Ive known a guy in work for just under 18 months when i first started we got on like a house on fire but once i felt i had feelings for him as im shy myself i didnt know how to express myself with him. I really feel like he likes me and thats why hes shy/nervous round me and not other gals yet when i go on work dos i have to initate convo with him as he tends to just stand there yet we have good convos in work like he shares family stories,problems we have the same interests. As ive backed off from him when i now talk to him when i finish what ive to say hell say something or stand there to see if i still want to talk to him or to keep me there. I am so confused as i thought on work dos it would give him chance to make move but he doesnt. Should i make more effort with him. I sensed that electric feeling from him so i hope i didnt get it 100 per cent wrong
2007-02-02 06:47:54 · 16 answers · asked by ludvigjs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes give it a go :o)
2007-02-02 06:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be too biased to answer this question, but I'll do it.
If you're not quite as shy as the guy, it can be very frustrating. I just broke up with my shy boyfriend of 7 1/2 years. It was impossible to talk to him, especially about serious things. I just felt like I never knew what he was thinking and I needed to know those things.
Just know that it's the most frustrating thing in the world to be in a relationship with a shy guy that won't talk.
2007-02-02 07:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mikala M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I my self a shy guy, i substitute into opened to women yet then I replay all what i substitute into saying and the SMS I despatched, i found out how stupid and twaddle i substitute into .. better of staying quiet that feeling sense sorry approximately, additionally maximum of cases Iam attracted to a undeniable female that i don't even care with regard to the others, It should not be regularly occurring in spite of the undeniable fact that If it incredibly is that severe
2016-10-16 11:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm suprised! Before I came on this website I didn't realise that there were so many shy men...I thought I was sort of alone in that respect!
Shy, or "introverted", men rarely, if ever, make the initial contact. Even when we have had a drink, it is quite hard, and the more self-conscience of us may even worry that the may become more extroverted than is good for us! Keep trying, you'll succed!
2007-02-02 07:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're really into someone, you overcome your shyness. And if you were *really* into him, you'd do the same. Are you sure you're not just focusing on him for the sake of focusing on someone? You have to decide how strong your feelings are and then you have to let him know. Men are obtuse! Hints and subtleties do not work! I know that's probably the hardest thing in the world, and hearing what you don't want to hear is even worse, but you have to do it or you'll be mooning over him forever and then when someone real comes along you'll miss it. Good luck!
2007-02-02 07:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by whitequeen2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has been treated badly in the past and finds it difficult to talk to women. People who are shy can come out of their shell if the other person is patient and keeps talking to them. I have been there. People who do not know me think I am shy but if I am with a group of friends who have got to know the real me I definitely come out of my shell. Just give the guy a chance. He may need a little nudge tho!!
2007-02-02 06:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think really u wanna get 2 know him better. Keep it cool/casual/relaxed round him. If he feels at ease again with u, u got the chance of gettin on real well again! Sounds like u want that. U wanna get him talkin like u use to. When its going on between u, ur both in best position to take it further n c wot happens.
U best trying to find out bout him cos other wise u wonderin wot coulda been! Thats no gud. Gud luck
2007-02-02 07:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by corkie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guy + good conversation = gay
Just kidding, but do consider it. If you talk to him that much he should be able to overcome any shyness. Does he know you are interested? MAKE IT OBVIOUS. If he is that shy he adores you and is a little intimidated/scared of losing the dream of what you could have together. Make the first move, it could change your life forever.
2007-02-02 07:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Wes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem with my current boyfriend. He was really shy and didn't really talk much to anyone else, but he would always come to hang out with us after work and although he opened up to me, he never opened up to our friends. I took the chance and told him I liked him and we've been together since. Sometimes it's worth taking a chance.
2007-02-02 07:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a good chance he likes you. I am very shy myself, and barely glance at girls that I really like. If you are both shy, then one of you will have to make a move sooner or later, so let it be you.
2007-02-02 10:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by timmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I know because I'm one of them.
When someone's very shy, it's almost impossible to say the things you want to in certain situations, no matter how much you wish to.
2007-02-02 06:51:13 · answer #11 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋