My relationship ended about a month ago after 5 years. I have been talking to this guy that I have known for about 6 years. Recently we have been talking more often. The past 2 weeks he has called me everyday. Usually sends me a text in the morning to say good morning and calls me at lunch and then calls me again in the evening. He is really a sweetie I think. He has asked me out before but the break up wasnt really final then. But today he asked me to dinner. I am scared senseless!!! I havent dated in 5 1/2 years!!! Is only a month too soon ?? Or is it my nervous just getting to me ??
2007-02-02 07:49:10 · 30 answers · asked by cheeks4u21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I still have really strong feelings for my ex. Still crying quite abit about what happened. If I am not feeling comfortable and turn him down again, I dont want to lose his friendship because he wants to take it further than friends right now. How do I explain to him without sounding still heartbroken ?
2007-02-02 08:23:57 · update #1
Yes One month is too soon to start dating! Went on the date.. Not so good looking guy. Very nice tho. Felt nothing and talked about how horrible my ex was and then cried all the next day!!
2007-02-06 01:13:46 · update #2
Turn off the nervious system, and go out and have a great time.
2007-02-02 08:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started dating a month after my 5 year realtionship broke off. He know I did not want to lose or friendship eather and know I was not over my ex the whole time. I had know him for 4 years before we started dating I was nervous the first time we went out too becuase I had not dated in so long but I went out with him anyway. I thought it would be great to get out with a friend. All I thought that night was I'm going out with an old friend and will have great time. The funny thing is a married him a year later to the date adn now we have been married for almost 9 years and have four kids together. You never know what will happen when you step out on to a ludge and take a pludge. I wish the best of luck in you new part of life.
2007-02-02 09:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by folkner6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in going out to dinner with him - but take things really slow - you don't want to rush into another full blown relationship just yet because it could be for the wrong reasons. You will be nervous because for the last 5 years you have been with the same man but you have known this other guy for a long time so that should help.
2007-02-02 07:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out to dinner is nothing big, this also lets you know that you still have it. It does sound like this guy likes you, take it slow and tell him just that. You don't want to rush into another relationship when your feeling for the old BFare not completely over with. Dinner can be a great start to help you with resolving the old BF feelings. Good Luck and take care of yourself
2007-02-10 03:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by soldierlady226 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you talk on and on about the former relationship? If you think you will it is not a good idea to move on. Talking about an x to a new person could spell nothing but mess on a chance at something really special. Take it slow & see what happens. If you really like this person you don't want them to be the rebound person. Make sure to give yourself time so that you now what you want and don't want.
2007-02-02 08:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by DJ Z dub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon. You need to give yourself time to mourn the 5 year relationship you just got out of. They say you should mourn 1 month for every year, so about 5 months in your case. If you rush into another relationship too quickly, it will only end up as a rebound.
2007-02-02 07:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Xfactor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on if you have feelings for your ex or not. I think dinner is fine if you go as friends only. I think it's too soon to start dating. I waited close to a year after getting out of a 6 year realtionship. Once a day passes that he doesn't cross you mind, then I think it's ok to move on. You will know.
2007-02-02 07:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by elizabeth G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a great guy and if you've known him for 6 years then it's not like you're strangers. Take things slow. You don't want to ruin a friendship (an possible relationship) by being on the rebound. Be straight with him. Keep things light. Best wishes!
2007-02-02 07:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by margarita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start dating when your comfortable. After a month you may want to be aware that you may be rebounding and finding things in other people that really aren't there.
You actually ought to spend some time alone for a time and get to know yourself before embarking on further relationships.
2007-02-02 07:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no a month is not too soon, you need to move on from that very long relationship that u used to have. its funny that this guy does the exact same thing that i do to girls when i like them(from what u said). So he definatly likes you...and if you like him, than go for it with noooo nervousness and dont even think of your old relationship. Have a good time, and enjoy spending time with your new guy...
2007-02-02 08:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by Women Pleaser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are not sure whether its nerves or just that you arent ready... well unless you do, you will never know... lets say you turn down the his offer once again, he may lose interest and you will forever regret it...many say its never too late though in this case it is...you seem to really like this guy and vice-versa...look at it this way you have more to lose by turning down the offer than you do by accepting it...go for it!!!
2007-02-02 07:57:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋