My sister got divorced in Dec 06...now shes been dating a guy for 2 months (if that) she was married before for 7 yrs and is all ready planning out a Wedding with this new fellow.......How can I nicely tell her that she needs her head checked?
2007-02-02 07:58:41 · 9 answers · asked by Nolegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I guess that would depend on how close you guys are, I would have no problem telling my sister such a thing. Just sit her down nicely, invite her out for dinner or something and just share your concerns, but keep in mind that she is a big girl and hope that she keeps your concerns in mind. Oh, and support her in whatever decision she chooses to make.
2007-02-02 08:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be one of those women who are just meant to be married and love it. She may just be grieving over her divorce. Let her straighten it out. It takes time to get married. If you see some serious problems with this man, other than the short term relationship, then you will have plenty of time before they actually tie the knot, to step in.
Your sister has already suffered a huge blow to her self confidence, especially to her ability to make good personal choices for herself. I would support her in any decision she makes right now, even in her planning of another wedding. She will always remember you for this kindness, now matter what really happens down the road, and she will always be grateful for your support. When she does come around and starts to think clearly, even if it is ten years from now, she will understand that you knew better and held your tongue and supported her unconditionally. That will count with her more than you know right now. You and she have a relationship that is going to last both your lifetimes and you both are going to make many many mistakes that the other will want to jump in the middle of, and, short of letting eachother drive off a cliff, giving eachother the space to make mistakes and be supported anyway, that is something most people would die to have.
I guess my answer is to support her in her new love, her enthusiasm, and volunteer to help her in any way she needs you to help her. Right now I see that as you remaining mum about the pitfalls and being happy for her. There is nothing she is doing right now that can't be undone later.
Good luck, this is the high road and one that none of your friends will understand. But, sisters are different, be her biggest fan and support her always, even in her mistakes.
2007-02-02 16:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she really should know better than that! my suggestion is to get her to admit or atleast see that she is moving way too fast. I am not sure if the guy is good or not? Just nonchalantly ask her some questions about her relationship as if you are interested. ask her 1. "when did you first realize you wanted to marry, (whatever his name is)", 2. "what makes this marriage different than your last one" 3. "what do you two have in common" 4."can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him" 5. "is he everything you ever wanted in a man" those sought of questions don't put her down or give and judgement just act understanding as she answers them. If he isnt good for her or if she hasnt thought about these things she will find it hard to answer. she will think about that and may see the error in her ways.
2007-02-02 16:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and her are close.
Have a girls night in at your place or her place and just talk about life , and then just tell that you love and I want the best for you. But I think you should think this one out very hard before making a big commitment with this guy.
But sometime it work but if she as her mind made up then it would help. Just be there for her if she needs you
Thanks Rosina
2007-02-02 16:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by Rosina's Bridal & Decor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that this relationship probably won't last long enough for her to walk down the aisle again.
But, my sister did the same thing. I tried to tell her nicely, that didn't work, I tried to tell her rudely, that didn't work, I tried to tell her again.....there are somethings that people really need to find out for themselves.
2007-02-02 16:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her hey you are moving too fast take a deep breath and judt let the relationship flow by itself. She should understand that.
2007-02-02 16:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't the odds are that the relationship will bust before there is a real wedding.
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2007-02-02 19:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋