Ladies, do you prefer a gentleman or do you like the more modern man and his manners?

Question

Being as I am in the older catagory of 35 I was brought up to be asked out, and have doors opened and stuff, deep down even though there is equality now I still prefer a gentlman to ask me out, open doors etc etc, as it makes a woman feel so nice, do you agree or disagree, be interesting to know your ages too, and whether it relates to your opinions...

Well I am quite amazed at this thread, some nice answers by fellas too, I really thought most ladies would probably say equality, to be honest I thought I was one of the only gals left who liked gentlemen! LOL, just shows you that girls love to be treated special. It is confusing when the edges are blurred, whether a woman pays her way like for dinner etc, but I suppose you gravitate naturally to someone who appreciates that, thanks to the gentlemen on this thread that are still in exsistance out there, you are appreciated by some of us here :-)

Answer 1

My Dad never said much, he was a quiet man. On my 18th birthday he took me to his "working mans club" for a beer (Which I paid for all night) and told me "a few things about women". I'll never forget them until the day I die. And in a sense I am proud to think that I have lived to his "rules". They were:

Never swear in front of a lady.

Always open a door for a lady.

There are no circumstances whatsoever why you should hit a lady.(Goes without saying!!)

You never force your intentions on to a lady. (I knew straight away what he meant!!)

Always walk on the side nearest the road when with a lady????

A real man never abandons a lady or his responsibilities. (I later realised that this meant if you got her pregnant)

"Follow these rules son and you'll be all right"

He was my hero and I miss him badly, but he was a true quiet gent. Hope I manage to live up to his standards.

Answer 2

From an old fashioned guy of 32's point of view. I do the gentlemanly thing and don't get much complaints, but one thing i've found hard over the last few years is letting a woman pay her way. If I take a woman out, I take her out, but nowadays you all want to buy a round or share the cost of the meal, which i feel a bit uncomfortable with. Since splitting with my girlfriend after 8 years and starting dating again, this is the biggest change i've noticed. I have been told a few times i'm too nice and by the amount of times i've been dumped i've realised that some girls just like the bad guys better.

Answer 3

It makes all the difference to feel you are with a gentleman. I'm a similar age to you but I don't think that matters. I don't care how far we get culturally on the 'equality' thing, women want to feel looked after and having someone treat you like a precious jewel is always going to be better. Somehow having doors opened or being asked out makes you feel thought of as special. Don't settle for anything less, I say!!

Answer 4

I prefer a gentleman as well. I'm also on the older side around here . . .40 . . . and I'm sure that does have something to do with it. I'm all for pulling my own weight and bringing in a paycheck to pay my half of the bills but I like to have a guy open the door for me and take me out every now and then.

Answer 5

I'm 40 and my first husband was a couple of years older than me. We met on a blind date and paid everything equally. Our marriage was a mess, he was a deadbeat, I did everything! I put him though college twice and he never held down a job longer than 9 months in our 16yr marriage. I never had a door held open for me or had a meal made for me.
The man I am with now is 8 yrs younger than me and won't let me open a door, if he is home from work before me he starts dinner, he does laundry, vacuuming, he helps me with my coat every morning and is a wonderful lover.
Believe me I prefer a GENTLEMAN!

Answer 6

I'm 46 and I still believe that if I ask someone out, it's just polite to treat them like a gentleman. It's really nothing more than treating them the way I would treat anyone else I was out with. If I was on a date with a lady and it made her angry then we aren't right for each other anyway.

Answer 7

I agree whole heartedly. I'm an old fashioned kind of guy but I also like for the ladies to ask me out. I have a bad problem with asking women out and they end up being gay or something like that.

Oh by the way, you wanna go out for dinner and a movie some time?

Answer 8

I prefer kindness, which usually manifests itself in gentlemanly behavior.

I think it works better for a man to ask a woman out - if they take the trouble to ask, then you know they want to go out with you enough to make an effort. Plus there's that inherent tendency towards competition that men have.

I think that's why all those seasons of "The Bachelor" have never resulted in a marriage, but the first episode of "The Bachelorette" **did**: have 25 girls fight over a guy, and he thinks, "Well, if I can get these 25 to fight over me, who else can I get to fight over me?" Have 25 guys fight over a girl, and those 25 guys will scratch and claw each other to death trying to get at the "prize." I think it's just their instinct.

I'm all for paying my own way with someone I see/ date regularly, but I think the guy should pay for the first couple of dates if he possibly can.

Answer 9

well now a days...its a bit of both...iv meet someone who is shy but at same time a modern and gentleman type..opens doors..pushs the chair out for me and i kinda of let him know when i was available then he just gave me a call and we went out...its not always him to ask u out..its 50/50...thats my opinion..i could be wrong..

Answer 10

i love my man, he is a real gentleman,met him when i was 18 and im now 31,there is a ten year age gap between us and everyone didn't approve,we proved them wrong,he sends me flowers every 3 days,little love notes all around the house,wines and dines me,plus we ave 2 lovely boys,a gentleman knows how to treat a lady