or do you think they mostly started out that way?
2007-02-02 05:33:49 · 12 answers · asked by nodumgys 7 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
could be, but maybe they are guitar players.
2007-02-02 13:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think so. I think perhaps they just sort of started out that way. But it's hard to say. Every person has a different experience while in the military.
I married a man (who I'm now divorcing) who was in the national guard when we got together. He was warm and caring..and then he got deployed, and it all changed. He was angry and had a short temper. I don't know if his deployment had anything to do with it or what. I'm starting to believe he got Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) from the deployment. But again, it's really hard to say.
Some people deal well with deployments and constant change, and some don't. The military definitely changes a person, but I wouldn't go so far as to say they are numbed to personal relationships. I do know men who prefer not to engage in long-term relationships with women simply because they find it difficult to juggle a relationship and their job.
2007-02-02 13:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the man and what his experiences were. Some come out better then when they went in. Others bend under the pressure. Most remain the same. Combat changes the equation. A whole new ballgame. But even that affects everyone differently. Some have no problem with it. Others let it change their lives. All are affected. Relationships depend on the person just like in the regular world.
2007-02-02 13:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rich S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being in the military doesn't numb men at all to relationships, it's mostly the woman who find it hard to get with a guy that is deployable and movable at any time by order of government
2007-02-02 13:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by fla5232 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am a vet and I will say this. It does harden you a little to everyday life. I came back alot less caring than when I went in. I mean I love my wife and my family, but I just don't get into my relationships as emotinally as I used to. Its hard to explain, but for a lot of guys i do think it numbs us.
2007-02-02 14:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by big stan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Probably started out that way. My father was in the army for 20 years and doesn't have trouble. None of his friends from his office had trouble. Actually, no one I know personally in the service has any significant emotional disconnect beyond individual personality quirks that we all have.
2007-02-02 13:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure who you're talking about. Maybe you're just attracted to unemotional men. This has certainly not been the case with my husband or with the men we have served with over the last 14 years.
2007-02-02 13:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It could, I have no experience. They might just be that way when they start, but if they are actively involved in a war, that could explain emotional disconnects.
2007-02-02 13:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by Pfo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is still a highly loving husband and devoted father.
2007-02-02 14:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by eileengallia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 10,000,000 soldiers that were deployed in WWII managed very well.
2007-02-02 13:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Bonneville P 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋