We have been together for 3 years. For the last 2 years, it's been a long-distance relationship. He has been very unhappy about the distance recently and has been telling me how upset he is that Im not near him. Especially now he is going through quite a tough time at work and he keeps telling me how frustruating it is for him that I am far. He said that until the situation between us changes, either I will move closer to him or he will move closer to me, which we agreed we will do, he wants a temporary distance in the relationship. What do you think I should do? We are going to meet each other very soon and our aim is to move closer to each other within the next few months. But I am finding it hard to respect his wish for taking a distance from me? He says that this is the only way he can continue our relationship.
2007-02-02 04:46:59 · 4 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, this is not good. I was in a similar situation...except mine lasted for a whole lot longer and we're not together anymore. He's asking for distance because since you're not physically in the same town you both are obviously not together...so he's asking for distance so if anything happens (i.e. find someone new..if he hasn't already) it would've been clear you two were on a break so-to-speak b/c in his head at least you both discussed it. I don't think guys truly appreciate the emotional connection that us girls still feel/have even when we're long distance. They really need that connection day to day – seriously it's completely too hard over a phone.
And about the agreeing to move closer to one another. I don't know you're situation...But there should've already been some moving take place in the last 2 years. Because really the relationship you are having (been having for 3 years) it's only based off of what happened in the first initial year. The rest is trips and phone calls. No one should have to schedule a vacation to see their significant other. And at the end of it all...someone is going to have to compromise for the other person to take the pludge and actually pick up and move.
2007-02-02 05:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by gdesigner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's sounds like he's controling and thinks you should do what he tells you. And the distance is part of it. Just think if you'll would have been married. And Also what will happen if he found someone else and then he would use you. Just think why is it so frustrating for him that you not there or close to him. It's not love because if it was he would be visiting you every chance he gets instead of complaining.
2007-02-02 04:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is asking your permission to take a temporary girlfriend, whether it's for sex or just to have someone he can share with intimately about his problems. Only you can decide how you feel about that but it sounds to me like your relationship is not that good and I would think twice about moving.
2007-02-02 04:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel about the situation.
2007-02-02 04:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋