I met this woman online at a christian dating site about a month or so ago, I think we hit it off, had a lot in common, and have talked to each other off and on by phone ever since. She is local, which makes it nice, and her schedule is very chaotic. I have yet to meet her, and I asked her to do something(whatever she wanted to do, so she is comfortable) and she said give me a few weeks) Prior to that question, I didn't hear from her for about 6 days, she finally called and said the reason she didn't call was because of her being busy, with schooling and a job. She cannot afford to mess up in school too much, or else she fails. My schedule isn't all that bad, so I have time. Last week she called Thur. Fri. and Sun., and now I haven't heard from her since then.
So, my question is: What is your taking on this situation? What are some things I can do?
All help and opinions are very much appreciated!
2007-02-02 05:56:42 · 12 answers · asked by Light Bringer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NinaFresa - I called her and finally got a hold of her and then I asked her to do something. Because she was busy, she said give me a few weeks.
2007-02-02 06:05:39 · update #1
Look at the BIG picture you will never be first in her life for awhile, if that is important to you now it won't work. She seems very devoted to her schooling as I'am and Im married. My husband understands my school comes first because of the end result a better life for both of us. Its a meeting in the middle sort of thing. I'd personally get a hobby in between if you really click. Stay busy instead of by the phone! Go hang out with your buddies or when she calls don't call her back for awhile just to see how serious she really is.. if she keeps calling then she really is sincere but if she calls only once and thats it then you know her schedule comes first sorry...
2007-02-02 06:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by anabanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she could be genuinely busy with her hectic schedule BUT I would have thought/wondered why join a dating site if she is really too busy! (that's just my opinion though). You don't mention if she has a young family (which she may not wish to disclose about) which will add to her schedule. She may even feel shy, she may perhaps be overweight and feel self conscious etc etc.
It may be that she is working shifts due to the pattern of her speaking to you sequentially on those days and then not hearing from her since.
If you haven't met her in real life and she keeps on putting off meeting up - afterall it is only a month since you were both chatting, she may just be wary or cautious about meeting a strange man in real life for the moment. I would suggest giving her time to come round to the idea so that she will be reassured about meeting you and will know of your intentions between now and then.
I can't suggest anything else apart from asking her outright if she has a problem about meeting you.
2007-02-02 14:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may have something to hide or that she is genuinely just very busy. She may also be on the guard just trying to see if your really who you are and if your for real. Do you call her? Don't be afraid to do so just don't leave a lot of messages like your desperate or anything. Let her know your still there and if you feel a bad vibe she just may not have the courage to break it off. Call her 1-2 times. Wait ..... then let her go.
2007-02-02 14:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by madmomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be upon u to decide wetha u want her type or u want someone who will be abit flexible for ur sake .I think all shes doing is standing firm on her principles but if u think u can change her,. then u gotta be patient and work it slow .she could on the other handlack feelings for u so first clarify from her if she feels the same way u do about her.good luck
2007-02-02 14:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by risola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, so have you met her? Or you have yet to met her?
What do you mean when u wrote: and I asked her to do something(whatever she wanted to do, so she is comfortable) and she said give me a few weeks)
2007-02-02 14:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this person only sees you as someone she can talk to. I think that sometimes if a person has a very busy life, they just need someone to talk to and I think that's all you are to her at this point. If you really are interested in getting to know her, just let her know. If she's not interested, she'll let you know.
Good Luck!
2007-02-02 14:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Danie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be shy, besides really busy. My view is if it's meant to happen it will happen, give her some space, and don't stop looking just because you think she might be the one. What is your hurry? Just relax and take it as it comes, what else can you do?
2007-02-02 14:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her at a good timing if not wait for her to call. Don't be too anxious about it, keep yourself busy. You still have better things to do, right.
2007-02-02 14:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by ButterMilkQueso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her, be understanding that she is busy. It is tough because it seems like you want to spend some time with her and she is unable to commit to that time. I would not fault her for trying to be sucessful, but it is your decision as to whether you want to continue to be involved with a person that doesn't have the time that you desire from them.
2007-02-02 14:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by Tedo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE SOUNDS HESITANT ABOUT MEETING SUMBODY OFF THE INTERNET WITH GOOD REASON TOO, ITS NOT YOU ITS SHES AFRAID YOU MITE TURN OUT TO BE A PSYCHO WIT AN AXE. ASK HER TO MEET YOU IN A VERY PUBLIC PLACE IM SURE SHE WOULD B OK WIT THAT
2007-02-02 14:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by Daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋