i spoke to a few people who did not seem intrested in me or were chatting to their friends i felt like a right lemon standing around. A person should not feel lonesome in a church
2007-02-02 05:38:29 · 13 answers · asked by denise g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take a friend with you next time.
2007-02-02 05:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you first have to understand that we as a society are prone to expect perfection and all their needs met from the church and the people in them. Really that is not reality because the people in those churches are as much in need as you only difference is they've been there longer and are more familiar with the people and the facilities in the building. A church is a place to gather with other believers that are learning to live a life that is pleasing to God through the support of other believers. Once you go to a church it is true that there will be clicks but after you find one that you commit to you will no doubt become a member of one also. There is really nothing wrong with that because although we are called to love each other, it does not mean that you have to keep close continual company with everyone...it's just not possible! If you learn this an accept it, you will have matured to a point beyond your years. Just learn to speak to people and if they snub you think that they may do it because they are somewhat like you and not comfortable with you yet. Some people are more socialable than others and that goes for those even in the church. Remember your first priority in church is not to socialize but to learn the Word of God. If you have to, go and sit and learn and get up and leave. If after a while people do not warm up to you then don't give up on God but maybe continue to speak to people or go to another church. Not all people in the church are at the level of maturity that you may want them to be. That knowledge should make you feel right at home knowing that some still aren't that much ahead of you in the "hospitality" and "love" department.
2007-02-02 14:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well also take into consideration, as a christian i feel like i have the right to say this, that many people in church almost play up being a christian, i mean i know a lot of Christians but you can tell just by driving in the parking lot that people are way nicer when in church than those same people are in daily life. I'm not saying they dont believe in the god, or that they are not real believers, i am just pointing out that sometimes people act different to appear a certain way. i feel like i relate to unbelievers a lot more since i came to Christianity when i was 18 yo, and because still most of my friends are unbelievers, that i can make the connection between their thoughts and feelings and what the bible says. sometimes when people have been christian for so long, they just cant relate to unbelievers, and the put themselves on a pedestal that is out of reach for someone looking for answers. i know church can be intimidating when starting out.
2007-02-02 13:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by corEy marsh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had that issue to at my church. I felt like no one saw me. I expected them to come up and want to start a conversation but until recenlty it came out in the sermon.
Sometimes you just have to shake hands with someone and say, Im new here and would like to make this place my home. Introduce yourself to the Pastor would be my approach. Don't sit in the very back sit in the first few rows. Good luck I hope this helped.
2007-02-02 13:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by anabanana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is your question? Why no one talked to you? First off you're right people in church shouldn't be like this, but in a church if you don't open up yourself to people then they assume that maybe you're uncomfortable or maybe that you don't want to be there. The next time you go to a church, make your prescence known and say hello and smile, then maybe you'll attract people. Though you shouldn't be going to talk to them anyway, you should be going because you want to be closer to God, if you weren't going there for that then you already went for the wrong reasons. Good luck hon!
2007-02-02 13:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously that wasn't the church for you.Keep visiting churches till you find a very friendly one ..Took me 12 churches once..it was worth the wait..good luck!
2007-02-02 13:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by ibsawdust 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it t akes time for people to get to know you in a church ot other public place if your church has a singles social where single folks get together it's a great way too make friends
2007-02-02 13:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by precious_52803 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try a different church, if you want friendly go to a small evangelical church!
2007-02-02 13:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by broncosfan1730 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Suggest to the pastor that he give a sermon to his congregation about loving thy neighbor. They need to hear it.
2007-02-02 14:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're never lonely if you have your "god", right? Talk to him. Loudly. In the open. Maybe people will like you then.
2007-02-02 13:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by HeatherLyn 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋