Hi,
I'm going to make this as short and sweet as possible. My boyfriend and I want to go on vacation. He wants to go to a resort where a friend's friend is getting married (he wasn't invited to the wedding). He feels it's a "the more the merrier occasion" and I think, if you aren't invited, you don't go...it's just wierd. I would rather go somewhere else, but it causes big fights between us because he thinks i just don't want to be sociable. I think it's in really poor taste to attend a resort at a wedding of people you sorta know but weren't invited to there wedding. I'd hate to think that they would feel they would have to include you in their festivities. he says, he don't have to go to all the wedding stuff, and we can just hang out with the few buddies he has while we are done there.
What's everyone's thoughts on this? Am i being paranoid? Or does this seem off to you?
2007-02-02 05:00:59 · 12 answers · asked by shopaholic2008 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He wasn't invited for a reason and he should agree with you and go somewhere else. If he doesn't let him go alone.
2007-02-02 05:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it's a little strange, I see his point. If you do decide to go to the resort at the same time as the wedding, you should really make plans to do something else- off site- during the time of the wedding. Maybe go on a tour, go fishing, rent a car and explore, whatever. That way it's clear that you're not there to crash the wedding, just to enjoy the resort while your buddies are there. (Maybe even plan to arrive the day after the wedding and hang out with your friends for a couple of days after the bride and groom have left). Whatever you do, don't crash the wedding.
2007-02-02 05:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by W. Coastal Eddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I don't want to cause friction between you and you're boyfriend but I don't go anywhere I'm not wanted or invited.
My father and Aunt got an invitation from a cousin telling them to go to the church for the wedding but not the reception years ago. They through the invitations back in the hall. Some call this childish but I saw their point. Anybody could go to a church service but you're not good enough for their reception. I let people away with stuff and mighten't have thought of doing something like this and I'm not sticking up for them nor have I agreed with every decision they've made but you know, in this case I was very proud of my Aunt and Dad.
2007-02-02 05:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems your boyfriend wants to spend your vacation hangin with his buds. It is not right to just show up at anyone's wedding uninvited so by NO means go to the wedding. If he insist you go to this resort and you want your vacation hangin with the buds maybe go the day after the wedding, so no one will think you are crashin the wedding.Suggest to your boyfriend that the two of you spend the wedding day elsewhere doing a couple thing then go to the resort.
2007-02-02 05:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you on this one. It shows bad form to attend a wedding you weren't invited to. It's called "crashing", and it's kinda rude. Going to the resort, not attending the wedding festivities and just hanging with the participants looks kinda "pitiful", like trying to waggle an invitation just because you are there.
I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it.
2007-02-02 05:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are totally right.
Granted, they may be the "more the merrier" type, but you don't know that for sure. AND, weddings make people nuts! They might normally be very personable and open, but when it comes to their wedding, they probably have a pretty specific idea of what they want. Why chance making anyone uncomfortable?
Casual parties are for crashing, not wedding festivities. Stick to your guns for their sake and yours, too.
2007-02-02 05:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by artichoke 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never show up to a wedding that you weren't invited to reguardless of if it is down the street or on an island. Your boyfriend is wrong.
2007-02-02 08:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you..Don't go
besides if the couple getting married see you guys they will feel obligated about having you attend anyway...
NEVER GO WHERE YOU ARE NOT INVITED... IT IS VERY BAD TASTE TO PUSH YOURSELF ON SOMEONE
2007-02-02 05:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go.You wouldn't want to be on the recieving end when you are asked to leave in front of all the other guests.
2007-02-02 11:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be embarassed to show up , not having been invited. I would refuse to go with him.
2007-02-02 07:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by Angela C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋