my friend and i have been seeing each other off and on for the past 2 years and he gets into these mood swings to where he dont answer his phone for weeks at a time and wont call either. and when he does give me a call he act as if everything is okay. How should i handle this situation.
2007-02-02 07:17:08 · 29 answers · asked by cmkp2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-02 07:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's obviously tearing you up. This is crazy. Everyone gets busy, works and/or goes to school and has times where they are unable to communicate, but if it's just a personal preference and he is in a "mood swing"....that's not right. If he was really your friend or serious about your relationship in any way he wouldn't be avoiding your calls.
First I would try the same, avoid his calls altogether for a while as he does yours and see how he reacts. His reaction to this may just give you the answer you are looking for. Personally, I wouldn't waste any more time on him. He obviously isn't dedicated to the relationship (no matter what stage it is in). If it were me, I would move on to someone who is more deserving of my attention and appreciates me more.
And for the first answerer...being bipolar is NO EXCUSE for anything. I happen to be, and it has never been the cause or reason for me to be a *****. Friends are friends, and people who are inportant in my life get treated as such. I hate it when people use it as an excuse, reason or a crutch for something that has gone wrong. People are people, and BPD is an illness, just like diabetes. It is treatable and manageable. Even when in a slump, I have NEVER slighted people, it's not their fault I have some slightly screwed up chemicals in my brain, or falsely firing synapses. Blame the person, not the illness.
2007-02-02 15:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing that you are not an Item... you cant really say anything about hey were are you hey whats goin on. You should ask him where he has been and how come he didnt call you in a friendly way, but why are you with someone who has not even bothered to up ur situation from booty call to relationship. You deserve better, get your self a man who does answer your calls and does not make you wonder about the what ifs. two years and nothing yet, maybe he is with his other girl friend?
2007-02-02 15:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by TOokieTook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may like spending time with you so do not take it personally, but we all have times when we just want our own space to do our own thing. Hes probably going through a Phase or maybe hes just simply the type, to be the aggressor. If I was you, I would just spend time with other people and let him do his thing. Chances are when you stop calling, he will...
2007-02-02 15:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your friend has a problem with depression. When you have the chance to talk to him tell him that you are concerned for him. True friends stick together. Don't give up on him just yet. Let him know that you are there for him if and when he is ready to open himself up. Only you know your friend, not us, so stay with him if you think he is truly a good person.
2007-02-02 15:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a similar problem didn't last too long but i just stopped calling and i did my own stuff..u can't wait around for him..he might be depressed or not into to the relationship.. at this point you don't really know..
I suggest to move on and if he really wants u he will call u...
2007-02-02 15:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Beaute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Adios Muchachos" ... He's being childish and extremely rude, and treating you with utter disrespect. I'd dump his butt. You know, relationships aren't for *convenience*. They're based on committments, and trust, and honesty and all that bull malarky. I think it's horrible that he does this, and I think he needs to get help for his *mood swings* since he refuses to come talk to >you< about them.
2007-02-02 15:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Two can play that game, do the same act like you don;t care
2007-02-02 15:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by neighborhood lolita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is taking your company for granted, set him straight and tell him he can't ignore you and expect you to be understanding. You guys need to communicate.
2007-02-02 15:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he does listen to you- talk to him about it. That's all you can do unless you want to just let this relationship funnel downward to a crash landing.
2007-02-02 15:20:07 · answer #10 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar situation, no idea
2007-02-02 15:26:23 · answer #11 · answered by Smirnof_Ice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋