we been going out for 5 months. i trust her in every way, but this is the first she ask me if i will get upset if she attends to these kind of parties. Should i be upset? Please HELP me....
2007-02-02 04:09:24 · 22 answers · asked by IceMan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've already stated that you trust her. If you think that she is just going to have fun with her friends, then don't be upset. I went to a few frat parties in my college days because I had friends that didn't want to go alone. As long as there is complete trust in the relationship, then you should not be upset.
2007-02-02 04:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Everyone is going to slam you and say "Trust her if you love her" but I think they are missing your point.
If this is the first time she has asked you if you will be upset if she does something, they maybe this is also the first time she is thinking about doing something that might upset you. Talk to her calmly and find out WHY she asked this time. If she tells you she is afraid she will get drunk and have sex, then you have a whole lot to talk about. If she tells you she will be good but wanted to check with you because frat parties have a "reputation" then you are back on the "trust your woman" track. But don't just ignore her - she's sending you a signal and you should talk.
2007-02-02 12:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, Dude don't be upset but If you really trust her you not have to ask this question. Think about it, is it that you are afraid of what she might do? If that is the case then you do not trust her. Let her go to the parties and maybe even go to some with her. Don't stay home scared of what she is or isn't doing. LIVE IT UP.
2007-02-02 12:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by copter_180 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i've read all ur questions about her...u need to break up with her..its only been 5 months...shes more than likely gonna cheat on u...find someone else and stop worrying so much...p.s. i recently graduated from college and when i started college i had a boyfriend who i had been with for almost 4 yrs...we broke up in my 1st semester..and no its not ok if she goes to frat parties...well it is if ur there or if she doesnt have a boyfriend
2007-02-02 15:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by ☺ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know of only one girl that went to frat parties that I didn't regard as a slut. Go to one of them with her, hang with a few frat guys and form your own opinion of what goes on there. Frat parties would be a deal breaker for me and my serious g/f.
2007-02-02 12:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Wes 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am assuming that this is a long distance relationship?
Five months is not a long time in terms of a relationship.
However, five months is a very long time in terms of not having sex. I think your girlfriend is telling you she needs to get serviced. She may in fact already be banging another guy who coincidentally is a member of the fraternity that is throwing the party.
If this isn't a long distance relationship, why don't you go with her to the party?
2007-02-02 12:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you trust her, let her go. Going to a party does not mean that she will cheat on you. If she loves you, respects you and cares for you, she won't cheat.
I have gone to many parties without my boyfriend. He is fine with this, we trust one another. I have never cheated and am thankful that he allows me to go.
Getting mad and not letting her go will just cause conflict. I have friends whom have boyfriends like this. Very controlling and very unhealthy. They have horrible, untrustworthy relationships. They constantly fight.
2007-02-02 12:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you truely trust her and she is asking if that is all right with you then she is putting the ball in your court. She is letting you know that she wants to go and wants you to know about it. If you trust her and know that she cares for you then I don't see any harm in her going to those kind of parties. She is telling you because she isn't going to go and do something or she would have kept it hidden, right?
2007-02-02 12:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Come on, Iceman....ain't you never seen College Girls Gone Wild.Trust is one thing, but beer bongs are another!
2007-02-02 12:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pimpstick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be upset...
She should not attend these parties without you...
2007-02-02 12:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋