My ten year old got detention for calling a mexican boy a heart eater, for hitting him. why was he punished?

Question

I feel he was right for not hitting back. The boy learned a lesson too i believe...whats your take?

Answer 1

Name calling is inappropriate at any age. Racist remarks are a product of poor parenting skills. You should be teaching tolerance in your home not racism & name calling. Teach him that we are all different but it doesn't make anyone any better. They should both be punished.

Answer 2

He was punished because he called the boy a heart eater. Although usually calling another kid a heart eater won't get you a detention. But the fact that it happened because of being punched didn't help much. Also if one boy got punished and the other didn't there will always be a grudge held between them. Even though there would be a grudge already because of the fight the grudge would be worse if the punishment was uneven.

Oh and don't tell this to your son but he probably would have been much better off punching him back. He would get the same amount of detention as the mexican boy if he had punched back and he unfortunately might be called a wussy the rest of his k-8 schooling career.

Answer 3

I imagine your son plays video games because the only meaning I have found for the phrase "heart eater" has been on a game site. If this is so, this is quite a sophisticated insult for a ten year-old. Why he would have equated a Mexican boy with a heart-eater only goes to show that he is learning this "advanced" type of discrimination from someone else. I doubt your son even fully understood what came out of his own mouth. Are there many people in your town prejudiced against Mexicans. Did you or your husband (brothers, sisters) ever tell your son that Mexicans are like "heart-eaters"?

Bullying with words is no different and just as damaging as doing it with fists. This child, no matter his nationality, color, gender, creed, etc. was wrong to have hit your child. I'm sure he is receiving detention. Your son was wrong for calling this boy a hurtful name. The fact that he did it afterward isn't an excuse in the eyes of the school board. They both deserve their detentions. I hope both boys will learn some valuable lessons. You should speak to your son about bias and how all people are the same. Let him know he should make his judgments regarding friends based upon whether or not a child treats him nicely and not upon the his or her nationality.

I think they both have something to learn. This may be the best way (and time) to teach it.

All the best.

Answer 4

hmmmm... Your 10 year old calls a Mexican kid a heart eater and( in another question) your 6 year old calls a white kid a cannibal... What are you teaching your kids???
Why don't you try the truth-- WE are all spirit souls temporarily in different types of bodies. Our Father (Creator, Mother--- whatever term you wish to use) is One--- that makes us all brothers and sisters, regardless of our temporary bodily color or place of birth.
Kids only say what they've been taught. Shame on you for perpetrating bigotry, and racial and national prejudices. You seem to be contributing to the disgusting state the world is in where everyone who is not part of my "team" is the enemy.
Yes, your child was right not to hit back--- and the child who hit should have been corrected. But the cycle has to stop somewhere--- and who knows, maybe your kid said something first that enraged the other boy. Not right for him to hit, but if you teach your kid how to see other people properly and respectfully, chances are such situations will not happen so frequently.

Answer 5

He was correct in not hitting back but calling names is just as bad. If he was the only one receiving detention, then that is not fair. Hopefully, both boys received detention and learned a valuable lesson.

Hey Hailey - what nationality are you that you are above it all? Your answer identifies you as part of this world's problems and you are defined as ignorant.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Having been a teacher and (still) a parent, I can see both sides' perspectives. The administrators & teachers have to do all they can do defuse violence, especially nowadays! Also, if race is involved, or sometimes, even when it's not, things can get pretty nasty, say outside school (kids getting their friends involved). That's why they often punish BOTH kids involved, even if one used words alone.

I USED to tell my kid "don't hit back but just insult them if they're mean". He got quite good at it, and it worked while he was in grammar school (by the way, my kid is a very mellow, non-violent child!) Eventually, when he got to middle school, it backfired, when one kid punched him very hard! Now, I tell him not to be afraid of being thought a "wimp" if he reports teasing or violence to the teachers, if it doesn't stop.

Teach your son to recognize the reasons WHY some kids are violent (being victims of bullies, lack of self-control & good role models, medical/psychological problems, culture and so on--in short: they are messed up!). Then tell him to ignore insults that are just simple, or to say,"whatever" and walk (don't run!) away.

Then, if the kid persists, your son should involve teachers and administrators. Mediation often helps. If not, inform the school you will press charges if your son is assaulted again (it IS a far worse offense than any verbal thing, no matter what is said!). Don't be afraid to follow through with it. I did when the kid hit my son (this kid had a history of escalating violence, though they'd once been friends). He was put on probation and the next kid he hit resulted in a trip to juvenile lock-up! HIs home situation was so bad, he was put in foster care for 3 yrs.

He avoided my kid after that, but DID threaten revenge. I called his mother AND the court and reported this, so he was watched closely.

It really STINKS that we have to worry about these things when our kids SHOULD be concentrating on learning! Society is in BAD need of a big fix!

Answer 8

Calling another boy a name is breaking a rule, just like hitting someone. Both boys did something wrong, so both were punished. You need to have a serious conversation with your son. While I don't hold with "political correctness", I also don't call other people names just to hurt their feelings.

Answer 9

take it to the school board - the school is discriminating against you whatever your race or religion, both boys should have been punished!! i would not let him serve the detention until both boys get the same punishment or no punishment at all. good luck

Answer 10

depending on where you live,a 10 year old can be arrested or given a citation for assault.
If your child got detention for hitting another child,he got off lucky !