I'm scared - not of being alone in the house but we have 3 kids, we are buying a new house, renting ours out when we move and I feel a bit overwhelmed that I'm going to be dealing with it all on my own. On top of that I work and have an extremely difficult mum to dela with! He's only going for a week.
Help me snap out of it!
2007-02-02 06:54:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Think positive dont let your inner thought or emotion overpower your right thinking. Come on its only for a week. I'm sure you know your husband. Just do your usual thing in the family. Try to be extra sweet to your husband and talk to him what is his plans and your plans if his going to succeed in his ventures of bussiness so that when he is away he can think of it. And lastly always open the line of communication when he is far a way &always pray to God. Ok.
2007-02-02 07:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by briggs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are totally stressed and if you really think about it you are blowing things out of proportion. Could be wrong but doesn't sound as if you have actually been left to do a removal the week he is away. I was in the a bit similar position to yourself many years ago when out of the blue my husband's work took him offshore. At that time you were away 2 weeks and home only 1 week, less travelling days, often couldn't get off the platform owing to weather and then there was the added dangers. Not wanting to make this into about me. I didn't have a difficult mum, just no family near me. However, like me you have to appreciate your husband is working hard for the sake of his family and not easy for him. Believe it or not you will find little ways of getting free time and more relaxation. If you normally cooked a proper dinner in the evening you can have a bit of a skive with the kids, bring something in or use the micro-wave (it's rare occassion not changing your eating habits for life). If the children are at school knowing you've not got to prepare a big meal, iron a load of shirts etc give yourself a treat, like a cuppa or some sort of pampering session where it be just your hair blown in or a facial, whatever. Hope you feel a bit brighter now.........AND.........when he returns it is sooooooooooo good.
2007-02-02 10:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overwhelmed would be the word! You are a wife and a mother not to mention everything else. Do you realise that your probably more equipped to handle this situation than anyone else? Give yourself some slack and breathing room. You can do anything you want with a little organisation. You can probably do it with your eyes closed! Get a close friend in to help pick up the slack. Alternatively go stay with someone and relax a bit, then when hubby gets back do it together. Sometimes situations arise when we think that everything is too much, but if you stand back and take a deep breath, you'll think of what you want to do and how to do it. *if you smile it helps - or at least thats what i tell myself in these times anyway lol*
2007-02-02 07:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make a list of the things that worry you, and then sit with your hubby and work out a way to deal with them. Your mum may not be perfect but surely she will help you while he's away.
You are trying to think of everything as one big problem, as opposed to a couple of minor stepping stones. If the rent from the other place goes straight in to the family account, then don't worry. Simply pop to the bank, collect the statement and file it. If you need some space, I'm sure you know a teenager willing take £10-£15 for babysitting (if applicable). Think in terms of seven days, one at a time. It starts when you wake up and finishes when you go to sleep(!?)
2007-02-02 07:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a close friend or a sister that could come and stay with you a couple of days to help with the load a little? If not, then just take deep breaths and take it one step at a time. Explain to everyone -- kids and mum too -- that you have a lot going on right now, and with hubby gone, you're going to need their love, help, and patience. You'll be fine. Try not to jump before you're shot.
2007-02-02 07:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is going for business, not fun, he is going to help you and your family have a better life, he is going because it is part of his job. Keep these thoughts in mind as you go about your week doing what is ever necessary to deal with, You can do this and give your self credit,As for your dificult mom Tell her to back off, you are an adult and if she can not respect you in that position you will no longer accept any negative comments so if she isn't going to be help ful, do not visit. or talk
2007-02-02 07:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby works aboard as theres no work here.I put up with it infact I have be come a stronger person.I deal with everything & yes sometimes it gets too much.I just deal with it & dream of the day the morgage will be paid off.If possible my aim is this year.
2007-02-02 07:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insperations note for u
l felt uplifted, as if l erer seeing over the top of a mountain, and to tell u the truth, we can handle it , women can breath the air at these altitudes, we can do the job that needs to be done.
dont doubt urself and think that u cant do this, give urself credit and know that u can do anything. good luck
2007-02-02 09:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the week off work go away with the kids everything will be there when your hubby gets back
2007-02-02 07:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by fergie 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems a bit odd that he's leaving you the week you are expected to undergo all these changes! Just tell him you'll wait til he gets home to do all this together!
2007-02-02 18:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋