to be involved, including choosing to aileniate the rest of HIS family or not seeing his child...his girlfriend's mother is telling him that since they are not married he may not even get to go into the delivery room and the baby will have their last name...does anyone have suggestions or info on how to help?
2007-02-02 04:57:10 · 13 answers · asked by jjayg7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is 17 and she is 16. Also, we are not completely sure his girlfiends mother is playing with a full deck.
2007-02-02 05:16:15 · update #1
You need to hire a lawyer in family law.
2007-02-02 05:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old Is he? If he IS the father than he has rights... have him go to a Facilitator at Family Law Court and speak to someone immediately. The monther is only looking to protect her daughter, but its wrong he has rights! I don't care if they are not married he still is the biological father and has every right to be in the delivery room. You MUST let the hospital know that he is the father and he has every right to be in there with the mother. What is the mother saying? The mother needs to back off a little, unless he doesn't want to take responsibility for his child then he needs to stay out of the delivery room and get a good Family Law Attorney that will help because this is just the beginning for him. Email me if you need any references. What State do you live in? How old are they?
2007-02-02 05:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by anabanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are still a couple then he has every right to be involved because he is the father. Even in the delivery room. The hospital does not care if you are married or not, if he is the father then they will let him in. Her parents really don't have a say so unless she is under 18. But then again it's her rights as to what she wants. If she wants him involved then he should be. I would talk to a lawyer and see if there are any papers that can be given to her parents stating that he has legal rights as the baby's father. Good luck and I wish them well. Congratulations Auntie.
2007-02-02 05:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the baby is born go to court for full custody and get your rights established. They will demand a DNA and that is fine, your brother will have child support, but his rights will be there forever and he will get a joint order if he is a great guy. The other family can not make these rules for him and the young lady needs to start asserting her own views. If they are still a couple and she is with child, she can move out anytime she likes, the court will see her as an adult with a child of her own now, and you can have her at your place. The choices here are endless, but the most important thing is for your brother to establish his paternity. He can file now before the child is born and start paying child support now, and get receipts for everything he purchases for the baby. This show fatherly intent to raise the child.
Best of luck
Tracylyn S
2007-02-02 05:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here is how it goes one of my gf JUSt went through this she was 22 and the father of the baby was 18. One he IS allowed in the dilivery room If she (meaning girlfrend) says so no one else makes her descision when it comes to that. Two its also the mother of the childs choice as to whose last name the baby will have. The gf mother may have some say due to the fact that her daughter is only 16 but she does not have too much control over it . (its like a 6 to 4 chance the descisions will be made by the daughter as to who is in the room with her and if the baby will hvae her last name or his last name)
2007-02-02 07:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by preaciousbutton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course! She's legal, so she can date anyone who is legal, too. I'm not sure if I would -recommend- trying to get into a serious, long term relationship, because there is a decent chance that the age gap could lead to issues revolving around maturity, goals in life, priorities (20 year old may want to party, 40 year old may want to settle), etc. Plus at 40, most people are probably set in their ways, whereas someone as young as 20 will probably continue growing as a person, their views on politics, religion, etc. may change, and their taste in who they want to date may change, as well. But it really just depends on the two people involved. If they can handle the differences that may come up, if they can work through them together, if they can accept each other and love each other no matter what, if they can ignore people who will look down on them because of the age gap (and as you can see here, people WILL look down on them), then the ages do not matter, and there stands a very good chance of a life long relationship working out.
2016-05-24 05:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this lady is being quite a bitcj your brother actually has more rights to this child than she does so i would recomend that you contact child and youth services or what ever it's called in your area to check the status of his parental rights if your family can't pitch in and hire a lawyer than you should start calling around to see if you could get a pro bono case (which is free a lawyer must do so many pro bono cases per year) or you could see if he qualifys for a public defender which would be about 40 bucks to hire, your brother needs to start asap documenting all these things this lady is saying threats or what have you about being around your family this baby should have a right to be around both familys , tell your bro to not sign any paper work this family might want him to sign (they might trick him) unless he signs his rights away as a parent in front of a judge in court than he has more right to this baby than the bitcj does he can also call her doctor (ob) and find out when she is going to the doctor and just show up so he can moniter how the pregnancy is going along also he can speak with the doctor privatly and tell him of his desire to be in the deliver room and the amount of stress that this mom is putting both her daughter and him through stress is harmful in pregnancy and the doctor might have a few words for this busy body know it all about the damage that stress can put on an expectant mom so do not take this laying down and get on the phone to either the court house , lawyers or public defenders and get this taken care of
2007-02-02 05:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are not married she can give the baby her last name. He would have to petition the court to get rights to the child. No, if she does not want him in the delivery room he can not go. He should file court papers before she has the baby that way he doesn't miss any time with his child. He could petition for visitations of the unborn child and his parents can go for grandparents rights.
2007-02-02 05:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... okay, so it definitely takes 2 people to have a baby. You should definitely contact a lawyer. I know that they're expensive, but this little baby is going to be a person and part of all of your lives. S/he is worth fighting for. I think you should just lock her mother in the basement or something.... Leave her there.
2007-02-02 05:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is sure that he is the father then he has plenty of rights and since it is obvious the girls side is and are going to be total pains in the backside, your family needs to get a lawyer, so his interest es and rights of a father are not violated.
2007-02-02 05:07:10 · answer #10 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go 2 a lawyer and get advice because they don't have the rights 2 do that to him. Good Luck.
2007-02-02 05:01:40 · answer #11 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋