My long-distance boyfriend has told me that until we find a solution to our distance, he wants to take it easy with us as it is bringing him down too much. He said that I should not worry as it is only temporary. We are hopefully going to move closer to each other within the next 6 months or a year. However, I am finding it hard that he has distanced himself. He says that this is the only way he can continue and save us. We have been together for 3 years. What do you suggest?
2007-02-02 04:51:20 · 17 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Somethings afoot. No guy can think that coherently in the future. Break this one off sister. The ball has already started rolling.
2007-02-02 04:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a translation of his guy talk:
Not being able to be with someone (not necessarily you) is bringing me down too much. Why don't we take it easy (i'll date someone else while i'm here and you wait for me) as it's only temporary. Once we move close again (if it ever happens), it will be like we were never apart (at least for me...) This is the only way we can "save" us (meaning, you save yourself for me in case I come back, and I'll have fun while i'm gone!).
I'm sorry to break it to you. It doesn't sound like he wants to continue with the relationship.
Best of luck.
2007-02-02 05:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are away from each other,surely that is taking it easy. Do you travel to see him? My son was away from his girlfriend,now his wife,for several months at a time and they loved each other enough to last the course.,which was 3 years.I am suspicious,could he be getting involved with a local girl? Could you move down with him now?or do you have a good job that you don"t want to leave! See how he reacts when you say" I am coming to live where you are as soon as possible.I"f there is a long silence,or he trys to put you off,I would be tempted to use this time to find someone who really wants to commit to you.
2007-02-02 05:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to take "a break" he's just not that into this relationship...if he were, he'd do whatever it takes to make sure you stay "his"...he is wanting his "cake and to eat it too"...not good...the only way he can "continue and save us"...???? What bull! Utter bull...he will be out looking for someone else..closer to home..it appears he doesn't think you are worth having to inconvience himself for....trust me...been there...DO NOT make major life changes for someone who is not 100% into your relationship..you will be sorry....after 3 years, one of you should have made a move...if I were you, I'd tell him "thanks but no thanks" and look for someone who will really be "there" for you...in every way....if he REALLY loves you, the thought of being without you will scare him so much, he will demand one of you make a move to be together on a permant basis..and he will not let you go...however if he doesn't and is content to let the relationship ride the way it is...he's not that in to you....run, don't walk away.....
2007-02-02 05:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 08:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, someone wanting to take a break from you is never a good sign. It means he wants to see other people, and if he really cared for you he would never push you away. You don't really have a choice. Take a break. Let your mind be open to dating other guys. Hopefully you will find a person that loves you and doesn't live so far away from you. Good luck.
2007-02-02 04:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's boy talk for "It's Over". He is not that interested in you. It's hard I know, but move on, quickly. If he is not absolutely crazy about you - you are wasting your time. He shouldn't be able to even contemplate being apart from you. Go find someone who is crazy about you and settle for nothing less. You are worth being crazy about and don't you let them forget it. You get what you settle for in this life. I am not being harsh - this is the voice of experience, I am very happily settled in my one and only marriage with a man who is crazy about me. I have found that that is the most essential ingredient in a relationship. He has to be crazy about you, only than do you have a chance of success
2007-02-02 05:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care, your going to need to ride it out. Long distance things can be hard. Give it lots of thought, if its that important to you hang in there, if you think you might happier with someone closer to your location (consider other options) as far as the temp break, you may want to get more information from him as to why exactly he wants this break and take it from there. (I dont buy his current reason)
2007-02-02 05:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a relationship for 5 years In NYC, we did everything and anything to see each other, he and I were never off planes. If you both love each other, speaking from experience, then you would do whatever you could to be together. hmmm he wants to "take a break", sounds a bit suspect to me, If I were you, id tell him if he wants to take a break then he can take a hike.
2007-02-02 05:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by looby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distancing is more often than not a self-defense measure.He may have someone closer and she is suspicious of him.Or he could be gay.It is even possible that he des not see it as working out for him.You should ask.
2007-02-02 06:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋