I have two kids that i have sole custody of most things are cool with my youngest ones mother but my older child s mother was hooked on drugs and she got all of her rights taken away by te court. now (6 years later) she is off drugs i told her i need help money wise (i asked for $100.00) a month. she said she dosen't have to pay since she had her rights removed. i thinks she is wrong. i told her that when the child turns 18 her helping out will influence the out come in the relationship. sorry this is so long i think i just needed to vent for a min....
one reason she said she can't help is she needs to get things taken care for her self.. like a car her teeth fixed, and school
2007-02-02 06:20:27 · 13 answers · asked by talonmcl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am not positive but I think legally she is correct. Although she does not sound like someone who cares much about her child. She should offer to pay child support and $100 a month is practically nothing.
2007-02-02 06:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no lawyer but this is what i have learned from my family who has this problem. Usually as soon as you open the " child support " can of worms you also open up the " visitation rights " can as well. If she had all of her rights removed then that may change things. You will need to go through the court system again and find out what she is responsible for and so on. THis may not help you out right this minute financially but it can for future times if she does get an income and some money. You really need to talk to your children about their mom and give them some counseling, if you havent already. This is especially true if she has a chance of coming back into their life. I wish you luck and am really proud of you, a dad, for taking control of their well being and care.
2007-02-02 14:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not give up your parental rights to avoid paying child support...however..if your rights are removed by the courts, then your obligation to pay support is also removed.
A more basic question is how your kids feel about her. The last thing you want to do is be seen by your kids as having been the reason they couldn't have a relationship with their mother.
2007-02-02 15:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by J D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she has no parental rights, she has no parental responsibilities. However, if you are letting her see the kids, she should give you something. Threaten to keep the kids away if she can't come up with some sort of help. Since she has no parental rights, there's nothing she can do except go back to court and try to prove that she has improved her life.
If she has money for a lawyer, she has money to help out her children.
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2007-02-02 14:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Shaft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live but where i live even if you give up your parental rights or have them taken away you are still obligated to pay support. I am a mother of 3 teenage boys. My ex-husband and I share custody but they live with him over 2,000 km's away and I have not seen or talked to two of them in over 2yrs. I still pay my support in hopes that some day I will hear from them again. I hope that the mother of your child will see it in her heart to be able to send some money to help you out, it's only fair, you are raising her child.
2007-02-02 14:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by nibbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just because she lost her rights to the child she still has to support it.
Talk to the courts about it. It is no different then any guy paying support.
I think she has to pay 21% of her income in support
2007-02-02 14:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be for the Court to decide. But if they Gave you Legal Custody of you're Grandchild you might be responsible. You might be able to take her to Cout for Assistance
2007-02-02 14:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by mdlbldrmatt135 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW all I have to say that there are NOT enough men like you in this world. Way to step up and be a dad. I applaud you my friend! You are one amazing parents and I wish you and your kids all the luck in the world. She will regret this later when her kids will avoid her. I'm so touched but this....
2007-02-02 14:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Queen of Kings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is Still responsible she is still a parent! Check with your local DA for the support and get an order and garnish her wages. I am not sure where you are but in CA she would be fried
2007-02-02 14:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sparkling♥Jules♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well should doesnt have parental right but if you let her see the kids then she needs to be involved in kids life. Strongly her children should come first before her i wish my mother can see that but she doesnt
2007-02-02 14:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by airplanes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋