my father beat my on Oct. 31, 2006....it has left me an emotional scar..i have never been able to feel happy again.....should i tell them? How do i get over my pain?
2007-02-02 07:18:37 · 12 answers · asked by nik246 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i had a boyfriend and they flipped so the beat to the point where i hated myself. I hated my mother because the only word she said was " she deserves it". She was beaten by my father and i was hurt because she wished that on me. My brother said the same thing to me. They just watch. He popped and eye vessel, busted my nose, jaw, and lip. all i thought while i was going through it was...my father beating my bro and how i used to cry in the bathroom everytime he was hit because i felt they were hitting me too....and how my father and mother promised my grandma on her deathbed hey would never beat me again. How is a 15 year old girl suppose to overcome a lifetime of tragedies?
2007-02-02 07:40:10 · update #1
I feel so bad for you. I don't know how old you are and besides, that is irrelevent in this situation...NOBODY has the right to hit you and cause such serious harm. When and if you did go to the doctor, what did you say happened? I think that would have been the time to tell someone. If you hadn't, you should contact a counselor, someone from your church (or if you don't attend one, try an Assembly of God as they are so willing to help) or a trusted adult. You have every right to feel anger toward both of your parents, in the first place your father should never have beat you and your mother should have and still should be trying to protect you. As for your brother, I imagine his attitude comes from being beat himself...he probably felt relief that it wasn't him although I am sure he did not want it to be you either. I pray you have the strength to face this demon because if you don't it will happen again. Good luck to you and your brother. You are in my thoughts. Lastly, I want you to know that no matter what, your fathers actions were never your fault. He has a problem, not you. As well as your mother, she also shoud look into some sort of help. GOD be with you.
2007-02-02 08:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by LaRae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I question how old you are. You sound like and write like a teen and hitting you at this age is unacceptible. It provides nothing to a lesson learned and does will damage an already fragile relationship. Your pain is real and your should feel hurt and violated as well. I would tell my parents how you feel and why. Telling them the exact date of when this happen and the feeling you have harbored since that date too. I doubt they will truely care how you feel, or they would not have hit you in the first place. Your parents need some new cooping skills and should take a parenting class. I am sure that you are not a perfect person and did something that angered the parentals, but nothing really warrant a beating and that is your word Beating. The scars you have are your to own and deal with. Parents do stupid things that we all have to take with us into adulthood. Do yourself a big giant favor. You can learn one thing from this. One day your teen is gonna push your buttons to a degree that you wanna ring their necks. Stop for a count of 10 and remember how you felt today. You may save the child you love the same injury you have.
This is all on the parents and it has nothing to do with whatever it is you did wrong. There are other ways to punish a teen today.
Hope you feel better soon and I wish all parents who hit had to deal with equal physical and emotional pain somewhere in there future. If anyone is ready this responce and you hit your kids, You are a weak parent with no skills to reason.
My best to you young one.
Tracylyn S
2007-02-02 15:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How dare they! That is just awful, if only you were a bit older you could move away from that sort of abuse. Emotionally that is such a damaging thing, but i am sure you are not a bad person and most 15 year old girls do have boyfriends. I'm sure they are just trying to protect you but don't do anything to provoke them again. maybe you could see the school councillor? that may help. i really do feel bad for you and i hope you find a way to cope and get over this.
2007-02-02 16:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First know that you did nothing wrong. Don't blame yourself for someone who would take disrespectful actions. The only way to truly get over this is to face your fear adn confront him. Make sure that you have a good support system before doing this. I would also suggest going into counseling because of the recent nature. Hang in there kiddo. I wish you all the best.
2007-02-02 15:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to hate the actions of someone who brutalizes you. If you think its safe for you to confront your father, and you think it will make you feel better, then go ahead and do it. But with his history of violence against you, your mom and your brother, and your mom's inability to protect you from him, it sounds to me like maybe you should talk to someone outside your family (a doctor or teacher or counselor?). You need more help than we can give you over the internet.
Best of luck.
2007-02-02 16:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by SixoSeveno 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did you do to deserve your beating? If you don't repeat it, you will never be beaten again and you will get over the pain.
I know, been there - beaten a lot and have got over it.
2007-02-02 15:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What did you do? If it is bothering you this much, by all means, you need to say something to your parents. Of course you will have to discuss, what happened, and tell them How this is still affecting you. I hope that you can get this resolved!
2007-02-02 15:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to someone about your feelings. i don't know if you will get over the pain but you can try by keeping busy, doing things you enjoy like hobbies and sports. most important talk to someone.
2007-02-02 15:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by firefly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell them unless you did something wrong and you deserved it other than that you should tell and if he beats you all the time tell them.
2007-02-02 15:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it isn't wrong. You should tell them that you are hurt. Do something funny and interesting, forget about it.
2007-02-02 15:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by Joka B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋