a none spanker but I see that sometimes it is a last resort sometimes it is necessary and with some of the children I see now days they need to be spanked My mom never spanked me except for one time and I do remember because it was major I was about four and I ran away from my mom and right into the road almost getting hit by the oncoming car. My mom spanked me for running in the road I think it hurt her more than me someone saw the incident and called CPS I almost got taken away! I don't spank my kids though they are to young anyway now my husbands cousin if she were my child I would spank her she is 14 and she is the most disrespectful worst behaved child I have ever seen. She stold my car one night and her and her 18 year old boyfriend used it for a B&E

Answer 5

Well, there;s a difference between a spanking and a beating. It's not like you're all out whaling on the kid with a belt. Honestly, I'm fifteen and I can say with 100% surety that MOST of my generation needs a good kick up the ***.
I'm not puritan or anything, and I'm completely against child abuse, but I think just a smack on the *** as a kid can go a LOOOONNNG way in the future. God knows we wouldn't have half the trouble we do at my High School if some of these parents would have just smacked their damn nasty kid.
I've gotten spankings before, and honestly, I deserved them. It was hardly scarring, and I'm kinda thankful I got them.

Answer 6

As a child I was kicked around too often by my parents because they stayed drunk, no matter if I was good or bad. Now that I have a family of my own I realize how disfunctional that life was. I'm not saying that spanking is bad but I think that the age of the child really matters because what good is it if they don't understand. And I also think that you need to be careful of how hard too. I believe it should be used as a last resort. Try getting down to their level, looking them eye to eye, talking it through, giving a time out, one minute for every year of their age, maybe take fav toys away. Let them know that that behavior was bad and teach them a few ways they could have done it differently. If all else fails take a few minutes to yourself and breath before you spank your child. Please do not spank your child in the heat of the moment. You WILL regret it later. Make good memories, it goes by too quick!

Answer 7

i feel that spanking is a personal choice. i would get spanked by my father and never my mother, not that she was against it, she could just never bring herself to do it. i am a mother of 2 boys who get spankings when they need them. this means that when my sons do not do what they are told, they get are put into the corner and when they have done their time in the corner and they continue with the behavior that got them into the corner in the first place they do get a spanking for it and then sent back to the corner. i do not spank them with anything but my hand on their behinds. and it is not a hard spanking but it is a good firm swat on the butt. that is all it takes for them and i can count on both of my hands how many times my children have been spanked put together. and they are older one is 5 and one is 2. now when they were younger, the got swatted on the hand for doing something they weren't supposed to or when they were messing with things that they were not supposed to. i remember when i was younger i got quite a few spankings for things that i did. i can tell you this i never did those things again. my mom was a grounder and my dad was a spanker. i am glad that i got a spanking when i was younger and i don't think i would be the kind of person i am now or the kind of mother i am now if it weren't for those things. hope this was the answers you were looking for holly

Answer 8

I spank my childrens as a final motel. I even have self belief an employer swat on the rear brings them decrease back to certainty so as that they might see the place the real concern is. i take advantage of it for consistent repeat habit, like leaping on the fixtures. Sending them to holiday 30 circumstances aday develop into becoming previous, so I placed my 6 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous over my knee and what a distinction. be attentive to he in basic terms desires one or 2 reminders a week that the settee isnt a trampoline.

Answer 9

I remember being spanked as a child with a belt and a stick. I swore I would never do that to my child. I did however resort to spanking my child on the bottom with my hand for a while. I found out also that was not the answer. I give my child timeouts for their bad behavior and that works wonders. My childs behavior has improved alot since this, so I do not think you have to physically hurt your child to get good behavior.

Answer 10

I was spanked and ABUSED as a child. Spanking did not make me aggressive as an adult (like everyone says). The Bible says to spank. I deserved MOSt of the spankings I got.. Spanking has it's limits.. butt only..no marks that last over 2 hours or so .My dad would hit our back with belts and slap us.. That is abuse.. I spanked my son and he has grown up to be a handsome well behaved young man. I think what is wrong with our system today is that "their is no punishment at home or school".. thence our kids take guns to school and are into drugs. Growing up, if I got spanked at school..I got it at home.. There were not people who yelled "called CPS..she spanked her kid".. Now, people are afraid to spank kids because someone will call CPS. Parents have lost control of their kids nd if people would mind their own business, parent's could regain control of their kids.. Abuse is something different..But truth be told.. CPS is so busy chasing parents who DISCIPLINE that they can't be bothered with kids who are being abused.