I miss the old Niki.. When she wasn't under peer pressure, and was not heavily influenced by her brother and his friends. At times, when she with those people.. it feel like she tries to hard to be different, all these people are into drugs and drinking. I love her with all my heart and I know she love me but it seem like ever since she got into this partying scene, Everything that doesn't involve smoking, or playing video games is a bore.. I really miss when we could just watch movies together or wrestle. I don't think these people are a good influence on her at all and it seem like it is just feeding into her Bi Polar Syndrome, maybe she is going through Mania right now, I hear people act completely different and things unhealthy when they are in that state. However I just really miss when we would go shopping together at mall, and all her money wouldn't be wasted on pot for her and her brother.. every night I pray for her to see the light and for this behavior to end..
2007-02-02 07:35:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She always says how much she loves me and I know in my heart is true, but I just want all this behavior to end, I cannot talk to her about it at this time because she thinks of it as "uncool" that is just her frame of mind right now. Should I just wait around and let the old her come back to all of us? Or keep nagging her?? which can be risky bussiness.. sometimes I have trouble sleeping over it.. Im so happy she doesn't do heavy drugs, however.. I just can't trust her brothers friends at all, there is no room in my heart to
2007-02-02 07:37:56 · update #1
at this time she is on no medications..
2007-02-02 07:41:38 · update #2
I do not want to be told to move on.. because I won't I promised her and myself I wouldn't ever leave her side.. this is a girl that is very sad and emotionally hurt inside, she is always feeling unaccepted by others and has a hard time trusting those around her, except for me she trusts me most.. I want this to end someday however end with me still beside her.. I feel like I should try and guide her best I can..
2007-02-02 07:44:28 · update #3
Lately I've felt a bit invisible.. when I worry about her I just tend to go to sleep and wait to know what is going on
2007-02-02 08:20:54 · update #4
I sent you an email w/ more detail, but from all I'm reading about Niki (incl your other questions), she needs you to be there for her, but not as a crutch. She needs professional help - the dr will most likely put her on medications. It might be time to try telling her that you do love her, you want to be there for her, but on her side she needs to want your help/support and she needs to get professional help. You will not believe how much of a difference it will make once she gets professional help! Trust me, you can't do it on your own ... and be ready for it to get worse before it gets better. But from my recent experience, it is worth it! You need to remember to take care of yourself, and you are going to be able to deal w/ everything better if you don't allow yourself to get overly involved w/ the "drama" end of things - it's weird, but her reality is most likely far from reality. At one point, I had to leave home to escape and collect myself for a few days ... when I returned, I was much better able to deal with the situation. Stand up for your beliefs, and set limits.
If you want to let me know what area you live, I can see if I can research/find some medical places that might be able to help.
2007-02-03 05:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sound so sweet! It sounds like she needs time to figure things out for herself because she won't come around if you nag her about it. Unfortunately, talking to her about it will probably only make her more likely to go in the other direction. That's not to say you should just completely cut things off with her. She needs you right now whether she thinks so or not. The smoking definitely isn't helping her in the bi-polar department, but I know you already knew that. My cousin is bi-polar and she had a lot of problems with it. I hope yall can sort through this and be able to look back on it as just another memory.
2007-02-02 15:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by RidiculousTallness 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your name is speed freak and you're condemning her drug use? Ok, that aside, believe it or not, people change and sometimes not for the better or in the way you'd wish. Get that clear in your head because it's a simple fact. She may actually change for the better later on, maybe much later on, but right now you are saying that you don't like the way she is and you are hoping she will change without telling her how you feel about her life choices.
You basically have two choices. Continue to stand by, hoping, praying, doing nothing, leaving, etc. Or do something like, talk to her about it in a sincere way, telling her why it bothers you, how you feel about the whole thing.
If you really care about her, I don't think you'd just sit there and watch her apparently ruin herself. Yeah, it may take some balls and it may seem risky, but there are simply times in your life when you need to cowboy up and take a stand. She may just need a wake up call, and maybe you're it. If all else fails, she'll at least look back one day and remember how much you cared about her, and then maybe happier days will follow. If not, her loss.
2007-02-02 16:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by the12judge 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It hurts to care for someone and watch them make bad choices. You nagging her will only make her want to get farther from you right now. It's human nature. She doesn't want to hear what you have to say. You've already said your piece, now go about your business and continue thinking positive thoughts for her and hope for the best. Be friendly but not posessive-like. She'll come around. She just has to grow up a bit first and hopefully she does it before she ends up really hurt. Be smart on your own account!
2007-02-02 16:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Niki has made a decision to go in a different direction than you are. Sounds like the new friends are losers to me ....
you do not sound like a looser.
I think if she REALLY cares about your feelings, then she would strongly consider how you feel about all of this ...... so now I am wondering just how connected she feels to you in reality....
to me it sounds like you have a serious problem here in this relationship ......
sorry .... but I would be very careful about staying in this very high maintenance relationship ....... it looks like it is going backward, not forward ...
2007-02-02 15:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i just think this is not the type of girl u should be with. any drugs is in fact a drug. influence is bull ****, cause i had many reasons why i should do drugs, or be an *** hole, but i'm not, cause people can think and act for themselves. u should just move on, and let her ruin her life, it's not like u didn't say so.
2007-02-02 15:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If she is bipolar, she might not be on the right medication...or enough of it...
2007-02-02 15:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Terry C. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds
2007-02-02 15:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋