Please help me. My daughter is 4 and she has gotten into the bad habit of pitching these horrible tantrums.
Spanking makes it worse.
cold water doesn't work
time out-yeah right
Nothing works
What do I do to get her back under control?
This all started when she started going to Pre-K too!
2007-02-02 05:35:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When I was younger, my mother and god-mother would either put me n a cold shower or splash a glass of cold water in my face as I was having a tantrum. It worked. I ran into my room cried and fell asleep.
2007-02-02 06:15:14 · update #1
Tantrums are her way of getting your attention. You need to be able to stay very calm during her tantrum, be very consistent and let her know that what she is doing will not get her what she says she wants.
When she is not in the middle of a tantrum talk to her and let her know that throwing a tantrum will not get her what she wants. She is only 4 so she will more than likely keep throwing tantrums for awhile until she is sure that you are serious. I walked out of a grocery store one time with no groceries because my son was having a tantrum. We didn't have any food and he didn't have his favorite snacks but that was the consequence. He was about 4 and I told him that we would go back to the store the next day but that we would ONLY buy what was on the list. I told him he could put one thing on the list but that was it. Now that my kids are all older they still kid me about the list when I slip something in the cart that is Off the List.
Be consistent, loving and help her learn some strategies for getting her way without the tantrum. Then be sure and be ready to be patient when she does have a tantrum because this may take awhile but it will be worth it when she starts to use her new skills.
2007-02-02 06:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by Stayathomemom.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta be firm on the time out.
my daughter still tantrums if I dont let her watch her favorite cartoon.
With her kicking and screaming, I pick her up and leave her in the other room. If she comes out, I put her back in. I always tell her, when she's done crying, she can come out..
and I stand by the door to make sure she doesnt come out. usually, after 10 seconds, if she's not trying to come out, she'll stay in. So I can walk away. Then when she's done crying, she's either asleep or she's ready to be good.
2007-02-02 05:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother used to pick up my brother, bring him in his room and say..you can come out when you're done. Then she closed the door and left. Worked for her.
With my son, we have to ignore the tantrums....after a short while they go away.
Your daughter is looking for attention, don't give it to her and they will stop. Try one of these suggestions.
2007-02-02 06:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dealt with tantrums on many occasions, even up to 10 years old.
Best thing - let them have it in their rooms so you don't have to listen to it.
Worst thing - giving in!
Word of caution, make sure it is a legitimate tantrum and that something else is not wrong.
2007-02-03 02:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent. She may get up from time-outs but if you take her back to the time-out spot every time she gets up she will soon understand that she's not getting out of it. Be calm and explain why she has to go back to time-out the first time she gets up. The rest of the times just calmly bring her back - no matter how much she resists. She will soon understand that you're not giving in and that you are the boss.
2007-02-02 05:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I place my son in his room and let him throw his fit. When he is done and calm we talk about it. After he calms down he can have what he wants. Whatever you do try not to give her too much attention or she thinks that she is putting on a show for you.
2007-02-02 05:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy to Boys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a grandparent so I don't know if this will work for you:
Try looking her straight in the eyes and asking her if she's about done. "Are you about done"? My grandsweetie pulled this on my in a store and she also made the decision to quit throwing the fit.
2007-02-02 05:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If time-outs aren't working then lock yourself in the bathroom for as long as it takes for her to quiet down. Before you go in there tell her that you will be in there until she quiets down. Don't acknowledge her until she can speak to you in a reasonable voice.
For heavens sake, cold water......?!
2007-02-02 05:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by porkchop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the heck do you do with the cold water? i thought you were trying to lessen the severity of the tantrums, not freeze the kid!
2007-02-02 05:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by rebekah u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SAY NOTHING WORKS... EVER TRY JUST WALKING AWAY ? LET YOUR CHILD DAUGHTER THROW HER FIT , MAYBE KEEP AN EYE ON HER BUT BY ALL MEANS, DONT LET HER KNOW YOUR WATCHING HER. SOON SHE WILL REALIZE THAT HER FIT THROWING ISNT GOING TO GET YOU.
2007-02-02 06:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by georgia k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋