My boyfriend & I are both 22 & have been together for a year & a half, have NO children & we also live together. Up until about 2 months ago our sex life was great..we'd do it at least 4-5 times a week but now a days our sex life is non-exisistent I am lucky if I can get it 1 x a week or even 1x every 2 weeks. I have asked him plenty of times why this is the case. His replies are usually, "im tired", "i have too much on my mind" or " Im too stressed". These exsuces were okay for a while but now I really dont believe them anymore...they are getting old. I know he's not cheating on me, as I have looked into it and am 100% positive. The thing is when I bring it up he gets very angry about it and it leads to a full blown arguement which is never my intenion.He tells me I am sexy, beautiful and that he loves me ...so then why does he never want sexual intimacy with me??? Thanks for the advice:-)
2007-02-02 06:24:28 · 30 answers · asked by angeleyez410 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-02 06:45:33 · update #1
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2007-02-02 06:48:07 · update #2
It really hurts when you feel like he doesn't find you sexy, right? I've been through the same thing. First of all, I would find out if he's satifying his urges with porn (if he is, and he's chosing porn over you, I would leave. This problem will not go away)
Secondly, sometimes sex just gets stale, you could try to introduce some fun new things to the bedroom. You could suprise him with a sexy new outfit or even some toys. Or ask if there's something he'd like to try. See if you can re-awaken his fantacies.
Lastly, if you are not happy and not being satisfied, don't hang out and wait too much longer. A year and a half is not that long and you are much better off finding someone who will fullfull your needs
2007-02-02 06:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by arwens_curse 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like he's just looking for a way out of the relationship. I'm not going to suggest that he is getting it somewhere else, but that is a very real possibility. At that age, most guys are bragging about how much they are getting, so this is just not normal.
Has he had a medical check up lately? Maybe he is just stressed over finances, the best thing to do is to talk to his friends or even his co-workers and get a idea of what he might be thinking.
Good luck!
2007-02-02 14:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a basic human need. There are a lot of couples out there who are having the same problem & do not know the answer to it. Have you been monitoring his behavior around you? Did you ever notice that he looks at other women? usually, a guy shows signs of no interest when his eyes start wandering. The best things to do is first off, DO NOT ASSUME anything. Your both in this relationship, you should tell him that this is starting to really, really bother you & you want to know what the heck is up with him. Sex is NOT the most important thing in a relationship, but it is "one of the most important" things in a relationship depending on how young you both are. Your NOT married & his reasons could be a number of things. You will NOT know until he really talks to you & be honest about it. Again, we don't want to assume the worse. So, it's best that you & your boyfriend start working on your communication with each other.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-02 14:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well is he actually tired and stressed? If this has only been going on for two months, he might recover from it. If it's an otherwise good relationship, you should hang in there. Try to spice things up a bit and see if that helps. Be understanding and not critical. However if his sex drive continues to go down the tube with no effort on his part to change that, it will probably be much worse in five years if you get married. Be optimistic but don't lock yourself in to a sexless existance.
2007-02-02 14:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a great deal of things that are going on that have nothing to do with cheating. He may be having some problems at work or financial issues. For guys it doesnt take a lot of stress to take the wind out of our sails. Give him a bit more time to see if things work out and if they dont then ask him if there is anything bothering him. he may just not feel like being the one to bring up his problems that he is having. just stick by his side and all will turn out in the end.
2007-02-10 14:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He is lying to you. Testosterone dicktates that men need some form of release, unless his sex drive is completely gone.
2. He is getting his fix somewhere else. He may not be cheating per say, but he is not involving you in his release.
3. He gets angry because there is some internal battle that he is fighting. He is not letting you in. It may be something about you or some secret that he has a problem with.
4. He does not want to hurt you. It is hard to trust what he says for this reason.
2007-02-02 14:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by Wes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows you are cheating also. You may be to young to understand this but looks only help the package. If you don't stimulate him mentally with some good conversation or money or food he is probably a real man that wants a real woman. Also if you know he cheated and you are still with him he probably thinks of you as a pet instead of a girlfriend.
2007-02-09 12:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by liemus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he has problems at work that he doesn't want to discuss or he has a new girlfriend and can't take care of you both. Oh, by the way, the new girlfriend may be porn on the computer.
check the history and see where he has been surfing to. If it's deleted, he's hiding something.
if you want a compliment you will get plenty from those pics. you are drop dead gorgeous. can I add you?
2007-02-02 14:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men go through stages where the priorities kinda change.. or actually its more like a shift in priorities.. sometimes we volunteer to work overtime to have money to buy an expensive present for our lived ones..I have done this in the past. and came home tired too..and sleep was my biggest priority, and almost lost the girl in th process... anyway, that is another possibility.. after all valentines day is coming up soon and its still not too late to be buying NICE present for you.. I hope that is the case
2007-02-10 13:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by road runner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he really is too stressed right now. You should give him some time to workout his stress so that he doesn't resent you.
Women are allowed to ask for space in that department and men should be able to as well. Invest in a toy or something until he comes around.
2007-02-02 14:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by JT 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋