I have been shy my entire life, I mean painfully shy. I wont talk to someone, unless they talk to me and still I am shy. I am 20 years old and I think its holding me back from meeting people. I want to get over this but it is so difficult. I've had people not know I went to their high school (i only graduated with 200 people) because I am so quiet. I hate it and its not like the people who know me dont like me because they do.
2007-02-02 07:25:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 of my children are or have been very shy throughout their lives. My daughter was self conscious, thinking that people were noticing her when she didn't want to be noticed, so she would try to blend into the background whenever possible. But then she found that not everyone was looking at her, and she was actually making herself more noticeable by trying to hide than if she just joined it.
With anything practice makes perfect. Practice being in social settings, practice talking to people every chance you get. The clerk in the grocery store, the postman, the girl scouts trying to sell you cookies.
Observe other people who you want to be like, and emulate them.
Call up my shy son, ask him on a date!
2007-02-02 07:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was shy like you for most of my life up until after I graduated college, so I know how you feel. You just have to make a conscious effort to talk to people now matter how scary it seems. If you make a mistake and say something wrong, no one will remember it, people say dumb things all the time. Start with compliments, because everyone loves hearing them, then ask questions about people and once you hit a topic you know about the cover station should just come more naturally. Most important - just relax and remember that the worst that can happen is no worse than it would be if you said noting at all.
2007-02-02 15:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by MyQA's 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to let go of your own nature. Being shy is not a bad thing, it's just how you are. But, keep in mind, it's not WHO you are.
In order to become less shy or introverted, you have to find a friend who is borderline extroverted. Don't associate yourself with extremely extroverted people at first, as they will only embarras you and make you run back to your shy nature. This friend will help you adjust more to the extroverted livestyle. You must make an attempt to copy their moves. For example, if they spark a conversation with the lady at the ticket box at the movies, you should do the same.
You can practice this yourself as well. Just something small, that's a nice blouse, thank you... small things here and there with people you don't know. Make and effort and you'll see that you'll slowly find a bit more extroversion in you as well. It'll take time, so don't give up early on. Just try it and see.
2007-02-02 15:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by stranger2ooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 22 years old, I had the same problem when I was in high school. When I turn 20 I got out of my shyness. I don't know if you are un sure about anything but, that was my problem . when I accepted my self I became more talkative. Start getting friends, going to parties and clubs. I'm not saying don't be your self to get out of your shyness, just be confident. If you want to ask me any question about what I did to get out of my shyness you can e-mail me at sweetmocha07031984@yahoo.com or sweetmocha731984@aim.com
2007-02-02 15:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by sweetmocha07031984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this, make a daily goal to say hello to 3 strangers, just a simple hello and after a week make it 5 and so on when you start to get a positive response I think you will open up a little.But just so you know I would rather hang out with a quiet person than a loud mouth so find your happy medium.
2007-02-02 15:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by frogenstien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres so many ways out there to overcome shyness..take up a sport..get a job in an enviroment where you get to meet lots of people (airport)....go out with your friends...travel to new places...i was very very shy but i did so many things where shyness is not an option any more..don't worry too much just do it...do what makes u happy :)
2007-02-02 15:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Beaute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a chance and say hi to people. Be friendly basically. If you do that and just take the chance, you will get positive results. Don't force it too much, but just keep the idea of being friendly in your mind. Also being a girl it is a lot easier, mainly because girls are usually open to talk, and guys will always talk to a girl :)
2007-02-02 15:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by gman1602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of something that you like to do...now think if there's any place that other people who like to do the same things as you meet somewhere. Such as maybe you like to make things... join habitat for humanity. That way you are surrounded by friendly people who enjoy the same thing you do, and you may feel more confident in that situation. And don't give up. I use to be very, very shy....now my friends tell me that they can't get me to shut up. :-)
You still also have plenty of time to grow out of it...but confidence boosters will help a lot!
2007-02-02 15:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a strong shot of some strong liquor like bacardi 151, everclear, or wild turkey 101, or some 100% peppermint schnappes......then when ya get bold wander around the mall and talk to random people! that'll help your shyness....:)
2007-02-02 15:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and go out and meet folks.
Start a conversation, like hows the weather or something.
2007-02-02 15:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋