my daughter complains about being made fun of at school what can I do to help?

Answer 1

tell her it's not what they call her, it's what she answers to

poor baby i hate when they feel left out

give her a big hug and let her know that kids are kids and as she gets older, it will get easier

Answer 2

I work with kids. Telling the teacher really doesnt help and usually makes it worse for the child. Use tactics such as iv noticed kids with nice head bands (big flower ones), nice hair clips, nice pink coats etc will usually make kids talk to her. What I do when a child is being picked on and the teacher cant do anything about it is I tell the child to hang around with the bigger kids usually juniors. This will only work if the child is below the age of 7. Big kids usually love little kids and play with them. When other kids see they will want to play with her. Although this idea seems stupid it has worked with many kids that I have worked with. Also invite some kids over such as a really good birthday party which is different so all the kids will want to come etc. kids kingdom, barney bizzarce, charlie chalks

Answer 3

Be sure to listen to her, and support her feelings. Even if she wants to beat the kids up, recognize her feelings, and just gently reason with her - "that would make u happy for a moment, but there are consequences...".

Whatever it is that theyre teasing her about, help her to be more confident about it. Like, if she has a big nose - tell her that its her nose, and she's not the only one, but she has to love herself. Maybe point out something that you had to learn to accept and love about yourself.

Focus on how she feels about whatever theyre teasing her about. Is it bad grades? Being overweight? What's causing the bad grades or over-eating? Help her find a tutor, and exercise with her.

As far as the school goes (because you dont say how bad the situation is) - you might want to schedule a meeting with her teacher to discuss it.

God Bless!!

Answer 4

Reinforce positive self-esteem at home and consistently not just when she is complaining about school. Also if it's something serious or threatening to her with other students then you may want to talk with the school. School counselors could set up things with the children and parents of both children or at least be on the look out for your child.

Answer 5

Talk to the teacher and stay on it.
If it doesnt stop go to the principal.
demand a meeting with all the parents.
let them know that You will not tolerate Your child being teased
it interferes with her learning at school.
tell them You will call a meeting everytime.
And that You will persue legal action if it doesnt stop.
I was teased everyday. I didnt want to go to school.
I would puposely get into a asthma attack to stay home.
My kids got teased. I put My foot down and it worked.

We move alot because We are military. I never have to go to the school. My kids tell the entire class. My Mom is mean
If We fight She calling the cops on everybody.
EVERY KID HAS THE RIGHT TO LEARN IN PEACE AND HARMONY.
Its not really bad kids...Its bad parents!!!

Answer 6

This happened with my daughter as well. I helped her to understand why kids make fun of other kids (their own insecurity and need for attention and "approval" by peers, and the fact that since they themselves are insecure, they pick on others who seem vulnerable in an attempt to bring them down and make them feel insecure as well). We did a lot of role playing and I helped her to learn good ways to respond to being picked on, like laughing at her own self when she makes a mistake or stumbles, quick clever comebacks to specific comments made at her, etc... since the kids picking on her would rather see a negative reaction or any sign that they might be bothering her or intimidating her. She had some problems all through her school years, even in high school, due to mild autism (asperger's syndrome)but we continued to work through them so she could learn proper responses without lowering herself and showing disrespect for herself by behaving negatively, giving the other kids just what they want. I continued to help her to understand why kids behave this way, because I wanted to instill in herself a type of pity for those kids who are obviously hurting inside in some ways, and I wanted her to learn to not take it seriously. My daughter is still very sensitive, mainly due to her autism, but I think this approach has helped her a lot. The key is to make it a priority to really help her through it. Feel her hurt. Be the wise adult and help her understand why it's happening and how to not take it so personally, whatever it takes to actually get her to understand and hurt less. It certainly isn't her fault that they are picking on her.

Answer 7

Talk first with the teacher and ask her to watch closely to see if children are teasing her. If your child is still complaining about it, go to the school counselor so they can impliment the bully program. If this does not work, go to the school principal. If this does not work then go to the school superintendant, and then finely go before the school board, but likely you will get results just by talking to the teacher and counselor.

Answer 8

I am a recently retired elem teacher. A lot goes on, on the playground, that teachers in the classroom never know about, I think one of the best ways to see is to visit at lunch recess, surprise so you can watch what goes on when no one knows who is watching. If the abuse takes place elsewhere, try to be able to actually go and see what is going on. Of course you have to check in at the office, but your own "seeing it" will give you a lot of insight, keeps the problem clearly defined.

Answer 9

I'd encourage her to take up a sport or extracurricular activity. That way she will gain confidence and meet some people. If she is overweight, and that's why they're making fun of her, this would also be a good way for her to get in shape.

Answer 10

When my son tells me that someone made fun of him at school I usually respond with something like "well they must not like themselves very much if they have to put other people down to feel better - there's absolutely nothing wrong with you."

Answer 11

If its something you can change like, ugly glasses or something like that maybe you can get her a new whatever it is that they are making fun of. My dad used to tell me that I AM WHA I THINK I AM . So if I think im ugly than I am ugly. Tell her not to care what others think just what SHE thinks...

You could also try to come up with some comebacks when they make fun of her. Yo mama ! haha