Do you believe in spanking your child?

Question

I don't have children yet(hopfully I am expecting). I'd like to think that my children will behave and I won't have to discipline, but we all know that will never happen. Anywho... I was just curious as to other peoples opinions. I believe in spanking. I think that's what's wrong with a lot of kids today: no discipline!

Answer 1

i believe in spanking 100%... there is a HUGE difference between spanking and beating.

It is ok to spank your child (with your hand, nothing else) if your verbal warnings do not work, however to spank your kid just because they do a small thing wrong is not ok.

sometimes a kid needs to be swatted on the behind 1 time to let them know that what they have done is NOT at all acceptable.

For example a parent teaches their kid to NEVER go into the street, and what does the kid do? it goes into the street, by all means the kid deserves a spanking. Hopefully you (the parent)will NEVER have to do that again because they (the kid) has learned.

Or if the kid trys to touch a hot stove...better to swat them on the hand 1 time then to have to take them to the hospital because they have burned thier little hand....

But to beat or hit the kid (with your hand, or with an object at any time) just because they do any little thing wrong, now that is not ok...

To me it is ok when their safety is at risk, or they deliberately do not listen to what you are saying, or act a fool when they know how to behave.

i am currently 29 weeks pregnant, and even though i have not met my little angel, i know that at one point he is going to be spanked.

Answer 2

I also do believe in spanking. However i do not believe it should be the ONLY means to discipline. I have extreamly well behaved children (4year old boy and a 17month old girl), but they are kids and act like kids. My son is all boy!lol I do put them in time out, send to there room ect and most of the time they are very well behaved kids. My son is very respectful and my daughter is learning that as well. she is just starting to put words together so.... anyway. the only times i really use spanking is when my son or daughter is just being defiant and dont plain out listen. Also if im making a big point like when my son was learning not to go in the road and he was old enought to know and i caught him in the road or he ran out in it wether a car was there or not. I tore his hinny up and explained why. He now being 4 knows better and he doesnt do it. If he does, like to get the mail, he knows to look for cars. definantly if it is a life thretening situation I do not feel putting my son in time out makes a difference. He needs to know the difference and doing so on my part may save his life in a dangerous situation. Being a parent is hard sometimes and every child is different. somethings he is more sinsitive about so i have to use my judgement on how to discipline. U will be a fine mother. Just dont spank over everything and do so when u think the time is right. Sometimes just a pat is enough. sometimes a lil more. never have i or will i hit my child. there is a difference. good luck and God Bless. I hope u are preggo!!!!

Answer 3

particular, i've got self belief in spanking my infants. Do they get a spanking every day, no. they do no longer even get a spanking weekly. there are particular issues the place i think of they warrant a spanking. that is often basically with my hand and no products. now and returned as quickly as I even have carried out another punishment below the solar and that they nonetheless have not have been given the photograph then they gets a spanking. yet like I suggested this does not ensue very generally. yet while it does they do no longer do it returned because of the fact they be attentive to I mean corporation.

Answer 4

Spanking and discipline are two different things. Spanking is a punishment - discipline teaches a child how to behave. I would have to say infrequent use of spanking will not harm a child, but why would you waste your time not teaching your child what you expect? There will come a time when the child is too big to spank...then what?

Answer 5

We plan on using the taser method of discipline.

jk...time out first and spanking as a last resort. Restriction is another option. None the less spanking isn't beating. And regardless of the form of discipline you see fit, be sure your child understands why they are being disciplined.

Seriously how many of you who were spanked actually resent your parents for it. If there is any resentment then you have bigger issues than a spanking.
One thing I notice about younger adults is every generation seems to not understand that your actions will receive an opposite or equal reaction.

Answer 6

I do believe in spanking. There are lots of techniques for issuing discipline on little ones though and I use spanking as a last resort or a subtle reminder with one pop. I have studied the 1,2,3 Magic method though and when used with consistency, I found spanking not to be needed as much. I'm sure the library has information on Magic for you to check out. Spanking can be overdone so easily that one must be careful to have old man temper always in check. Never spank in anger! Never shake your child! Give them consistency in your demands and with all things. And show them lots of love and approval. Always have something good to say that makes them ponder their actions which will help them develop better thinking patterns. Try going to the library and doing some research on the different methods and know what you're doing ahead of time and at best, you'll still have discipline problems. Set your expectations at a height not too overwhelming for the development age of your child to understand and take it from there.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with reprimanding your child when needed. You do not have to spank ya child everytime they do something you don't like. A spanking is intended to give when necessary, when my daughters were little and they touched/ did something they were told not too I would pop there hands(if needed) . Yet as a child gets older you can develop ways to make your child understand there mistakes. When you have good communication with your children from the start.....then when it comes time for you to discipline them it would not be hard.
Now........... If I take every last one of there privledges away totally I get a positive response from them and feel good about myself as a parent. No parent should really have to literally beat there kids to get there point across but to pop those hands won't kill them either!!

also don't try to hard to be ya childs friend either, you are the parent. yet your child should be able to talk to you without criticism and fault. remember you were once there age too....be supportive and get to know them. your kids will respect that about you always

Answer 8

You don't have children? Your views will change after you have them. You are right about realizing what is wrong with kids today (No discipline) The problem is not because kids aren't spanked.

Pro spankers like you are failing to see the difference between discipline and punishment. They are not the same.
Discipline is loving, positive and instructive.
Punishment is negative and can be terribly destructive especially to a very young child.
Pro spankers are always fighting to be right and fail to see that not hitting a child doesn't mean not disciplining a child or setting limits.

Raising a child is the most difficult and demanding task that any of us will do.
Pro spankers tend to have no self-discipline, self-understanding or knowledge of child development. They merely rely on old habits and impulses. They use what their parents used. Hitting.
They would rather fight their belief that it is the only alternative to good behavior and fail to be motivated to learn and improve.
Why not make an informed decision on how to raise your children rather than default how your parent raised you?
Did you do your research on this? Do you fully understand child development?
Do your job right and find positive ways of discipline. Time out does work, you just have to be smart about it. I never spank my children and that doesn't mean no discipline. Time out works very well. We get so many compliments on our children's behavior. I respect my children and know they won't go on to hit their kids. They will say " I wasn't spanked and I turned out fine."

Answer 9

I do and I don't. I think it should be a last resort, and everything possible should be tried before you decide that a spanking is needed.
However, this can also teach the child that hitting is OK. If Mommy and Daddy do it (and Mommy and Daddy should be role models) then why shouldn't they? This is what runs through a child's mind after a spanking.
There are other ways to discipline a child and spanking shouldn't be first on your list. Time outs, loss of priveleges, etc. can teach a child just as well as any old spanking can.

Answer 10

I believe in parents disciplining their children. I have 2 daughters that are teenagers now and we have a very good and open relationship. I did spank when they were little, but only a swat to get their attention ( no belts or anything like that ). Sometimes just a smack on their hand with mine accompanied by a very firm no ( kind of like training a puppy ). I have well adjusted young adults in my house now. They respect both my husband and myself. They also deal well with situations outside the home. I say a little discipline when they are young enough to be impressionable goes a long way to creating a mature, responsible adult.