would you tell a guy that is future wife is cheating on him?
this girl that i know from a group of friends starting cheating on him when they first met years ago. then, she stayed clean w/o cheating for the longest time. all of the sudden she started having this fling with this guy and it has gone on now for 8 months. she claims that the ring on her finger means nothing, and she loves the guy she has on the side. would anyone of you tell her future husband that she has... and still is cheating on him? or would you just let things slide and fall where they might? i think he should have a right to know, and i know if i was getting married and b.s. was going on behind my back, id want to know before we got hitched. i have been cheated on before and it feels like someone kicked me in the chest where i couldnt breathe. why get married under a false sense of love and trust. what you do guys think?
2007-02-02 06:40:48 · 17 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him
2007-02-02 06:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, a part of me would want to say something to the guy, simply because I would feel like if I didn't, I was just as guilty as the cheater. But I think I might say something to the offender 1st like if you don't tell him, I'm going to. She obviously doesn't care about the actual relationship with her fiance' or she wouldn't be doing and SAYING the stuff that she is. If she has a problem with it just tell her that since she's oh-so-in-love with her man candy, you think it would be a favor to herself just to be where her heart is and to stop with the charade. It's a whole lot easier to end a relationship before marriage than it is after.
2007-02-02 14:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by semisweetened 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him, he probably won't believe you. Then he will tell the girlfriend, they both will turn against you. You have to work it so he can SEE with his own eyes that she is cheating. Good luck to you. Sounds like your guy friend needs a lot of help, and more friends llike you.
2007-02-02 14:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him but then on the other hand sometimes it is better to stay out of situations like this one . If she lies her way out of it then it will just fall back to you and will cause hard feelings between the two of you for now ,, but once he sees it for himself then he would have wished he listened . This has happened to me telling my bf and her hubby lied out of it and i looked so stupid ... Good Luck
2007-02-02 14:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by cj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know. He would want to know. But beware, that girl will not be your friend after you tell the guy. But it souns like she's a piece of s h i t anyway and wouldn't make a very trustworthy friend.
2007-02-02 14:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. If you don't want to get involved keep it anonymous, but give him details so he can figure it out on his own. He probably won't trust an anonymous tip.
2007-02-02 14:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by slov72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough call,because he might get mad at you and lose a friend....Send him an anonymous letter with all the details and end it with FROM A GOOD FRIEND THAT DOESN'T WANT TO SEE YOU GET HURT AFTER MARRIAGE.
2007-02-02 14:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by oohJOHNNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but I think you're right. The groom to be needs to know. Why should he be the one to look like a fool on his wedding day. She doesn't deserve the grandeur of the day. TELL HIM NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-02 14:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell the husband...even if the girl was my bestfriend i would tell the guy,becuz thats wrong..why tell someone you love them everynight and say yes to a marrige????it doesnt make sense...i would tell the husband....forget her,...shes a *&%...
if you dont tell him and let the bs keep going then in the end the guy is ganna give you a piece of his mind if he knew you knew....
so tell him.....GOOD luck..
love katina!~!
2007-02-02 14:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried to tell my best friend that her fiance' was cheating and she believed him that he was wasn't. They were married almost 3 years when she found out for herself.
2007-02-02 14:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know. He needs to have a chance to break it off with her now, instead of paying big $$$ for a divorce.
2007-02-02 14:44:50 · answer #11 · answered by Chevy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋