I told my bf about this semi-formal dance 2weeks ago (which he told me that he could go) and just today he told me he could no longer go because he has a dirt bike race to go to. I really love to dress up and go to dances....but dirtbike riding is his life just like dancing is mine. We have also been dating for 14 months now. he has been to my homecoming but thats pretty much it. should i go to his race with him that weekend or just go with out him? and by the way....i had dinner reservastions made, a dress, shoes, nail appt, & hair appt. Please help.
2007-02-02 05:36:06 · 22 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should sit him down and decide where you guys wanna go..and if you cant agree then go w/ friends to the dance i kno its not as fun but it could save you from a big fight or theres the cheating way and give him a really good guilt trip! Dont let him ruin your time go out and have some fun.
2007-02-02 05:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Eeeew, You didn't give him the 5th degree? 14 months is a long time to be dating and have something like this come up. He made a commitment to you and to the dance. Something that he wanted to do came up and he broke his commitment. Did he ask you if it was ok? How considerate of you do you think he is being? What is an acceptable reason to break such a commitment? Be sure he knows how much this means to you. Did he mean to go to the race 2 weeks ago and forget to tell you. It seems you may have a lack of communication. You both need to talk and work out a schedule so that together you can serve your interests. Cancel your appointments, make him pick a dance to go to and get him to make all of your appointments and arrangements. I bet next time he doesn't brush off a dance for a race.
2007-02-02 05:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Wes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is still very fresh, you need to start establishing who your going to be with him, sometimes you'll change a little sometimes you'll change alot, it all depends on how much you are willing to sacrifice, reserveations, shoes, nails whats next? Are you willing to take a chance or are you going to get a clue and be who you are and make him fall in love with you for who you are in making your own decisions. Don't for get not long ago you where strongly independent. Sometimes a girl has got to do what a girl has to do, and that is making the right decision, now and then, a good man is hard to find make sure you pick a winner not a looser or else you will both be lost. Stay strong and use your instincts for you are woman feel your wrath he shall.
2007-02-02 05:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by GRANPA1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life and relationships are all about compromise! I am sure the dance will not be in the afternoon as I'm pretty sure the race won't be in the evening. Talk to him ans see what kind of arrangement you can make. You have spent a lot of time and money on something that you really want and like. He should be considerate enough to accommodate you. As a guy, I would bend over backwards to satisfy you without forsaking my own interests.
2007-02-02 05:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this an important dance like homecoming or prom? Or is it just a regular dance? How often does he have his little dirt bike things? Can you cancel your appointments without repercussion? Answer these questions and you can get a better answer...
2007-02-02 05:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Tedo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out, he is not a man of his word. It is nice that you understand his passion for bikes, but he did say yes. He should do the sacrifice and miss this one because he already told you that he would go. You should not go alone. If he refuses, dump him and find someone to go with even if it is a platonic date.
2007-02-02 05:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go. If you start young in that pattern, it will define your relationships. So many women have given up their lives for men... making themself second. Putting the guys needs ahead of yours. Go. Have fun. Take a friend. Keep your life. He is to add to your life.. not take away. You need you first. You should never give up yourself for any man... not any part of you. A good relationsip, lets you both be yourselfs...sure you work on it.. but you neve give up your interests or goals or anything like that
2007-02-02 05:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I woul go to your dance still. Maybe go with a friend. But I wouldn't through away all the hard work that you have done for something you love doing. Good luck!
2007-02-02 05:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by luvbugs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He agreed to go to a dance and after you spend all that time and money on it, be backed out? Not cool. Go to the dance.
2007-02-02 05:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly what you are saying....I think women love to dress up and get all dolled up (nails,hair and makeup) where its no big deal to guys.......I say go ahead with your plans, you don't have to break up with him over it but you don't have to sacrifice something you love to do for something he wants to do. Get another date or go with some friends but definitely stick with what you want to do, because if you start sacrificing for him now it will expect you to do it all the time......
Go out and have fun with your friends-you won't regret it.
2007-02-02 05:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋