he was climbing out of his cot so we put him in a bed,he climbs in and lays there but won't let me leave him,and i have to stay with him till he is asleep,sometimes it takes ages,he was fine in his cot just tucked him in etc and he has always gone to bed same time and awake,now he wont even have the door shut,he also wakes a few times and comes into our room and gets in our bed,or i have to get in with him.
2007-02-02 07:55:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When he gets out just keep putting him back it will knacker you out but it wont take many nights before he gets the idea
2007-02-02 08:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is a book by Tracy Hogg called "The Baby Whisperer" that I found was fantastic for learning to read my child. The bottom line is.. If you're going to set a rule or bedtime, stick to it and be consistent. Make sure your child gets a good solid 1/2 hour of cuddles and stories or just discussing your day in his bed. Then it's bed time 5 minutes... Hug and kiss him till he tells you to stop (he's afraid of being alone). You tell him Mommy's going now, good night! It takes 2 days to reprogram a child and trust me it is hard to stick to your guns especially at this age. Once you leave, don't come back for a minimum 15 minutes. If you do come back don't say anything just hug and tuck in. I promise he will sound like he's never going to go to sleep or ever get over the fact that you left him but on the third night of not giving in...He will get it, and after that quality 1/2 hour of loving, he will let you go and he will know he needs to go to sleep cause Mom's not coming back till morning.(It also helps if you congratulate him in the morning for going to bed and having such a good sleep) Good luck, my first is almost 3 and I have a 7 month old, both girls. They trust you and relax when they know that you are going to do what you say you're going to do. Turn out all the lights in the house and put him back back back untill he stays. We put up a gate for a month rather than close the door, that way she could still see out and didn't feel "isolated".
2007-02-02 16:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh ... the joys of parenthood.
Went through exactly this scenario with two of my kids many, many years ago. We, too, were at our wits end with the first until the little old lady who lived next door told us this trick.
Put him to bed, cuddle him, and then leave. Shut the door. He'll get up and probably start crying. Do not go back to him for five minutes
After five minutes, go back, give him a cuddle, put him in bed, leave and shut the door
This time leave him ten minutes
Repeat above, then leave for twenty minutes.
The first night was hell. The second night not so bad. By the third night, he'd learned we weren't coming o gave up crying and ... went to bed.
Never had a moments problem after this
six years later, same problem with third child. Immediately used the same trick. Again, took only two nights to cure it.
We have shared this little trick with lots of friends over the years. Everyone is amazed at how quickly it works ... and it ALWAYS works! you just have to be strong and not relent to the sometimes piercing screams of your boy
2007-02-02 16:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bob Danvers-Walker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a big transition to go from crib to bed, so it is natural that he needs help getting settled. I stay with my daughter until she's asleep at first. Then I will move to a recliner next to the bed until she's asleep. Next the recliner will be moved further away and I'll sit in it until she's asleep. The trick I think is to make the transition gradual, so they can learn to handle the new situation themselves. Later, I will leave the room for a minute while she is awake (telling her that I will be back after a minute) and come back. Then gradually increase the time. I've had my daughter fall asleep waiting for me to come back. Just make sure you come back in the time you say you will otherwise she will not trust your word anymore.
good luck.
2007-02-02 16:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by rinib2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids will always have more energy than they know what to do with lol. I have a god daughter of my own and she used to go absolutely crazy whenever it was time for bed. Screaming, hittin' the walls and throwin any toys she could get her hands on. I had to keep telling her mom 'Look, she wants to get her way, but now is now the time for it. she needs to go to bed, so just leave her be.' And thats exactly what I'm saying her; the kid needs to stay in his bed. If you have to be cross with him then thats the way it has to be until he learns that it's time for sleep and he needs to go to his own bed. If you keep caving in and giving him attention he will continue to do this kind of thing. If he comes in and wants to sleep with you then just tell him 'no' and put him back in his bed. It's not harsh, it's discipline. If he can get what he wants now , what will the future be like?
2007-02-02 16:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my daughter. It was fine initially then it took longer and longer for her to fall asleep. I decorated her room and hung lights and teddies around her room. I made a big deal of it and when it was finished she was excited about sleeping in her own bed. I left the t.v. on in her room and told her i was tiding my room. She could hear me and see me crossing the landing and soon fell asleep alone.
2007-02-05 16:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by KATIE K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont forget its new for him like when you first put him in the cot you just have to reasure him its safe and a nice place to be, read him a story then walk out if he comes down keep putting him back ,i promise you he will get used to it eventually good luck!
2007-02-02 16:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jaz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a set time for him when you put him to bed... dont give him sugary stuff before bed time... trust me its going to be hard but try reading him a story and then leave him... his probably going to cry his lungs out for a hour or so, but soon will learn mommy isnt coming back... it will take about a week but it will work.good luck
2007-02-04 07:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit near him and each night move towards the door but dont talk to him other than "im hear" it may take a few nights but it worked for my youngest.Good luck
2007-02-02 16:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by *♥* donna *♥* 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just a phase. Keep putting him back in, he will get the message and outgrow this exercise.
2007-02-02 16:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kennette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋