My church....naked pictures....21 year old girl ...16 year old boy (preachers son)?

Question

There is a 21 year old at my church. She is pretty and educated and is really nice. She is kinda like the youth group leader there. Well, theres this guy that goes and hes the preachers son... and I found out that she has been sending naked pictures to him!! and he is 16 and she is 21. I am 100% positive this is true and I asked him about it and he said " yeah it's true, but don't tell anybody." Well you know, I just had to tell my best friend that goes to our church also, so I wrote her a note and I changed pants and threw the pants in the washer and my mom found the note and yeahh lets just say she knows all about it. She says she has to tell. I mean when I think about it, she is 21 and he's 16 and that's illegal and I know that if she were a guy and he were a girl things would be a whole lot worse. but her grandpa and grandma have been going there for like 40 years and her mom and dad do too, and they are really respected there. I don't want to break the church up. what do I do?

Answer 1

You won't break up the church, but it won't be pretty or comfortable for anyone. That type of behavior is totally inappropriate for a youth leader, especially in a church setting. The pastor needs to know, tell him privately asap. Pastor's kids are notorious for rebelling and causing trouble. You won't be doing anyone a favor by keeping this under your hat. The gal needs to have a reality check, hopefully the pastor will be able to sit down with her and confront her in a calm and rational manner.