until September to do so. I want him to be happy but feel he has wasted a whole term and it is very expensive has anyone been inthis situation and what should I do to try and support him through this.Please help.
2007-02-02 04:28:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if hes unhappy you should let him change would you prefer him to be miserable
2007-02-04 20:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in shock. Don't worry. Lots of uni students change their courses. It will be ok. Take a deep breath and look at the options he has.
He is not alone and neither are you. My daughter has just changed her course. It was in the first couple of weeks but I nearly had heart failure! He should be able to get some advice from his tutors regarding a swift change. Most Uni's are really good as it is not uncommon.
At least he still wants to continue at Uni. You sound like a really caring mum. He is lucky to have you behind him, even if you are kicking him up the backside all the way ha ha!
It will all work itself out. Take care x
2007-02-02 12:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm taking the point up about it being expensive - presumably you are funding or subsidising this course for him and I can understand your concern. However, your son presumably chose his course and has now decided to change ... what if he is not happy with the new choice, what if he decides to change again? I applaud your decision to support him and it is a difficult decision to be in, but perhaps you should ask him to bear some of the financial burden on this so that he realises the consequences of this and won't take it lightly.
Sorry to sound like a grumpy bear on this but, realistically, he has chosen a course and should make some contribution to the costs of changing his mind.
2007-02-02 13:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that he has had the guts to tell you rather than spend the whole 3 or 4 years and then decide its not what he wants to do. Some youngsters are better with their hands and find themselves in uni because thats what their mates did. Let him work out exactly what it is that makes his heart sing then back him all the way. It hasn't been a waste, he learned early on what's not for him.
Good luck
2007-02-02 13:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it is very important that he's doing the right course. He should go and talk to his tutors. That's what I did when I was at uni. I discussed changing my subject and found out as much as I could about the other subject I wanted to do instead. In the end, I kept my subject going.
Above all though, if he still wants to change I would support him.
Uni. work and stress is hard enough when you DO enjoy your subject.
Hope that helps.
2007-02-02 12:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dropped out in my first year at uni. Same time of year.
If he wants to change course let him. Its good he has realised early its not for him.
He will regret carrying on with a course he dislikes otherwise.
Its only a term. Since sept? I wouldnt worry about it. Its not like he dropped out in year 2.
Maybe he can get some work experience in the meantime. Work till sept.
Let him do what he thinks as he will resent you otherwise, just make sure he has thought it through.
2007-02-02 12:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by uk.housewife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the course and the university. Is the course your son wants to do similar to the course he was studying? If so many universities may let him change course, and transfer the credits. Alternatively, if the course is completely different to the one he was doing, ask him to have a word with his tutors on what can be done. Since he's in the 1st term of his 1st year, it shouldn't be too bad.
2007-02-02 12:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by cane_my_bottom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him change, he'll only resent you and drop out completely if he stays on a course he hates. All kids do this, most of my friends in uni changed course. He should keep up till september though cos he can transfer his marks and it looks better for him not to disappear from school for 8 months.
2007-02-02 15:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by jezza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better he realise now this it is not what he wants to do than stick it out only to get a job he is miserable doing.
As long as he understands life is not a free ride and he will need to work to support himself and put some money by for next year, he will be fine.
Just do what comes naturally, give your son the love encouragement and emotional support he needs and trust that he will make the right decision.
2007-02-02 12:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by tigger_pooh_on_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, don't worry... your son will be able to take his credits from his first year/term of uni to his next course...
his first course of action should be to talk to his course director and work out what's going wrong with his present course...
he then needs to work out what course he wants to be on.. approach that course director either in his present or new university and find out if its possible to switch...
chances are, the credits he's got so far will enable to transfer directly onto the new course, thus not wasting any time etc...
bear in mind he picked his course from a catalogue, the prospectus... it doesn't always work out, like buying clothes, sometimes they just don't fit or look right, and thus you try again.. don't be too hard on him, this will only increase the pressure he's under.. what he needs now is somebody who'll listen to him and help him make the right choice.. let him talk without prejudice... and hopefully you'll help him make the right choice...
the main thing is that he talks to somebody as soon as possible and tells them about his problems... good luck..
2007-02-04 19:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by muppet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All college kids do this, Let him but tell him he has to still work on the acedemic portion of his course so he can transfer any credits.
2007-02-02 12:32:08 · answer #11 · answered by **Red** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋