daughter heartbroken?

Question

I have a mother who is a drug addict, she has never been in my life sometimes she has but my grandmother has raise for 14 years but im 17. My mother doesnt want to get help she only see by leaving and live somewhere else. do you think a mother should get treatment and be part of her kids lives?

Answer 1

Of course she should. But if she's not willing to do that, then you musn't waste your time thinking about her. She's clearly chosen the drugs over you and is not strong enough at the present time to do what's right. That doesn't mean that you are not worthy, or that it is your fault in any way. Drugs can have a powerful hold over people so that they cannot see what truly matters. Realize that you are a good and worthy person. Be thankful to your grandma for taking care of you and do everything in your power to make sure that you have a good future ahead of you. Get your education, stay away from the wrong crowd and do what's best for you. Remember that drug problems can be hereditary so it's very important to stay away from drugs and alcohol, especially in light of your mom's history. Stay strong.

Answer 2

Of course your mother SHOULD get treatment and be part of your life.
But you will have to accept the fact that she has not, and is not likely to. People who have addictions are often like that.
Your grandmother is your true mother. That is a fact. At least you have her.
Whatever your childhood was like, you are almost an adult now and need to build your own life. Don't pine for your birth mother. Even if she should get sober now, there is no way she could make up for the past. It is up to you to have a healthy future.
I wish you well.

Answer 3

Definitely she should be in her childres lives even if u guys are 45 yrs old. The problem is the drugs are clouding her judgement and every since the first time she ever used she is never gonna be the same. Not to say its supposed to be easy to leave it alone and move on cause its not but if u want her to get better u have to give her an ultimatuum. Either she gets clean or stay out of your life. I know shes your mother but the drug abuse is not only hurting herself it is hurting u too and u dont deserve that.

Answer 4

Honey thats a hard one. I am a foster mom who has raised 3 kids from different moms that were drug offenders of which non of them got help. It is a sad thing and a painful one as well, unfortunatly the drug over takes the brain and she can't get help because she is sick. its like a disease. I know it is hard to understand but when you grow up and become a mother, do your very best to be the best parent you can and break the cycle of this drug addiction! I feel for you and am praying for you.

and Yes, I think she should get treatment but realistically she probably won't. Love her for what she is, take the anger out of the feeling and remember she is sick. And do your very best NOT to be like her!

Good luck sweetheart!

Answer 5

Of course she should seek help. But she has to want to make a change. You have to remember that her shortcomings have NOT one thing to do with you. You are lucky to have your grandmother, some kids don't have anyone. You are going to be an adult soon, learn from your mother, learn how not to continue the cycle of bad parenting. I talk from experience. My mother and father divorced when I was 5 and neither wanted me, and they were not on drugs, they were bad parents sober. My grandmother did most of the raising. You have no control of what's happened to you in the past, but you have control of your future.

Warm wishes :-)

Answer 6

I think she should get treatment, but the chances are she is not going to do it. Love your Grand ma. She is there for you and if you keep expecting your mom to be there for you, knowing what she is, then you are setting yourself up to be hurt every-time. I know, I too had a drug addicted mom and now I am 39 she is 65 and in end stage renal failure (Kidneys) brought on by her drug use. Believe me when I tell you, you will not be able to help your mom. Only she can chose to get better and it won't be for you. It will have to be for herself.
Grandma Loves you young lady and she is there.
Tracylyn S

Answer 7

My father is a drug addict and honestly i think it's better that he isn't in my life or my younger brothers. my mother raised us all on her own. i value her that much more for that reason. sometimes people are too selfish to realize what is most important. your mother should get treatment but only if she wants to. if you try to force her it will not work, she will just relapse. My father has been in and out of rehabs just to please people in the family and he just goes back to his old habits which hurts even more.

Answer 8

Life can be so hard. This is unfair on you. Yes, of course she should get treatment, but she probably won't. So youj've got to get on with your own life and learn from her mistakes. You know you will never do that to your own children - you've seen what drugs do. It is a hard lesson but it has made you a better person. My son was into drugs. Drugs ruin families. But you won't let that happen to yours.
Good luck.

Answer 9

Thats really sad. Of course your mother should get help but she is the adult and needs to make the decision for herself. You're young and need to live your own life. Work hard at school, get a good job and do for your own kids what your mother never did for you. I really hope it works out for you.

Answer 10

Addiction is a terrible thing; sometimes people have already
ruined their bodies and can never be normal. At least
you can see what happened to her, and learn from it. You
can keep your own body healthy. Maybe you could find
God in your life somehow through a church, and I hope
somehow God can heal you from this tragedy. Thank God
for your grandmother.